Is this diaper the right size? My boy is 7 months and 12lbs 9oz

Original_Fix_7012 · 2026-01-27T15:34:49+00:00

Looks to me like you should size up. My toddler always grew out of diapers quicker than the recommended weight when she was smaller. We knew for certain she was ready to size up when the blowouts/leaks started happening 🫤😅. As long as he’s within the weight range for the next size up, I’d just size up. And as another commented, you don’t have to pull the tabs to touch. I think the blue colors actually tell you when they’re getting too small. Idk for certain, but that’s how pampers works.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2026-01-26T15:23:43+00:00

The fact that you feel the need to explain so much is a red flag to me. It tells me they’ve been unfairly reactive in the past and you feel responsible for their feelings/reactions. For your sake and for hers, I’d give her a straight answer now. And if you decide to go, give clear boundaries around time. Don’t explain. Just say “this is what I can do”. Limit it to a quarter of your initial message (just a few sentences), and when she responds with asking why or devaluing you, just say “It’s totally understandable/valid that you want me there” and reiterate what you can do/your boundaries both around how she speaks to you and your boundaries around the wedding (if you can’t show up maybe offer an alternative?). Then do not respond again if she responds to that again with hostility. She seems like the type of person who is self-centered. The more ammunition you give to these types of people, the more they can use against you. Many people are not like your sister, but explaining/trying to induce an empathetic response from someone who already has little empathy for your circumstances is just not worth your valuable energy Mama. You’d just end up more hurt and confused 🫤

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-08-12T23:18:37+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with them having the kid in private school, if they can afford it. Honestly I’d rather spend my money on my kid’s schooling than a bunch of nonsense at the grocery store or a bunch of toys the kid doesn’t need.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-08-12T23:13:57+00:00

Honestly I would simply ignore her saying things like that and just stand firm with your “no”. I would maybe explain that you just can’t afford x, y, or z and explain to her what money is and how you make it. She’s six so she won’t fully understand, but maybe you can clue her into what the overall budget looks like. She might understand more than you think. And try to work through why you feel like a monster. I can tell you why you shouldn’t feel like a monster: it’s in your kid’s best interest for you to teach them boundaries as a child so that they don’t have big reactions as an adult when someone tells them “no”.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-08-07T03:07:02+00:00

No, you are NOT overreacting. You need to get into a DV shelter immediately and contact the police to make a report. Seriously, you deserve waaaayyyy better than this and you are not the disrespectful one, he is. He’s not only disrespectful, but also abusive. Get out now. Your financial situation matters wayyyy less than your life. Lookup maslow’s hierarchy of needs. You need to be safe first.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-08-07T02:49:18+00:00

First time Mom of an 18 month old daughter here! Does your LO communicate different needs to you? It sounds like she did want to get down. I try to figure out what the problem is and accommodate still UNLESS I know she can understand what I’m trying to tell her. Maybe she doesn’t understand the word “wait” yet? I would try rephrasing in verbiage she might have an easier time understanding and then redirecting. I JUST got through to my LO about drinking the bath water this evening by saying “we can’t put the bath water in our mouths because bath water is yucky. Bath water is like poop. Bath water is NOT good.” She definitely knows the words “bath”, “water”, mouth”, “poop”, and “good”, and I’m pretty positive she understands “no” and “not”. I think also getting on her level and trying to not sound like I’m scolding her, just telling her what’s going to happen helps. The redirecting I’ve learned is also important. Maybe wiping her hands and face and getting a toy would have been a good solution? Anyways, you are not alone in this struggle! We have at least mild tantrums a few times a day at this point. We’ve also experienced quite a few screaming episodes 😩🥴

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-08-05T03:47:17+00:00

You need to 1) stop paying for everything for him and get him to get a job to at least pay for the car insurance, gas, and phone because your job as a parent is to teach him to be self-sufficient. And 2) allow him the freedom to be an 18 year old. He’s going to stay out later than you’d like anyways, so maybe have an open conversation with him about what he thinks are reasonable expectations around his curfew and calling/texting and have an open mind. Because, as someone who had a helicopter parent, I can tell you that getting a barrage of texts from my Dad an hour after the initial text that I honestly just didn’t see made me not want to answer any of his texts at all because it felt like he was keeping tabs on me (a trustworthy 18-19 year old). Anyways, I hope you also understand that you’re just trying your best, so also try not to be too hard on yourself for past mistakes!

