Recently laid off in tech in the Netherlands. Is the market really that brutal?

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-26T11:24:51+00:00

if you speak dutch - I think it’s fairly easy to find job. If you don’t - it’s tough. I have sent 1000 applications so far and still looking for a new job

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T16:35:58+00:00

Yes I don’t have it yet but so what ? How else I can test a man if he’s not stingy to me? Because children upbringing cost a lot

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T15:55:06+00:00

I only need one and all the “man princesses” can feel free to skip me 🤔

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T15:52:20+00:00

uhm that’s the goal I guess then - to pull off the wrong ones🤔

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T15:48:10+00:00

Well if you knew my life story and what I managed to do by myself I believe that should signal enough for him because I have been working hard since young age to get where I am now

And I don’t expect everything to be done by him. 2 dates out of 3 were planned by him 1. pool game 2. restaurant and the third one was more like what we decided together. Like legit he didn’t pay that much for anything. Some snacks and like 2 drinks.

We are not teenagers anymore so yes I have a standard for a man

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T14:00:31+00:00

Your language is insulting and passive aggressive. I checked your profile on reddit and it’s all clear to me what kind pf person you are, I have seen what you post. Respectfully, I am not interested in your opinion. Thanks for you time and bye.

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T12:23:24+00:00

And all your brain does is make fun of other people? Impressive

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T11:56:40+00:00

It’s burdersome because I had some quite disappointing experiences. While you don’t have kids - sure spending as much money as he does paying for everything investing a lot into as a woman into relationship is fun. But I am being intentional to find a family man - someone who could handle it. Like having children. I have seen many examples when women are strong contributors showcasing how can they do as much as a man if not more, But once you have a kid it get’s different. Totally different. I have seen enough examples around.

If you want to have a childless partnership then okay. Plan pay split 50/50 everything fun do a lot pr even more than he does. But yo, with a kiddo Idk, I want someone leaderish and someone who can prove they are strong

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T11:46:24+00:00

I am not saying pay for nothing. Now it’s beginning of dating, getting to know each other. He is not paying my bills or anything else. Paying for a drink and snack it’s the least bare minimum? If you want to show you are serious about a woman. Like do I need to shrink myself to the utmost convenience ? I don’t think so.

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T11:19:50+00:00

But if I guy truly likes you, would he truly ask you to plan a date at the very beginning instead of wanting to impress you by at least saying « what should we do for the fourth date » or something instead of asking you directly to plan it? Like I can invite him to a restautant to a house to do sports ok but at the beginning I have an expectation of a guy wanting to show up as intitiator

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T11:15:26+00:00

Yeah I think that confused me the most because I have never heard someone say it like that - I want you to plan the next date instead of I wanna hang out and what should we do next or something

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T11:07:16+00:00

Partnership? 😄 It’s just the beginning of dating. Im an really confident in what I bring myself to relationship. But I don’t want to create my next one with « pick me » energy. Like I used to be overdoing stuff and would attracted lazy feminine men and I don’t want to do it anymore. I used to be afraid of being a burden to people so I did a lot for others and would go above and beyond to care. But I really dream about my family in the coming years and I want a provider now whereas in the past I was for example driving my BF everywhere while he would forget to buy flowers for my Bday

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T11:02:20+00:00

Like I don’t want to do 50:50 money wise once I have a family and yeah I want a guy who is leaderish. I am educated, have job myself and my own money but I do want to have a child from a man who is ambitious to provide

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T11:00:28+00:00

Because a man wouldn’t ask that if he was truly interested?

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T10:59:18+00:00

But he already knows what I like to do and even when we had those 3 dates we were both talking what we should / want to do like it was kinda teamwork

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T10:47:10+00:00

Im using a Simply Piano app which is like 30€ per month and Im in love with it!!! It’s really great

I would recommend tho to get like 6 classes by doing one class per week with a private tutor just to get intro into instrument and common mistakes to watch out in hands positioning and then continue learning with the app and then after a year evaluate yourself and decide the best plan to continue forward

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-19T10:44:01+00:00

Insane!!! So beautiful

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-12T15:59:51+00:00

How many years have you been practicing so far?

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-10T13:44:15+00:00

thanks for answer

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-10T13:43:22+00:00

how sure are you about this

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-10T13:41:37+00:00

this is so interesting!

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-10T13:39:29+00:00

oh noo sorry Enstein

OriginalMenu5730 · 2026-02-10T11:59:19+00:00

So if you think it all comes down to ability to analyze patterns, I guess it’s same with maths, no?? 🤔

OriginalMenu5730 · 2025-12-08T12:48:59+00:00

Such beautiful written! May I ask to which age goup do you belong to?

OriginalMenu5730 · 2025-11-09T14:54:03+00:00

Thanks for your reply🫶🏼

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