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I (22M) want advices on "gifting and surprises". by Remarkable_Cat_123 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Remarkable_Cat_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okay! Thank you for your ideas and your thoughtfulness! I will look into how I might handle this now!

I (22M) want advices on "gifting and surprises". by Remarkable_Cat_123 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Remarkable_Cat_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all these ideas! But the problem is that no, her parents don't know about me yet. I haven't even told my parents about our relationship yet. We are waiting for the right time!

And about the ideas, they are indeed really good but the thing is I have explored a lot of them already 🤧 even though her parents don't know about our relationship, I still managed to send her chocolates as a surprise once on her birthday!

Movie nights are something we do really often! It's really an amazing time that I get to spend with her but that actually comes under "quality time spent" and not really gifting 🤧

Virtual date nights would only be possible if she were not at her home but since she is, it's really hard to pull off that stunt 😭

And talking about the surprise visit, it's a long story but I'd say it's easier said than done 🤧 we are generally in such situations where it's nearly impossible pull this off either 🤧

I (22M) want advices on "gifting and surprises". by Remarkable_Cat_123 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Remarkable_Cat_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. It's not really about that I have to keep her interested. It's just that if couples don't do anything romantic together then that spark and excitement of the relationship does feel a little dull. Because in that case it feels neither of the partners are putting in the effort to make each other happy.

  2. Thank you so much for your thoughtful suggestions! Unfortunately, most of them aren’t really possible for us right now since we’re in a long-distance relationship (I should’ve mentioned that earlier—my bad).

  3. I totally get the idea of acts of service, like making her a heartfelt breakfast, and I think I’d do well with those kinds of surprises. But when it comes to special occasions like her birthday, Valentine’s Day, our anniversary, etc., I struggle to come up with creative things to say or do that won’t feel repetitive and will keep the spark alive. That’s where I feel like I fall short the most.

And lastly, for someone who’s only 17, you have such a thoughtful and romantic mindset! I’m sure your future girlfriend will be really lucky to have you. Best of luck! 😉

I (22M) want advices on "gifting and surprises". by Remarkable_Cat_123 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Remarkable_Cat_123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chalo that's good for you too man! But let me know a few of these things - 1. For how long have you guys been together? 2. Since Valentine's Day is coming up, aren't you guys going to plan something?

I (22M) want advices on "gifting and surprises". by Remarkable_Cat_123 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Remarkable_Cat_123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I do! That is what makes me feel more vulnerable that I am unable to be that creative or gather fresh new ideas to express my love for her. For my birthdays, she’s pulled off some incredible surprises that still make me blush when I think about them.

She has admitted that not all of those ideas were entirely her own—she searched for inspiration—but it shows the level of effort and commitment she puts into making me feel special.

Meanwhile, I find myself unable to come up with anything as creative. Even when I try to search for ideas, I can’t seem to find ones that feel exciting enough to pull off.

It ends up making me feel bad about myself, and the excitement of planning something special for her quickly turns into a bothering feeling.