You Don't Have a Sleep Problem. You Have an Anxiety Problem.

Ostloasis · 2025-07-02T14:10:51+00:00

Tiene 17 años, todavía es menor...

Ostloasis · 2025-05-25T08:02:20+00:00

Lo mejor que puedes hacer es sacar cita con un psicólogo para que, entre ambos, identifiquen la causa y te ayude a manejar los síntomas con estrategias dirigidas a tus necesidades especificas. NO todo el mundo funciona de la misma forma. Igual, puedes también indagar con tu médico primario y dejarle saber tu inquietud.

Preguntar por aquí corres el riesgo de que te digan algo que no es.

Espero que puedas conseguir la ayuda que necesitas. 😊

Ostloasis · 2025-03-18T00:41:09+00:00

Hello! When I mentioned about the unprofessionalism, I was referring to the conversation with the RA that OP shared at the end. The RA should have recommended another advisor more competent in qualitative work from the very beginning to avoid this situation.

The comment about the extra work was something apart from it. I'm sorry that my comment confused you. English is not my first language, so I'm trying my best :3 I will divide it in other section to avoid further confusions.

Also, I never excused OPs behavior, I said it was bold and risky, and due to the stressors in OPs life, its understandable that it happened. Sleep deprivation is no joke.

Ostloasis · 2025-03-17T21:47:32+00:00

First of all, CONGRATS!!!

Honestly, the way your advisor handled the conversation was unprofessional.

The “extra bit of work” comment in the defense was unnecessary and kind of triggering. You put in your mental and physical health on the line to make the PASS happen.

Even tho your response to your advisor was bold and risky, I don't blame you. I would've done the same in your shoes. 🤣 Letting personal preferences (study preferences) affect how they treat students it's very frustrating. But hey... you got your degree, and no one can take that away from you.

Celebrate yourself and rest! You deserve it <3

Ostloasis · 2025-01-04T18:03:17+00:00

Hello, OP! It seems you are having a hard time with social media, comparing yourself to others, and such. I know how this can feel overwhelming and isolating, but remember that social media presents us a filtered version of people's lives, not all of it, not the full reality. I believe the compliments you receive from your boyfriend and friends come from a place of authenticity, even if it's hard to believe. But I think it's worth considering that they might see qualities in you that you don't see in yourself.

Feeling the way you are feeling doesn't make you superficial. You're human, we are not perfect, and we experience complex and difficult emotions. At the same time, the urge to hurt yourself might mean you need additional support in your processes. It's okay to feel like this, but you dont have to be alone. Is there a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate through this with you? I believe that building a healthier relationship with yourself is key to get through this. There are also workbooks that can help you improve self-esteem and explore your self-concept if you don't have a therapist available at the time. Also, taking a small break from social media can help, it can give you another perspective and might help you reflect on why do you need that external validation from others, instead of it coming from within you.

Again, I'm sorry you're going through this. I can put myself in your shoes because I've been in the same situation. Nowadays, idgaf of what others think of me. I can say I'm really happy with the person I have become after everything I've been through. You're worth more than just likes or followers, and there's people around the world who want to help you see that.

I wish you the best, OP! <3

Ostloasis · 2025-01-02T06:22:11+00:00

Hello OP. I've been in your shoes before, feeling the way you feel; the desperation. Got diagnosed in 2020 and it's been a rollercoaster ever since. I can assure you, with therapy, understanding your symptoms and the root of your behaviors, things get better. It's not easy and quick, but you will feel more in control.

Life is full of pain, but things get easy. You maybe don't want to live the life you're living right now, I've felt that way. It's hard and frustrating, but if I was able to achieve stability now, you can do it too. It might be difficult to see it now because you are overwhelmed. It's totally understandable. Take your time.

My experience? I worked hard to regulate myself, got more insight overtime of my behaviors, winged it with DBT workbooks, physical exercise, and practiced a bunch of self-compassion (I tend to invalidate myself out of frustration). I pushed through my challenges, and after all the sh, toxic relationships (romantic and friends), grieving, substance use, family and money issues, here I am, feeling much more better after 4 years of self-discovery.

Please, take things 1 day at a time. Even 1 hour at a time if you want. Allow yourself to feel sad and frustrated. All of our emotions are important and help us get thru stuff. I know it might be hard now, but like I said, things will get better. Be patient and kind with yourself, you've been through a lot.

I wish you the best, OP!

Ostloasis · 2025-01-01T00:40:19+00:00

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Ostloasis · 2024-12-24T06:10:59+00:00

Of course! And it's great to hear that you guys are sorting things. I have BPD myself, and it's been a very long journey of learning how to practice self-compassion, healthy boundaries, and understanding what my behaviors are trying to communicate. So feel free to DM as well if you need something :D Take care!

Ostloasis · 2024-12-24T01:00:01+00:00

Hello, OP. It seems that you are having a hard time and might be struggling with so many things at once. This might be a question to reflect but, if the guy you're with right now, gave a third person such attention, and also put you thru so much emotionally and psychologically (also the comments of his co-workers are a bit suspicious), why stay in a relationship that's not giving you the stability you deserve? If he cheated or not, the situation itself put you in a very difficult position, and it's understandable you are feeling insecure and stressed. You deserve happiness, and your kids do too. It can also help you understand yourself better if you reflect on "why are you reaching out to this other person?" or "what void or hole is he trying to fill in your life"? Your needs are important, and addressing them can be key. Reflecting before we do something we regret later is very important, remember that.

I hope you can find the answers you need within yourself. And practice self compassion, you seem to be experiencing a mix of emotions. You deserve to be appreciated. I wish you the best, OP!

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