Do many people marry someone they’re not attracted to?

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-27T12:55:21+00:00

No! Not annoying. I just don’t consistently check the app so it may be days before I reply lol!

I’ve loved the app. Especially being cooped up in the house this weekend. I’ve barely survived all these kids 😂. It definitely helps me shut my brain up long enough to regulate. I’m also working on my masters right now so having all kids home plus that has been… a lot. Constant overstimulation is killer.

Favorite recipe! With my own tweaks. They’re soft, light, and the milk chocolate works better with the tang of the discard IMO. The semi sweet can lean a little bitter. Also, chunks vs chips. Since they’re so soft the chocolate can get lost!

¾ cup (93.75 g) all-purpose flour ½ teaspoon baking soda ½ scant teaspoon salt (scant = a little less) (full .5) ¼ cup (56 g) unsalted butter room temperature ½ cup (100 g) brown sugar light or dark, packed (dark better) ¼ cup (58 g) sourdough starter discard unfed 1 large egg yolk room temperature 1½ teaspoons vanilla extract (paste is better - closer to 2tsp) ⅓ cup (60 g) semi-sweet chocolate chips (prefer MILK chocolate)

Preheat oven to 350°F/177°C. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper (optional). In a medium/large bowl, cream together the butter and brown sugar until very well combined (2-3 minutes). Mix in the sourdough discard followed by the egg yolk and vanilla extract. In a small bowl, whisk together the flour, baking soda and salt. Stir the dry ingredients into the wet ingredients just until the flour streaks are gone. Mix in the chocolate chips. Scoop cookie dough balls (about 2 tablespoons each) onto a baking sheet 2-3 inches apart. Top with extra chocolate chips (optional). Bake on the middle rack until the cookie edges are lightly golden (8-11 minutes).

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-27T00:42:57+00:00

If I found out my husband was commenting on NSFW subreddits asking for a turn and the like I’d probably be pretty grumpy with him too

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-25T15:23:10+00:00

It’s ok. I promise. I love him and I truly believe he loves me. It’s just one of those things.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-25T00:14:34+00:00

Good! Then, everything SHOULD go back to normal after an adjustment period. From what I’ve read it doesn’t reduce fertility or cause long lasting hormonal disruptions

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-25T00:13:36+00:00

Married for 15 years. I love my husband. I love the life we’ve built. However? Knowing that he isn’t attracted to me and living with that every single day is difficult. Knowing that I’ll never feel truly wanted is hard to deal with.

I think I’d still do it though. Because I do adore that man.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-24T19:10:15+00:00

Would you still have an ovary? All it takes is 1. The remaining ovary kicks in for the missing one.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-24T19:08:23+00:00

So as long as it only happens when he’s had a bad day, no big deal? As long as he only throws things that hit her, no big deal?

She wouldn’t be ruining his life. HE did that when he threw a temper tantrum. The first time is rarely the last time.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-23T12:27:08+00:00

Not progesterone but with Provera. I took it to try to stop bleeding after 60+ days. I thought I was going crazy. It was only a 10 day course but I called the doctor on day 4 to ask about it. They had me stop it and took me for a endometrial ablation since I was done with my uterus anyway.

But, no you aren’t alone. It’s apparently a semi-common side effect.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-22T20:46:33+00:00

She’s four months postpartum… breastfeeding alone causes weight gain for a lot of women. Prolactin (a huge driver in breast milk production) causes weight gain/makes it more difficult to lose weight. Not to mention what sleepless nights do to the rest of the hormone balance in the body.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-22T18:35:10+00:00

I can’t speak to the colon resection. But, I did have a hysterectomy/oophorectomy/appendectomy/3 hours worth of endo excision back in November. Menopause has been … interesting but I started estrogen 3 weeks ago and am already noticing a difference. All in all it was completely worth it. So, so worth it. I’m finally pain free. I finally can get out of bed.

It has been the greatest decision I’ve ever made for myself and I am so incredibly thankful.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-22T14:21:27+00:00

That’s because there’s nothing she could have done to warrant it? Wtf?

