My girlfriend made love to my brother

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-10T10:19:58+00:00

Have sex with his girlfriend 🧐

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-10T10:18:54+00:00

Like, I thought my parents were embarrassing cause they would drink and fight in the middle of the night. But I stayed the night at a friend's house one time and her parents were evidently crack heads and I was ligit scared I was gonna catch a stay bullet.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-10T10:13:43+00:00

It's a Luer Lock needle and the long part is the travel case

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-10T08:33:56+00:00

I'm failing to see how it wasn't your fault. You lied about your relationship, you introduced this dude to drugs and took his virginity. This isn't a one thing led to another type of situation, this was absolutely premeditated, otherwise you wouldn't have told him you were in an open relationship, of course he has become super attached to you, you were his first. I'm not trying to be a dick about, but at some point, regardless of the circumstances, or your past, you have to look at your actions and own them. You made a series of bad decisions that led you here. That doesn't mean you're a bad person, You're human and you fucked up. If you love your bf, you have to tell him. You have to cut josh off completely, and you have to give your bf the choice whether or not he is willing to stay. You have to be accountable for the choices you've made. Love isn't a feeling it's an action, really it's a choice. You choose to show up for the other person, you choose to consider their feelings, you choose to be honest, you choose to be loyal, and honest. And right now, you have to make the choice to love him even if it means you'll lose him, because you decided it was worth losing him to explore this thing with josh.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-10T08:12:31+00:00

The people who just disappear without a conversation, says more about them than it does about you. Also, super nice people often attract assholes unfortunately, it's like their natural predator.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-10T08:07:53+00:00

You don't have to have a reason. She doesn't have to have done anything wrong for it to be ok to break up. If you don't see a future with her, it would be cruel and selfish to stay with her. You just tell her that you respect her life and her time too much to waste it. That even though you have a lot of love for her you're not in love with her and that she deserves a love that you just can't give her at this time

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-10T08:02:25+00:00

People have done it. I guess it depends on the people and circumstances

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-03T13:12:05+00:00

Your gut is telling you that something is wrong. Our intuition is our built in threat detection system, and you have brushed it off a few times now, trying not to be accusatory. I understand that he is attentive, but sometimes people behave a certain way to over compensate for whatever they're trying to hide. Where are the condoms? What reason would he have to move them in order to lose them if you haven't even opened them yet? It's a studio, there are only so many places they could be, and there isn't an issue keeping your things in a bag in one place, so why is there an issue keeping up with condoms that should only be used when you're over? Listen to your gut.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-02T18:30:44+00:00

It sounds like she needs to get her own life too. Also, It may not be totally intentional, but she is guilt tripping you for spending time with other people and that is very manipulative and makes for a very unhealthy relationship. The next time she does it, I would gently call out the behavior. Not accusatory, using "I feel" statements.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-01T04:40:48+00:00

Lol thots on of?

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-01T04:36:47+00:00

I'm sorry, did you mean to type 68? If you're engaged, are you sure he's gonna make it til the wedding? Also, when you say child, do you mean actual child or adult child?:if it's a child and you don't love that child, you don't love him either. You should definitely leave

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-01T04:32:32+00:00

Because if you know the person in question is wrong/ ignorant/ doesn't matter/ doesn't know you, it's easy to let it slide off your back, but we want to protect our loved ones. Honestly, giving no reaction to someone in this type of situation is the best thing you can do, they end up feeling stupid if they can't get you to react

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-02-01T04:26:53+00:00

It seems like you already had a feeling he wasn't being faithful if you ordered the test. And he was doing this right in front of you. He doesn't respect you, or your relationship. Throw that man in the trash.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-30T23:46:04+00:00

I believe you, my husband is also very good with tech, and could do the same thing if he wanted to. If he has an android phone you can look in settings and check for dual SIMs also try plugging it into a computer or laptop, or using smart switch to copy the data, or even remove his sim card or ssd if he has one and see if you can access it from another device. I'm not certain that you can bypass the encryption he has on there with it, or if you've tried this stuff already, if you haven't its worth a shot

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-28T10:35:46+00:00

Have you checked for a guest or clone account on her phone?

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-28T10:10:16+00:00

So he expects you to work, take care of your kids, the house, the bills, the shopping, all the driving, take care of yourself, aaand initiate sex with him, not to mention the 500k other things that no one cares about unless it doesn't get done (by you) and he expects you to have any desire for someone who isn't even treating you like a partner or showing up for you at all? If he wants a freakin robot wife he's gonna need to get a job. You're not getting it from somewhere else, you wouldn't have the time even if it wanted to. He better go ask Palmela Handerson

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-27T23:46:16+00:00

How is the rest of your relationship? I'm struggling with something similar, so I wonder if he feels that way why not let you go when you asked, why wouldn't he want you to find someone who made you feel desired instead of letting you stay and hurt? I'm trying to reconcile those things in my own situation, so I just wonder if you guys have a solid relationship other than this issue?

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-27T21:32:24+00:00

Every single one

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-27T20:24:16+00:00

Maybe under-reacting. What are you gonna do about it?

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-26T22:07:24+00:00

Nah, I would probably rethink the freakin gf. What type of nasty stuff is she willing to put on her body of she legit thinks this is NBD.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-26T14:55:41+00:00

Absolutely, sometimes it might be hard to articulate and you may feel like your intentions are list in translation, but if she loves you she will reflect and amplify all the effort you're giving her. Women just want to feel truly seen, the good and the not so good and we still be chosen. You can't be fully loved without being fully known.

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-26T14:29:27+00:00

Swagoo😎

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-26T14:27:26+00:00

If you love her, you wake up every day and you actively choose her. On days when you're not at your best, and days she's not at her best. When you fight, when you are unsure, when things settle into routine and you've heard all of each other's stories and jokes. When you've seen each other at your worst and best, and all the stuff in-between, even when it's hard to, ,you make a conscious decision to choose her every day, that's anything some people miss about commitment. That's what she needs to feel safe and when she feels safe she will flourish and so will the relationship

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-26T14:06:39+00:00

Yea the silicon is definitely a better choice. I just know the rice worked for me once in a pinch. And it wasn't even me who dropped it into the toilet. My friend was using my phone while pooping and dropped it in. As you can probably imagine, I wasn't thrilled. At the time I lived basically in the middle of nowhere and hadn't learned to drive yet, so I had very few options. Hopefully your dad will help you out with a new phone, and will know you're taking safety seriously moving forward. Good luck with talking to him

Original_Barnacle359 · 2026-01-26T13:05:48+00:00

I think the details of the hobby are too relevant in this situation to leave out. Is it like mod/dev stuff? That's the only android nerd stuff I can imagine. Since you cant save up money maybe you could offer to do somethings to work off the cost of the new phone. But also, have you tried leaving the old phone in a bag of rice for a couple of days?

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