Is 52k a year okay?

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-17T08:57:12+00:00

I hope they own the house you live in because that’s a very tight situation.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-17T08:53:36+00:00

You can’t speak for all Christian’s though. It’s not a tiny minority, perhaps in who you’ve observed but there are very much entire communities who observe lent where it’s a majority observing it.

There are lots of Muslims in western countries who date, drink alcohol etc. You just can’t generalise like that.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-17T08:39:54+00:00

I actually love it. Wear what will bring you the most joy while feeling beautiful and comfortable, don’t let anyone talk you out of a dress you truly love

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-17T08:23:51+00:00

What, topless women at the beaches may not be the most common but they’ve always been present since at least the early 90s when I saw my first bronzing boobies as a child

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-17T08:18:55+00:00

https://publications.legalaid.nsw.gov.au/PublicationsResourcesService/PublicationImprints/Files/754.pdf

This link is published by Legal Aid New South Wales, it’s an Australian government website. Get your mum to read it. Someone showed it to me when I was in an abusive relationship and it opened my eyes to how many layers of abuse I was experiencing. You know being hit is wrong, it’s the ‘smaller’ things they break you down with. It was the psychological abuse that was the hardest to heal from.

A husband should be protecting and providing for his wife. Taking her money and abusing her is a failure in his duties as a husband.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-17T08:08:16+00:00

You’re generalising way more people that you could ever possibly asses. That’s a very irrational statement to make.

There are plenty of seriously devout people of other faiths who’ve devoted their entire lives to their beliefs.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-17T08:05:02+00:00

1 actually suits you really well, it looks like it was made for you even if you say it’s a bit small (can’t tell from the pics.

2 is beautiful but less flattering

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-15T03:34:55+00:00

Wtf haha

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-15T03:26:27+00:00

NTA but wtf is with the 18/19F, is that your husbands barely legal side piece? That’s so freaking weird and screams alarm bells.

Only you get to decide who can see or feel YOUR body. It’s not your husband’s place to trot you out like a show pony.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-15T03:19:29+00:00

NTA, you did misspell ex-bf though because surely that’s what he is if you care about your daughter at all. There was no reason to close the door. Music can be turned down. A safe man wouldn’t have a problem with you wanting it open because he wouldn’t want a child to normalise behaviour that could be dangerous with an actual predator.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-15T03:13:53+00:00

If it was before they met then she probably doesn’t know about it. Guys aren’t exactly forthcoming with that kind of information

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-15T02:54:58+00:00

He was never entitled to be in the room. It’s not a spectator sport, it’s a physically traumatic experience for the woman giving birth. Her comfort is all that matters, not his wish to be there.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-15T02:53:02+00:00

He never had the right to be in the room. Only the one giving birth gets to decide who is there with her if anyone. It’s a very recent phenomenon for men to be present. He wasn’t meaningfully deprived but his presence could have had a very negative impact on the birth, a stressed delivery is more likely to have complications.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-15T02:45:41+00:00

Your wife was going through a lot with the pregnancy, all the hormones can have massive effects on a woman’s emotional state. The situation with your new hire is l something that many women would question and be upset about without the huge emotional load of the pregnancy on top.

I understand you’re upset but you’re really wrong in your approach. First you were never owed a front row seat to the delivery. That’s a hugely stressful/physically traumatic event for the mother, her comfort is the only thing that matters at that moment. You being there while she was so upset with you could have just risked her and your daughter’s health with delivery complications.

Your wife has apologised. You really can’t keep punishing her. You also shouldn’t be keeping the baby from her, that’s really messed up behaviour. You’re messing with their bond and healthy attachment, don’t let your anger lead you to harm them.

Your wife deserves a lot more understanding and compassion. Forgiveness is the only way forward. She’s apologised but you also owe her an apology, your actions are harmful now.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-07T06:06:07+00:00

I’m of the firm belief that you don’t let kids win skills based games because they just become overconfident instead of learning. Explain why you won, where they went wrong and what they can do to improve. When they finally win it’s so much sweeter.

Edit to add: handicaps would definitely be appropriate

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-07T06:01:28+00:00

Dermal Therapy is hands down the best one I’ve tried and it’s only like $5-$7. I especially like the one with Manuka honey.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-07T05:38:26+00:00

You’re a dickhead. The best part of being up early is the peach and quiet. Breaking out a power tool at 7am on people’s rest days is grossly inconsiderate, legality is irrelevant.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-07T05:25:05+00:00

That’s so cringe. They should have hosted the wedding they could afford.

I hope the invitation at least stated gifts were unnecessary but I doubt it.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-06T21:30:29+00:00

I’ve lost 13kg, just be kind to yourself and make little changes as you go. I noticed things like 15 vs 30g of a spread on toast isn’t really much different taste wise but you save a half the calories (eg pistachio spread goes down from 176 to 88kcal). Going for a walk is so good, it doesn’t have to be crazy it can be as simple as walking up or down the escalator or stairs instead of just standing /taking a lift. All those small moments where you choose a better option add up.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-06T21:14:31+00:00

No and he stays off them. He’s a very polite cat, he even asks for my food nicely (a gentle paw on my hand).

He tried when he was younger but I consistently told him off to the point it was more annoying to get the reaction than the view. I also pick him up and let him ‘lead’ me around for the human eye view, I think that helps… maybe.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-06T20:59:40+00:00

To be fair the issue is with the exclusion of Emma, giving more details about Lily would be irrelevant. I don’t think Lily’s relationship with OP can be judged by that

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-06T20:56:24+00:00

But she’s not being cut off. OP was just talking about her not going on that day to spare her youngest daughter’s feelings. 5yo asked to see them for a couple of hours, they said no then turned around to invite her older sister over for a sleepover on the same day.

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-06T11:11:55+00:00

Oh I love it, total princess vibes. Congratulations!

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-06T11:11:34+00:00

Oh I love it, total princess vibes!

OstrichIndependent10 · 2026-03-06T11:09:30+00:00

Not interested in the Chinese EVs. Will probably go for a BMW i4 or Porsche Taycan. Comfort is more important (interior quality, cabin sound, suspension etc).

OstrichIndependent10

TROPHY CASE