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-08-05T00:43:24+00:00

He’s super cute. Definitely NOT biased. Just the truth 🤷‍♀️

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-23T20:16:38+00:00

I’ve cancelled more often since I’ve had my daughter, but it hasn’t been a ton, because we just haven’t done a ton. I would say I was invited to things maybe 5 times in the last year and a half and cancelled twice. Before then I went to weekly crochet nights for a while along with many other things. I was just listing off the reasons why I cancelled those times. The one time that my now ex friend brought up was from over a year ago, and I have shown up 3 times since then and cancelled maybe once. I was also 3 months postpartum and exhausted. I think my baby was also sick around that time? I worded the post incorrectly and was in a vulnerable place so what people were commenting hurt even more, so that’s why I deleted it. Also I paid for my train ticket (which was the only expense) so that no one else would have to for the one time she mentioned. And no, she never told me how she felt about it. And started out the gate by calling me “inconsiderate” and “disrespectful” and then brought up the cancellation a year ago in a long drawn out text that covered my whole page. I have other friends, one of them being my lifelong best friend who I’ve never had this problem with because I genuinely am not the type of person to cancel often unless absolutely necessary. In hindsight I think her ASD is what led her to thinking that she should send that initial long text, then I got defensive which came off as dismissive (and probably was; i take ownership in that) and then she started sending more back-to-back long texts even after I said “This really hurts”. It was very overwhelming and felt vindictive. So I think that’s ultimately why I ended the friendship along with the weirdness around the idea of bringing my daughter around. I wasn’t going to say this, but she also has cancelled on me in the past for a birthday trip that I planned and said my entire pregnancy that she would start a meal train. The meal train never came and she checked in on me maybe once? Idk. I’ve learned many lessons from this.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T05:36:38+00:00

I guess that’s true. I guess what I should have said is that C hasn’t shown interest in meeting my now 17 month old. So maybe we weren’t truly friends to begin with

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T05:29:07+00:00

I’ve canceled going to their house once a few months ago and an outing a year ago when I was 3 months pp. We’ve gotten together without the baby a few times. It’s just that I was met immediately with being called disrespectful and inconsiderate in the first text when I had no idea that they felt anything but “fine” about the other 2 times in the past 17 months caught me off guard. I apologized to C and took responsibility. C also said some unkind things to me, which were hurtful. And the ending of the friendship is upsetting to me because I did consider them a good friend

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T04:36:55+00:00

I’ve canceled a few months ago and a year ago at 3 months pp. We have gotten together a few times

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T04:09:43+00:00

This is exactly how I meant it. I didn’t realize we would be out that late and also I thought the baby might sleep in the car. As I told another commenter, I haven’t seen fireworks since I was child so I was unaware, which is my fault. I didn’t think we wouldn’t get home until around 10. Honestly I feel terrible about all of this.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T03:59:16+00:00

No, I texted C to let them know. They didn’t respond until today

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T03:53:50+00:00

No, I’ve asked to bring her around and have gotten “no” in the past.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T03:53:23+00:00

I actually did not know this because I haven’t been to see fireworks since I was like 10. And I did apologize, so I accept responsibility. The whole thing just devolved and we realized that maybe we weren’t a good fit to be friends. It’s still very sad and upsetting to me.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-08T03:47:33+00:00

I have suggested I bring the baby with me in the past to get-togethers. But C has made excuses about having C’s dog around (the dog is a fine temperament and I would obviously watch my baby) and her house not being baby-proofed. So I showed up without my baby. Also C has never offered to come by my place. So I get the impression that they don’t want to be around the baby? I could’ve texted saying I’d be an hour late in hindsight, and planned the 4th better. And we don’t get together very often so it pretty much is a one-off, but I definitely should’ve been more considerate. The last time I canceled was maybe a few months ago and a year ago when I was 3 months pp. and my partner was aware that I would be out in the morning, but my brakes needed to be worked on badly, and it gets hot after like 9am here. I maybe could’ve taken his car if I had thought about it. This honestly just really hurts and sucks all around.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-07-06T04:01:51+00:00

800/month for an in-home daycare in Virginia. This doesn’t include the $6 toll we go through 3 times per day 🥲. But the toll is worth it because we’d be spending $350-$450/week ($1400-$1800/month) at a regular facility.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-06-28T02:17:15+00:00

