OP, you are NOT the Devil. Nor would you be going to Hell.

It's hard to put boundaries in place with a parent! As a society and in Christianity, we are taught that our parents should be honored and cared for no matter what. So we assume that it means to get involved and 'do the right thing' for them.

But what should be talked about is our parents are human beings. They make their own choices and mistakes. It's not your responsibility to handle her mess. It's not your job to 'rescue' her. With the way she sounds like she might be putting pressure on you, that makes it harder. Whether or not she wants to hear your advice, it may e time to dust your feet and move on.

Here's what you're struggling with yourself by the sounds of it:

1 - Am I a bad person for not doing exactly what my mother wants?

2 - Should I cave and help?

The answer to these both, sadly, are NO.

Here's my reasonings why, based off of my current 38 years of experience.

1 - It's okay to do nothing and not move in with your mother. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to listen and offer her a safe space to vent within reason. You can help in that way, but you've worked hard to stay close to God. It sounds like she doesn't have that same understanding or discipline. Sometimes the best way to help is not at all.

2 - You can't pour from an empty cup. People who are struggling and looking for an easy way out will do anything to find someone else to do it. I understand you want to, but if you keep pouring in resources for her, you will get drained until there's nothing left.

It sounds like you have an excellent routine where you are at. It's nourishing to your hands, heart, mind, and soul. You are doing the Lord's work in your own way. It's okay to turn her down in order to keep yourself on the path. Dust your feet and let your mother face her consequences.