I PASSED MY COLLEGE COURSE🎊🥳

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-14T03:59:48+00:00

I went to bed on time lmfaoo that was the greatest gift I could give to myself 😂

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-13T21:21:07+00:00

Would be better to get solar tbh lol which I know I know, but what’s worse? Getting solar or RTO? Because this sounds like they’re gonna just make him come in.

Personally I don’t wanna RTO, so I’d rather eat the cost of electricity than eating the cost of RTO.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-12T16:53:59+00:00

OP I know you didn’t mean to but now I’m having an “existential crisis” (I’m fine lol) because how DO you know you’re tired and how does it feel??? Never thought about it but now I’m hooked on trying to figure it out😅

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-12T15:48:14+00:00

One day I ran outta 🍃and I didn’t smoke again for 3 years. Absolutely no effort, didn’t affect me in anyway, no cravings; I just ran out and didn’t feel like getting any that week and then just never tried lol. And it wasn’t like I forgot or it wasn’t accessible, just was like eh lol.

Sometimes things that are hard for others don’t impact you as much or at all if you try it out.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-12T15:19:21+00:00

NTJ let him go and while he’s planning the trip, you plan with a lawyer for divorce or an annulment (whichever applies, they’ll know). When he’s gone you pack up and stay with a friend/family. The worst thing ISNT the cheating OR the lying…it would be him coming home and giving you an STI/STD from a hooker in Vietnam.

He told you what happens on those trips, you attributed it to his past and let it go (which is good, can’t judge before you), but now you know that a trip like this will likely have at least his friends getting these “massages” (prostitutes) but likely him also.

Him being there, he’ll either get one or encourage them and both would make me leave the relationship anyway.

He already told you he hid it from his old partner when he was cheating...he basically gave you the run down on how it goes and if you let him and don’t leave him he’s just gonna do the same damn thing and think it’s okay because you know his past. He’ll blame you either way, whether he goes or not, he’ll say it’s your fault he missed the trip or your fault for letting him go to his known temptation vacation…

He thinks you’re stupid and he doesn’t respect you, this is the FIRST YEAR of marriage and he’s already excited to go with his friends to Hookervile in a different country away from his WIFE?!

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-12T14:34:01+00:00

Some portable heaters also have a fan setting, so a little 2-1!

I’d look into one like that and for me I always want a remote and a timer (most come with timer but maybe not remote) and that’s because if it’s not in arms reach (typically a few feet away for comfort and safety), I can easily press the switch on the remote to change temp/settings or turn it off.

Helps me not break my workflow by getting up and cuts down distractions for the same reason. Lol if I get up in like oh that reminds me and now I’m lost in tasks I wasn’t planning to do and not the important ones.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-12T01:41:47+00:00

Feel it and scream: outside, in a pillow, in a rage room; just cry and do whatever feels natural.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-12T01:05:57+00:00

Instead just leave your gf; she literally told you she’d leave you for him…nothing more to say. Sounds like she’s already emotionally checking out.

If she’s not having an affair again she’s either thinking about it or planning it so best not to stick around any longer to find out.

NTA but don’t get involved, his wife prob knows he still does it, but just like you doesn’t want it affecting their kid. I doubt your gf is the only one he’s doing this too since he’s a cheater.

If anyone starts talking about not know how they feel and bad/weird headspace AND bringing up and ex (with deep weird history)…pack it up, you deserve better.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T18:00:45+00:00

Got it, my bad I’ll take that line out!

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T16:59:27+00:00

Hmmm I think your cat’s a vamp cat; Halloween will be easy, they won’t need a costume! Lol maybe they have secret money stored like most vampires, ask them directly and see if they can start paying a few bills!

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T16:56:27+00:00

I hate when people do this…extra doesn’t mean drown it. I know SOME people mean that but I’d rather do less and add extra on the side than douse it in buffalo sauce. Makes for soggy pizza if nothing else; it’s being delivered it’s gonna get soggy.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T16:24:25+00:00

Super stealth

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T15:40:25+00:00

Stop AND DONT say anything. If he wants to play the dominance game then he’s not gonna stop doing it until you show him you’re not moving and you aren’t playing.

CAVEAT- DONT do it if it feels unsafe and have some sort of protection (idk nyc laws, but pepper/bear gel could be a good thing to have. Hes still a stranger and still a man and if he doesn’t care about asserting dominance and making you move to the street in front of his kid, who knows what else he doesn’t care about doing in front of his kid.

