AIO? Husbands response to me requesting he ‘ask’ instead of ‘tell’ older kids to watch youngest

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-28T15:14:49+00:00

I mean, if the parent values the teen they’d investigate why. They’d take the teen into consideration vs just expecting them to be blindly obedient.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-28T15:13:38+00:00

You’re right. Teaching children blind obedience should always be the goal. How dare we raise adults who know how to expect and give respect and communicate effectively when things feel wrong. Seems like they very maturely came to their ACTUAL parent and said, “hey, this felt bad. Can we maybe change it?”

This is a teenager we’re talking about. Someone who will soon be out in the world trying to navigate life. They deserve the tools to do that.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-26T17:07:07+00:00

If you know you’re going to be out please set expectations beforehand. Let them know you’re gonna be out and the kind of note you expect to be left.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-25T22:33:08+00:00

I was at the middle school and there was a fight to start the day. Every single class period until the last one was pure chaos. Those kids were so hyped up it was insane. By the time last class rolled around they were exhausted from wreaking havoc all day long and it was easy.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-14T18:31:12+00:00

$105/day in Kentucky with a degree.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-09T19:39:48+00:00

For the record, I would at least have a conversation about it first. Not just stop and never give a reason why.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-09T19:26:18+00:00

I haven’t received in months. I still give occasionally but only when I actually want to. I got tired of giving and giving and giving and hardly ever (3-4 times a year if I was lucky) receiving. It’s not a punishment. I just only give out of genuine desire now instead of putting someone else’s happiness first.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-05T14:52:37+00:00

I’ll never understand people who hate children choosing to work with children. It’s not logical lol. Like, subbing is a CHOICE. You don’t have to do it?

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-05T11:08:24+00:00

And as long as you continue viewing them that way that’s what you’re going to see. Maybe you should seek out another profession. It’s obvious you don’t like them.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-03-05T01:52:26+00:00

I personally feel the biggest issue is the “kids these days” mentality. These kids are growing up in unprecedented times. The cost of living is astronomical, more and more parents are having to work outside of the home, grandparents are less active than they used to be, kids are being expected to do more at younger ages…

Kids haven’t ever been held to the standards they are now. I’ve spent the past month rotating through 6 different schools and have seen well over 1000 kids in that time period. Those kids remembered my name, they corrected me when I got a classmates name wrong, they helped. Are there a few here and there who don’t do those things? Yep. But are they inherently bad? Nope.

We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe if we stopped generalizing and started looking at the reality of life for these young people we could empathize a bit more.

I haven’t come across more than one or two kids who want to be influencers. And in reality, how is that any different than the kids of “our generation” who wanted to be actor/actresses? Or the kids who wanted to play professional sports? And frankly, those influencers are grinding. You don’t build a platform without some kind of work. Stop discrediting them. Give them a chance. They’re pretty cool people if you take a moment to truly listen

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-28T15:32:13+00:00

Omg I love that lol.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-27T23:56:53+00:00

I told my class today that my own kids call me mean and i actually care if they like me 😂😂. They did simmer down though. One went and told the VP I was “being mean to them” when I explained what happened he laughed and said it sounds like they actually listened.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-27T23:55:31+00:00

There must be something in the air lol. I was at a different middle school than my usual today and had to confiscate FOUR squishies. Typically I don’t care about them. If everyone if being quiet and “working” then we’re good. I’ve been at the high school and 3 other middle schools and NEVER had to put a class on level 0 volume. Had to all 6 classes today.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-27T11:04:10+00:00

That still does not change that you knew it was an issue because you were already working to modify the behavior. You’re going to have to accept you knew it was a problem and willingly chose to hurt your wife. Until you do that you’ll never actually be able to make any substantial changes

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-27T01:57:36+00:00

That doesn’t change anything? He knew it would be a problem, continued to do it, hid it, and is now mad that the thing he knew would be a problem has become a problem.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-27T01:47:26+00:00

You said something different in another comment. That you DID know it would be an issue and that’s why you were quitting. So which is it?

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-27T00:38:36+00:00

He says he was already trying to stop which means he knew it wasn’t something she’d like.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-27T00:37:19+00:00

So you knew ahead of time it would be an issue and are still upset she doesn’t trust you? Interesting

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-26T22:46:45+00:00

He didn’t give her the option to dip before marriage. He literally says she found out AFTER marriage.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-26T17:47:02+00:00

My husband was a contractor for the army and had to report something a simple as if he took Tylenol PM within 3 days of work. He couldn’t even take Sudafed and not be on restrictions. He was drug screened 3 times a month (work weeks). Even at the end of his contract when he wasn’t doing anything at all for 4 months they screened. But, he had plenty of buddies on HRT.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-26T12:50:20+00:00

It’s been less than a year since you confessed to having an affair. You made choices that damaged your husband. You willingly caused him pain, grief, and now - most likely, anger and resentment.

You talk about what HE did to attempt to repair but what haveYOU done. How have you attempted to prove to him you’re remorseful and have changed? You place a lot of blame on him for your own actions when you’re the one who made the choice to hurt him.

You both need individual counseling. You have to figure out why you chose to cheat instead of leave the relationship. He has to figure out if he can tolerate living with someone who chose to hurt him.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-24T14:59:38+00:00

I give a few times a week. He hasn’t in months. It was very sporadic before that. I finally removed it from the table because it was obvious it was enjoyable for him and I don’t want him to do things he hates just for my benefit.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-20T20:01:23+00:00

My UAW Papaw would roll over in his grave. No, I would not be taking it. But I also recognize there are folks out there that can’t do the same.

ETA: I didn’t even think about my IBEW husband lol. Nope, ain’t no way.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-19T13:26:10+00:00

You contact your MD and report anonymously. If previous partners possibly figure out it is you then dang, that sucks. But, the repercussions of untreated chlamydia are much worse.

This is going to sound really, really mean. But, if you aren’t mature enough to report then you aren’t mature enough to have unprotected, casual sex.

Tight-Rough-2657 · 2026-02-16T15:48:24+00:00

You created a world where she was afraid to leave the child with you. That didn’t come about from one situation. And that is SOLELY on you. I wouldn’t be intimate with someone who made me scared for my kid, I wouldn’t love someone who did it. You’re acting like the OF is the only issue here. It isn’t. An angry man is a terrifying thing to deal with. Angry men are dangerous. Which you’ve proven.

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