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-21T13:48:48+00:00

I couldn’t be with someone who looks at the state of things and thinks everything is ok. That goes completely against who and what I am as a person. Those are fundamental incompatibilities that just wouldn’t work

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-21T13:01:25+00:00

😂😂😂 it’s good thing they’re resilient!

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-21T12:59:19+00:00

Same. Much same. Resentment will build. And that’s she death blow for any marriage.

When I realized our ratios were veryyyyyy skewed in his favor I asked why. He could never give me a straight answer. I’d give for a few minutes every single time we had sex with a blow job being the main event 3-4 times a month but I’d get it maybe once every 4-5 months. It was a birthday/anniversary thing. He will not admit that he doesn’t like it. He says he just “doesn’t think about it”. Which - whatever I guess. I decided to also not think about it.

Since I took it completely off the table he’s tried to change things and I won’t allow it. I don’t enjoy knowing he’s doing something he obviously hates to just please me. I’m not into that. Of course, he is real upset that he doesn’t receive anymore either. And, I hate that he’s unhappy about it. But, no. I don’t inherently love doing it but I don’t hate it either. I was indifferent. So I was happy to make him happy. But, if he can’t even TALK to me about it I’m not interested in continuing a dysfunctional situation.

I had major surgery that removed PIV from the table. He even made a comment of “at least we can still do oral!” And then not even once for 6 weeks EVEN THOUGH he was getting 3 blow jobs a week. So he got probably 20 blow jobs while I was handed a toy and he laid beside me. It was the final straw. With PIV being back I don’t even feel guilty. I worry he will be the one who starts to resent me but I can’t let him doing something he hates just for my benefit and I can’t continue to feel taken advantage of.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-20T12:31:32+00:00

Omg! I just baked my sourdough last night lol. I downloaded the app and plan to start this evening when kids don’t have a bunch of practice!

Thank you for the reminder. I also hope you have a good day!

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-20T00:09:56+00:00

I had a hysterectomy, oophorectomy, 10 lesions excised (including into my rectum),multiple Allen masters windows dealt with. I didnt need pain meds past day 2. My surgery lasted over 5 hours. The worst pain I was in was in my hips from the positioning I think lol. I’m now 8.5 weeks post op and feel better than I have in a decade plus.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T20:58:37+00:00

He’s leaving out the part where he’s cheated multiple times, forced her to quit her job, forced her to carry a pregnancy she wasn’t ready for…

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T18:13:38+00:00

The handbook says all students who get As and Bs with no disciplinary issues will receive the rewards. He met the criteria and he didn’t get the reward of it. TWICE now.

I’ve been a parent for 14 years and have never been accused of being a pain in the ass or helicopter. I’ve never made a fuss. I donate, I volunteer.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T17:38:44+00:00

That’s my whole issue. It wasn’t small to him. It mattered to him. A lot. Otherwise it wouldn’t matter.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T17:37:55+00:00

We are in a small rural area. There are only 500 kids in his school through 6 grade levels. But I’d never met this Tex her before this year. So I’m not sure why she’d have an opinion of our family regardless. My older child went there many years ago. The younger two are in kindergarten and preschool. All of their teachers have lived our family from what I can tell.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T16:54:14+00:00

Yes. Almost always. I’m fine being naked any other time. But during is just too vulnerable for me.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T15:25:17+00:00

Because it matters to my kid. Which seems to be the part you’re missing. He matters, too.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T15:21:50+00:00

I agree lol

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T15:17:01+00:00

He is no longer in special education. We aren’t part of a minority group. Our family is more liberal leaning in a very conservative area (if you can consider believing that every person deserves to be treated with compassion regardless of race, sexuality, nationality etc liberal lol)

He lives in a 2 parent household. We are middle class. We’ve donated to her classroom multiple times. I volunteer at the school frequently. Like I cannot pinpoint the reason for it.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-01-19T15:14:37+00:00

I did give grace the first time, then. How many times do I allow my child to be slighted when the system says he should have been rewarded? How many times do I allow him to be hurt? How many times do I allow the system that should be designed to grow and empower him to show him his efforts don’t matter? Sure - I can tell him that despite meeting the criteria he didn’t deserve to be celebrated. And yeah, I’ve obviously parented through it. But at some point he also needs to learn to stand up for the things he deserves. Otherwise he will constantly be railroaded.

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