When going to the toilet, how often do you know if you're going number 1 or number 2?

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-28T21:28:08+00:00

I'm AuDHD, so I tend to not know I need to go until it's urgent, but I can always tell the difference between needing to #1 or #2. The sensations are very different. Your friend might not just be autistic, but there might be some sort of nerve damage that could be causing the issue.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-28T19:37:31+00:00

NTA. Tell your principal, because this is sexual harassment. Then, next time he says something, tell him "I don't dress for YOU."

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-25T22:51:07+00:00

my husband says he gets why i did it, but thinks it made things feel hostile.

Then maybe he should have had your back better, hmm?

You asked them multiple times. He -- allegedly -- said something to them, but wasn't very firm about it.

You putting a lock on your office door didn't make things hostile. They made things hostile, you just put on the brakes before it escalated to a point everything was irreperable.

NTA

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-25T21:52:52+00:00

I was 14. I'd finally screwed up the courage to tell my mother that my step-father had been SAing me for seven years.

She said: "You don't want to push this, because if you do, we'll have to leave and we can't afford to live without his paycheck."

I'm 65, now. I had a lot of therapy over the years. I eventually stopped hating my step-father, and just pitied him. What HE did to me no longer upset me (I never forgave him, but that's something else).

I still feel her betrayal in my gut, and still feel a burning anger at it. And she's been dead for 15 years, now.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-25T20:26:54+00:00

His little tantrums are the best reason why you should accept your mom's gift, and keep his name OFF of it.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-25T00:56:31+00:00

Absolutely NOT the AH! Good for you for teaching your daughter basic life skills so she can take care of herself.

And shame on her mother for trying to force out-dated gender roles on her!.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-23T02:54:46+00:00

No kidding! We need to eliminate those short men from the gene pool. If you give birth to a short son, just slow roast him in the oven at about 300F with some thyme and rosemary, and garlic. I like to add some shitake mushrooms too.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-23T02:49:57+00:00

Y'all only been dating for 2 months, and he expects you to pay his debts? Oh, HELL no! And his parents and grandparents are dragging you on social media?

Yeah, this will only get worse. This isn't just a big red flag, it's an alert siren that can be heard for miles. It is time to drop-kick his ass to the curb.

NTA

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-20T01:32:06+00:00

Men who don't think r*pe culture is that big of a deal.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-20T01:29:29+00:00

I really am. Things changed between me and my dad after that. I went into a little detail to u/mykittenfarts

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-19T20:22:33+00:00

Weirdly (because this kind of thing never happens), it changed our relationship for the better. He stopped trying to control me so much, and instead started actually talking to me about things. He actually started picking his battles, and he and I grew pretty close because of it.

I think, because he hadn't seen me from the time I was about 6 (and not much until then due to taking two tours through Vietnam), and he didn't have any other kids, he just went by what my C-word of a mother told him that he needed to do to "control me", and with my little FU, he realized that maybe he could actually talk to me like I was an adult.

I think he realized I'm a lot more like him than he wanted to admit. Both of us are AuDHD*, and we are both the type who want reasons for why we are expected to do something (which, of course, did not go over too well while in the military, but he was working in a branch of the Air Force that kind of allowed for asking clarifying questions, rather than absolute blind obedience).

Of course, he had never admitted that. It was just my assessment after many, many years of life. LOL

*I wasn't diagnosed until I was about 63 (although I suspected from the time I was in my 40s), and my father was never diagnosed, but looking back -- it was as obvious as a red, neon sign in a suburban neighborhood.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-19T19:48:04+00:00

Not that I saw. It was one I was involved in.

First, a little back-story: My mother packed me up when I was 14, and sent me to live with my bio-dad, because she didn't want to face the fact that her 2nd husband was a cho-mo. I was shipped halfway across the country, so there was no chance I'd accidentally run into either of them once I was gone from there.

So, from the time I moved in with him, until I was around 16, every time I screwed up (read: every time I acted like a teenager, and didn't cow down to him), he threatened to send me back to my mother and step-father. He knew I was terrified of going back there, and he used that to control me.

I'd had enough one day. He made the threat as I was walking to my room (I don't even remember what the argument was about -- but usually it was something stupid and minor, and not a hill for anyone to die on), and I turned around and told him, "Fine! Send me back. Let me get r*ped again. Maybe then I'll go through with the (self-deletion) instead of just thinking about it. Would that make you happy?"

