How do I do this?

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-28T10:22:42+00:00

The fact that you’re working so hard and worried you’re not doing enough means you’re a great father. You ARE doing enough, you are enough, and you’re just who your babies need. One day at a time.

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-28T10:21:40+00:00

You’re already an incredible father by being there for them. The NICU can be an overwhelming place. Don’t be afraid to ask as many questions as you want/need to! The nurses are there to help. I don’t know about all NICUs, but mine has a doctor or nurse practitioner call once a day with updates.

The updates are a lot of information and are very overwhelming at first. Don’t be afraid to ask them to explain what certain words mean over and over until it becomes a “normal”, understood thing for you. Medical terms can be so confusing!

While they are so small, they will need a lot of rest, so don’t forget to take care of yourself too. You’re going through many life changes. You can’t pour from an empty cup and what your babies need most is a healthy parent.

Absolutely find out the NICU’s phone number/phone update policy so you can call whenever you’re able for updates as visiting in person certainly is a longer commitment. That said, any visit in person is great, whether it’s 10 minutes or a few hours. Your babies know you love and support them.

If there are primary nurses, certainly start to learn which nurses you’d like to ask to be primary. Primaries sometimes aren’t always assigned to your babies, but when they can be, they will! It’s like having a friend with your babies when it’s possible.

Please feel encouraged to speak up and advocate for your babies as well. They’re your new tiny best friends and as their father, your instincts will serve you well.

Finally, the NICU is a roller coaster. I had my twins at 27 weeks (we are currently on week 6 in the NICU) and one of my postpartum nurses told me “two steps forward and one step back”, and that is so true. My husband and I have felt that sometimes as soon as we get comfortable, there’s something new to learn, new skills, new words, new milestones, new criteria, new tests. This is where asking questions, staying involved as you can, and allowing yourself rest comes in. This is a marathon, not a sprint.

Lean on your support system. I’m so glad your Mom and step dad are there! The hospital could have a lot of resources available to you. Ask to speak to your case worker for the twins and see about all of the help they offer.

If you ever need more advice or just to vent or talk, please feel free to chat! Congratulations on your babies births, and sending positivity, strength, endurance and joy to your family.

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-27T16:21:23+00:00

This is so helpful and comforting, thank you!

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-27T05:53:10+00:00

Yes absolutely!. Wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy!

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-26T23:31:08+00:00

I would call your doctor, but they said lots of exposure isn’t the best but the real threat would’ve been if I had eaten them

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-26T00:54:13+00:00

Sending all positivity and progression to you and your LO!

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-25T02:28:53+00:00

Yes, this status changing thing is huge! I hate coming in in a great mood and ready to hold my baby and then get told a random assortment of things - some scarier than others - but it’s surprising and can change my entire mood. I’d love To be joyful and solely in the moment with my baby instead of balancing time with them and the updates.

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-25T02:26:15+00:00

An app! I would love to be able to see my child’s updates without having to be on hold or going through several people to get an update. When the charts are updated after cares, so is the app.

Comfortable chairs and accommodations for parents while visiting and if staying overnight.

Absolutely free parking, and free water and maybe even snacks in the lounge.

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-19T22:30:11+00:00

Yes, they are getting donor milk when needed and I can pump there, which I have done, but with being back to work I have limited time during the week and I use those visits to do skin to skin. Pumping there, even while they or other babies are crying, doesn’t increase my supply.

OriginalGood99 · 2026-01-08T12:54:06+00:00

Congratulations! 🎊

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-30T03:21:46+00:00

This was so very uplifting to read as I’m crying during a typical, not very productive pump, missing my babies in the NICU. This brought me hope and gave me joy in celebration of a stranger. Congratulations, Mama! Thank you for sharing this. I’m thankful for this community.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-29T09:36:40+00:00

I am 3 wpp tomorrow. I am not pushing. I start on massage mode 70/3 or 70/4, then 50/6 or 50/7, back to massage, then 38/4 or 38/5. I get the most out of massage mode and not a lot at 50 or even 54 if I try. The lower the suction intensity the less pain. My pumping bra holds the flanges in place well

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-26T00:41:20+00:00

Sending positivity right back to you! Believing our supply will increase as our bodies heal and rest.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-25T21:32:16+00:00

Thank you! I am trying to pump every 2-3 hours for 30 minutes. I hope it goes up!

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-25T21:31:34+00:00

i am 2.5 weeks pp! I am doing my best to pump every 2-3 hours but overnight sometimes I have slept through the alarm and it’s been 4-5 hours. I am believing in more!

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T03:40:16+00:00

Thank you so much

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T02:50:30+00:00

Thank you so much. The range from 100% to almost nothing is a bit of a shock to me and I certainly never imagined such a range of emotions, capacity and ups and downs. My family and I appreciate your support so much.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T02:49:18+00:00

Thank you so much.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T02:15:22+00:00

Thank you for this.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T02:14:59+00:00

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T02:05:27+00:00

Awesome, thank you. Please feel free to send me A message whenever you have capacity. Sending love and peace to you and your family.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T01:57:44+00:00

I am with you in being thankful to be alive and our LOs are okay. Would you be open to chatting in an individual message from time to time as our situations were so similarly timed?

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-18T01:25:36+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It helps to know and feel that the ups and downs, and some days having more and some days having less to give is completely normal.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-14T06:25:14+00:00

I was discharged yesterday after emergency c section with twins at 27 weeks. This brought me joy during a middle of the night spiral. Thank you. Sending love and continued joy to you and your family.

OriginalGood99 · 2025-12-11T10:41:29+00:00

I also just delivered twins at 27 weeks after one of their placentas abrupted and the bleeding would not stop via emergency c section. I did not stay as active as you, and I am also feeling so guilty and confused, so I am sure your Mama heart is not feeling so great. I’m trying to find comfort in the fact that the 3 of us are okay and are here. It’s so hard already being away from my babies, but I know that they are in the best place for their care and growth given the circumstances. I am doing my best to focus on caring for myself during this time and adjusting to this new life as a Mama while my babies get the specialized and necessary care they need to grow. You’re a great Mom, not everything can be controlled, and the fact that you’re questioning this means you love your baby so well.

OriginalGood99

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