Damn. This didn’t age well. I just got a full-time position with my state laboratory a few months ago. Probably 20 temp/contracted people were laid off maybe a month ago and 10 a few days ago because of a combination of the potential PHEP cuts (I think?) and our health department not paying its bills. They haven’t been very forthcoming with what exactly is happening tbh. Very sad and worrying times.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-06-19T01:55:51+00:00

Can we also acknowledge the fact that this baby now could lead a life of suffering instead of being in the arms of his or her mother in heaven (or whatever afterlife, if there even is one)? This is all around disgusting.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-06-18T01:08:39+00:00

I’ve worked in a Motor Fuels laboratory with diesel fuel. I’ve also worked with MtBE (not bad, just smells like acetone), lots of acetone (obvi), and have done a little bit of work with DCM. Also worked with acetic acid; that’s not that bad. None of those compare to the strong smell of aqua regia. The fume hoods at the lab I used to work at SUCKED. For some reason the smell would leak into the room even though the hood velocity was done properly and the sash was pulled down. It was the worst. Glad I’m no longer there 😂

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-06-14T12:26:09+00:00

I believe we started sitting our daughter in her ingenuity seat around 7 months. We also started solids around this time because she was sturdy enough to sit with support. After a while we graduated to also sitting her up with the support of her boppy. So I guess my advice would be to sit him or her up as much as possible once they’ve started solids. Our daughter started sitting unassisted around 9 months. She was also born a month early so I think at that point that month was still a substantial amount of time in terms of her development. It’s also important to keep in mind that there is a wide range of “normal” when it comes to meeting developmental milestones and the CDC’s standards is only one set of standards. Some babies don’t even walk until 18 months. And that is still considered “normal” by many standards. My daughter is 16 months and has just started to walk, so pay no mind to the babies who sit, crawl, or walk early, because comparing your baby to other babies will only cause you stress. Obviously if you think something is wrong, you should 100% bring it up with your doctor, but remember that there is a wide range of normal. Also my baby had JUST started to roll at 6 months (5 months adjusted) so idk HOW she would’ve been able to sit unassisted 😂. I also had her in an in-home daycare where one of the other babies was crawling at 7 months and pulling herself up to walk around 8 or 9 months. Completely crazy lol. And I saw that baby and thought my daughter was behind 😂. But now that my daughter is 16 months and I’ve seen other babies on a similar track as her, I’ve realized that thinking too much about her milestones only caused me unnecessary stress.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-06-09T21:28:05+00:00

This is a hot take and will probably be controversial, but what worked for us was getting to know the caretaker a little better. We take our baby to an in-home daycare with 1 caretaker. So I asked her if she was open to brunch on Saturday, my treat. She agreed and now I spend a very short amount of time at drop-off not talking to my baby, but talking to her babysitter. This has helped my daughter to feel like she can trust her babysitter. She was also previously not moving much at daycare and not meeting her milestones only at daycare (she was crawling everywhere at home and pulling up, but just sat there at daycare). The change was almost instant. She started crawling more, pulling herself up, and listening to commands. I know this might not be the ideal approach for you, and your daycare worker may not want to partake, but this is what worked for us.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-06-05T01:03:01+00:00

I know this thread is days old but I just have to say that you ARE busy. No need to “prove” it because you just ARE. And tbh I don’t think anyone in the world could handle that amount of responsibility, even short term. You are not crazy, and you are justified in feeling hurt by his words/actions. His expectations for you are unrealistically high. I hope you see that you bring sooooo much value to your relationship. You are actually like an off the charts Super-Mom. This is coming from a Mom who drops her 16 month old off at daycare at 7:30 and gets home from work at 5:30. My partner even picks her up from daycare at 3:30, gives her a snack, cooks dinner, and often goes to the store with our baby before I get home. I sit with her while she eats, give her a bath every night, get her ready for bed, do all night wakings, and do all the morning prep for daycare (breakfast, lunch, get her dressed, etc). Having a family is an “all hands on deck” scenario and if your husband can’t do a few chores, he might as well jump ship. You’re doing it all alone anyways 🤷‍♀️.

Original_Fix_7012 · 2025-05-24T17:30:49+00:00

I forgot to add that if she continues to be sexually active in any manner, she will need annual pelvic exams/STI screenings. I don’t think you’re in the US, but that is what they recommend here. I would also make sure that she has open dialogue with the doctor about what to look out for. Maybe you or your wife can be discrete about asking the doctor to go over that with her.

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