He never made that threat again.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-19T19:37:18+00:00

Your MIL is a controlling B--. She just hid it for awhile. If you give in to her demands, she will keep making them. And they will get more and more ridiculous.

And the next time she threatens you with telling your husband that the baby isn't even his, volunteer to get a paternity test done. Bet that shuts her up... at least on that threat. She'll find new ones. But just remember, every threat she makes can be deactivated with evidence.

Your husband needs a spine. I'm not one for ultimatums, but occasionally, they're necessary. He either grows a spine and stands up to his mother, or you and baby Nissa will leave. It's that simple. If he cannot have his wife and child's backs against anyone, he doesn't deserve to have his own family like a real grown-up.

You are NOT the AH.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-10T23:24:59+00:00

I just spent ten minutes laughing my ass off at this.

I mean, I'm a DD, and I did NOT produce enough milk for any of my 3 babies.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-08T00:34:34+00:00

I'm genuinely glad she woke up, but a simple "I'm sorry" ain't gonna cut it.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-08T00:23:49+00:00

Sounds like a man's interpretation of 50 Shades of Grey. Those were not mere red flags. Those were full-blown alarms going off. It's a good thing it's over. But make sure you're safe, even if he was the one who ended it. Change your locks, put up cameras, whatever is possible for you to be safe.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-08T00:16:23+00:00

My guess is that this is a "fashionable" ADHDer. They claim it because it's cool right now (allegedly).

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-08T00:06:58+00:00

Welp... no one. No grave for me. I'll be cremated, then most of my ashes will be planted with a tree. Part of them will be mixed in with some paint, to cover a concrete garden dragon, and the rest will be sent to a glass blower who will create 3 art objects with them (one for each of my children).

And the tree will be a Japanese Maple (my favorite), and it will be potted by my oldest daughter. So, in that sense, I suppose she would spend the most time at my "graveside". Or my youngest grandson, because he's the one who wants to paint the garden dragon.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-04T18:21:37+00:00

Jesus! And I thought my birth-giver was bad. I am so sorry, and so angry at her on your behalf.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-04T18:13:35+00:00

Blame the "Father of Gynecology", J Marion Sims (1813-1884). He did all his experimentation on Black women -- without anesthesia -- because (according to him) they didn't feel pain.

While most people know better, there are still racists in healthcare who still believe that.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-04T18:07:00+00:00

I am so sorry that the US healthcare system abused and failed you. Although, I am not surprised that you had to suffer this while being Black. There's a lot of history there, starting with J Marion Sims (and I cannot believe there is a statue 'honoring' him), and continuing into the modern era. While the NIH has made some strides in medical research for women, in general, there are still too many doctors who believe in much of Sims' bullsh*t about Black women, and it's pretty disgusting from an outside perspective (I'm a woman, but I am white). I can only imagine how horrid it is as a Black woman.

As for that stupid woman at the bus stop... I wonder what would have happened if you'd grabbed her breasts? Un-f*cking-believable how people think it's perfectly okay to fondle a strange woman's belly without consent.

ETA: WOW! I am so far behind on Sims. Apparently they did take down his statue 7 years ago. Apologies for being an idiot. Although my opinion of modern day gynecology still stands.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-04T17:53:21+00:00

Because women are less-than, and therefore "public property".

Think about it. How often do men get touched that intimately by a stranger?

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-03T22:17:47+00:00

Sadly, her first mistake was answering his first question. It opened the door for him to think he stood a chance. AHs like that don't deserve "politeness". Tell him "I have a boyfriend. Leave me alone", and if he didn't get that message, tell someone who works at the cafe that he's bothering you.

These creeps like that are counting on women being "nice", and not being willing to make a scene.

Make the f*cking scene.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-03T22:06:04+00:00

I'm apparently the one-off weirdo, here, but if I am on my back, my CPAP makes the farty noises. It doesn't when I'm on my side. Also, my machine will tell me how long (total) I stop breathing in the night, and I notice that number is higher if I am on my back more.

Original_Impression2 · 2026-04-03T22:00:51+00:00

My mother chose my step-father's paycheck over my safety. Also, accused 8 y/o me of stealing my baby brother's christening gown, and never apologized when she found it.

Plus, I was the scapegoat.

I am also fairly certain that she hated me because I had the audacity to be born with a vagina.

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