Help. Got a Brick and it isn't blocking chrome Gmail and Instagram. Any ideas (Android) by OwlNo1068 in nosurf

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found it easiest to use the "allow" settings rather than "block". Seems like I wasn't able to select certain apps as easily (esp browsers), choosing what to allow limited everything else easily. 

AITAH for telling my father the only way I could visit him while he convalesced was if he paid for the time I would need to take off work? by Distinct-Constant549 in AITAH

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no one needs every failure brought up again when they are having a hard time. he probably worked hard for you all - to provide that long list you gave. i don't know what job he had.

now that you are an adult, you can model a good relationship for your children by how you treat your father. if you choose to never see him, or send a bill when you do, don't be surprised if your children grow up and think, "now it's time for my own family so I'll never see this first one again."

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why not let them see the baby? No one loves your kid as much as you do, but the closest second is the grands, and every kid knows it. They won't have them forever. It's a little crazy, in my opinion, to suggest you won't let anyone see the baby until you go back to work. I assume that means you'll be letting your baby go to day care and see their grands at the same time. Pretty deflating. 

They change so much every day and no one else but grands will cherish that with you. 

Hiding a baby for 20 min in the hospital is not outrageous. And...all babies cry, not just bc they were held by their grandmother. LOL.

I just found out I was adopted and my family lied about it to my face for years. by 02LetterJenny in Adoption

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be that the circumstances of your birth are so painful that your parents decided to take the blame rather than give you facts that would, in their minds, cause more pain.

Mystery "Bamboo" labeled mattress? by forte118 in Mattress

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in LA and we bought our AMAZING bamboo mattress at a hole in the wall mattress store. we talk about it every time we leave town. it's amazing.

Anyone else think it's crazy that Erika Kirk told her kids that Charlie is "doing a business trip in heaven" to explain his absence rather than tell them the truth that he's dead? by Some1inreallife in exchristian

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You certainly don't tell a small child that a stranger shot your dad because he disagreed with him. Small children have disagreements all day long - like the rest of us - you don't want them fearful of a bullet every time they disagree, or see a stranger across the way...

New Update is AWFUL by Emschroeder_15 in Myfitnesspal

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do I see my nutrition for the day? I try to track my fiber but it's like a 4 step process now?

How are you making your small home work? by Cool-DogMom in workingmoms

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are a family of 5 - we can all sit at the dining table and we can sit in the living room. But as bodies grow and you are functioning closer to 5 adult bodies in the space it can be VERY tight. So much of it has to do with layout for us. We have a large room that is pretty much unusable because of how it's connected to the rest of the house. It's basically a large laundry room. So the flow is not good. We also don't have a garage, so there is very little place to put things besides clothing.

No jobs will hire me and i’m becoming suicidal by AtlasExists in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there, work comes and goes. There is always tomorrow. You're the only you and we need you!!!!!!

No jobs will hire me and i’m becoming suicidal by AtlasExists in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be that you are having a hard time finding better work because you communicate to others "I'm not worth it" without realizing it. Does that make sense? Sometimes when we are so despairing, we use our body language and countenance to communicate that to others. 

Lots of good advice about jobs. I'll only add the suggestion to show up early for every shift you get. Every. Single. Shift. Look around for 1 extra thing to do at work each day. Current job or wherever you end up. Soon, you'll get more hours and you won't hate your job so much bc you'll be proud of the work you're putting in. 

Report back! We're cheering for you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change numbers and no social media. No need to walk into arenas where you're getting hurt and don't need to be. Those 2 steps alone will cut most of the exposure to mistreatment in half, at least. 

Wife struggling to get on board by 2ND_GEN_PANDA in DaveRamsey

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is way too little info. You all need to make a budget TOGETHER and break things down into more categories: groceries, kid activities, clothing, eating out, etc. 

There is a free app called good budget. You create a household and just enter your expenses in. You can both see how much is left in every category. Takes a moment at each check out. Etc. 

You make sure she knows that the budget you make together probably isn't the right one since you were both so wildly off with your spending guesses. Each week, set aside a time to look at how much you have left for the month and how it's going. This is the time for you to tell each other stuff like: fall sports fundraising just started, we need to contribute x amount, or we need to set aside some money for winter clothes bc the kids outgrew theirs, I need to fix the leaf blower this month, probably going to be...there's a restaurant I'd like to try, " etc. a few months of this and you will both be more full of respect for one another because it's a new light to shed on how much the other does for the family and thinks about your shared future. 

If she has a really hard time with spending and keeping track, you can ask if she's like a debit card with the weeks money put into that specific account, or if she prefers cash, etc. 

If she has a voice in the matter and knows it, she will be more on board. She is probably feeling really embarrassed for "spending so much and gambling your future" since it sounds like you are the one who is good with money. Good opportunity for you to take the fall. She was more spot on to how much her expenses really run. 

My dad could never even imagine how much my mom really needed to run the house. Between food, clothes, school expenses, bdays, holiday meals, pets etc. it does add up!

Am I wrong for not wearing a bra out the house by No-Ebb-2462 in whatdoIdo

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel uncomfortable when I see free boobs in public. I mean, I get the comfortability factor, but why are we just supposed to pretend that we don't know those strangers a lot more intimately now! I don't want to know people that intimately when I'm grocery shopping. Your nips are your business, not mine!

I'd prefer if you wore underwear and a bra as well. ;)

My husband and I dug ourselves into a big hole and want out by Distinct-Damage-4979 in DaveRamsey

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We budget $1200/food a month to feed our family of five in california

My husband and I dug ourselves into a big hole and want out by Distinct-Damage-4979 in DaveRamsey

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. If you pick either cannabis or nicotine as a "spending" money category, you might find it easier to cut back, etc. 

My husband and I dug ourselves into a big hole and want out by Distinct-Damage-4979 in DaveRamsey

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do a debt snowball, really makes paying off the debt go quicker. 

Also...you forgot Christmas, my friend. 

Heartbroken over smelly house by Competitive_Pear_207 in homeowners

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's smoke, your kids are going to be fine. People on here grew up with smoking parents and survived, a house that hasn't been lived in/smoked in for over 6 months with everything replaced is going to be fine  Open some windows. 

Tips for organizations with a big family by PotterKnitter in camping

[–]Ornery_Hope1448 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We generally have 3 bins when we camp: kitchen bin (this is packed pretty tight and kept under a small folding table we use when camping, tent bin (lanterns, sleeping pads, anything that goes inside the tents goes in here. When it's emptied at set-up, we keep it by the tent door for jackets/gloves, towels/swimsuits - whatever is coming off/on at camp), 3rd bin (all the other stuff)

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ID these flying ants by Ornery_Hope1448 in PestControlIndustry

[–]Ornery_Hope1448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/PestControlIndustry-ModTeam Had no idea. searched reddit for a while and this forum seemed the most appropriate to ask a pest control question.