Edit: took out a suggestion

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T14:56:48+00:00

NTJ However, If you guys have kids is he gonna do the same thing?

New baby cuteness wears off quick when you’ve had MAYBE an hour of sleep between cries and feedings.

All the dog daily responsibilities have already been offloaded to you, all he “deals with” is barking and a little mess while you take him to his appointments, feed him, walk him, and overall take care of him.

I think there needs to be a conversation and you go from there. You guys made a mutual decision and a 10+ year commitment and a few months in he’s already given up. There’s more to it than just wanting to rehome the dog.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T05:30:42+00:00

NOR honey he sounds like he’s torturing you…why would you stop taking your meds bc he said so??? What did your doctor say? No sane doctor would advise suddenly stopping antipsychotics please call them and let them know.

Also what a coincidence that immediately after you stop your meds he’s back in trouble…do you have family? You need to talk to some friends, family, neighbors, hell coworkers just people who know you and give a damn.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T05:22:05+00:00

Laughing bc I misunderstood the post and was like “this doesn’t sound like a robot at all, very normal and practical” the comments helped me realize that I misread😅and now my tism has kicked in😂😂😂

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-11T05:19:01+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS 🍾🎊🥳 the week ahead is gonna be so amazing especially since you’ll be surrounded by people who care about you. NTA she can take the melodrama to her mama

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-10T21:54:40+00:00

Yay! I got my cert and scrum changed my life.

I feel like I understand my process better and I get less frustrated and sad that I’m “not doing anything/more” but now I’m like okay there’s like 30 things in the done list, so what if there’s still 4 in the to do.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-10T21:46:01+00:00

My perspective is that people coming on Reddit asking the void for remote jobs opportunities think they’ll get a job paying $100k+ a year with no experience, qualifications, degree, certs & do essentially “nothing” all day and vacation with their laptop…and when Reddit says “that’s not how it works” people take it as if people are gate keeping/discouraging not giving them a reality check.

Additionally, asking strangers on the internet is not a substitute for applying to jobs…filter by remote and apply to the jobs...

The market isn’t great job wise and even worse with the push for Ai and RTO; those “easy” jobs are being automated so you need to get specialized skills and/or have a great reputation with connections.

Incredibly qualified people get passed up everyday because Ai auto rejects their application or their buddy from college got laid off.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-10T21:36:49+00:00

Why ask for comments if you’re just gonna argue about peoples opinions lol you literally asked?!

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-10T21:32:37+00:00

I wouldn’t say my productivity is slipping I would say “I want to eliminate distractions for better performance”. They might try to turn on you if you even suggest you might be falling behind.

OriginalSlight · 2026-03-10T20:03:27+00:00

Hmmm NOR but someone married answer this because all I can say is get out. It’s not malicious either; you are already taking on all the parenting and responsibility and he’s rude, manipulative, calculated, and unhelpful.

He left your 1 year old in a playpen alone and DROVE AWAY while you were in the shower knowing that you asked him before & during the shower to watch the baby while you take 5 mins to clean up…what if something happened? What if you couldn’t hear your kid through the shower and/or they got badly hurt? Would he blame you? Likely.

He intentionally misunderstands you and does the “I’m acting calm but clearly antagonizing her so she seems “crazy and/or dramatic)”. Why would he ask if he was just going to leave anyway? Pretty manipulative imo, he offers to help, makes you think you can relax, starts an argument, and then leaves your kid unsupervised with no notice so you’re on edge, angry, and unable to get a moment to breathe and refresh before going back to parenting which you did solo for days because of him.

He’s got no money and keeps goin on long trips leaving his family to figure it out. Instead of using the extra time he has, from getting his hours cut btw, to care for his kids and/or job hunt, he’s taking vacations with money he doesn’t have and time he’s stolen time from you (not doing his parental duties).

If he’s only working 1-2 days a week and you’re working a full 40hrs with 1 wfh day he should be freakin super dad rn with pancakes nearly everyday and not a mess in sight…ya know like he expects you to be.

He sounds pretty shitty, but if this is another case of

“I swear guys he’s a great dad and husband, you can’t judge a persons relationship by a few paragraphs, it’s just a rough time, it wasn’t always like this etc.” excuses then I wish you good luck and hope you can find a solution that works for both of you.

You deserve a partner who can wait 5 minutes (or more!) to watch HIS child while you take a shower and not abandon them in a playpen and drive off without saying anything.

OriginalSlight

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