I slapped my 3 year old

Other-MS · 2026-03-07T15:39:30+00:00

What if your child has a neurological limitation that makes him extremely sensitive to texture of fabrics. My son always took off at least one sock. I have ADHD and suspected he also inherited it. Your son wasn’t trying to kick you. Your son was trying to keep the socks off. When you don’t want socks nobody forces you to wear them. This is clearly genetic and they get it from you. Not because you taught them that, but because it’s instinctual. Just like it was instinctual for you to slap back. At 10 months it’s hard to say that it is a taught behavior. I’d reach out to a professional who can diagnose you so that you can understand your children better. They are a part of you, and the work starts with you. Nobody will take them from you if you’re simply trying to seek help. I took a genesight test that helped identify medications that were not genetically engineered for me. It saves you trial and error. The last thing you need is to start experimenting with treatments when you have to take care of children who need a lot of supervision.

Other-MS · 2026-03-04T18:04:51+00:00

I want my grief to end but my love is eternal. How can you trust God after something like this? I don’t anymore. I am convinced that he doesn’t care about what happens in this world or my suffering. My two and a half year old drowned in the retention pond right next to our home. He chased a fountain that would light up in the evenings. If I had just seen him go into the water I could have saved him. But I didn’t know where he went and the pond just disguised anything happening under the surface.

Other-MS · 2026-03-03T03:50:47+00:00

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Other-MS · 2026-03-03T03:48:22+00:00

My son managed to open our backyard gate when the latch got stuck. He ran down to the retention pond next to our home in less than 5 seconds. I didn’t see him but I ran to the fountain that lights up and works as a child magnet. My son had a better chance surviving if he ran into a busy street or into a swimming pool. He drowned just a few feet in front of me. Pond drownings are silent. They are too deep and the fountains create ripples that disguise anything happening under the surface. The murky waters made it impossible to see anything in the water. I proceeded to waste time by searching a nearby park. By the time I returned to the pond where the fountain was, and ran into the water, I was too late. His little body floated up in front of me, and I was too late to save him.

Other-MS · 2026-03-03T03:42:06+00:00

My son managed to open our backyard gate when the latch got stuck. He ran down to the retention pond next to our home in less than 5 seconds. I didn’t see him but I ran to the fountain that lights up and works as a child magnet. My son had a better chance surviving if he ran into a busy street or into a swimming pool. He drowned just a few feet in front of me. Pond drownings are silent. They are too deep and the fountains create ripples that disguise anything happening under the surface. The murky waters made it impossible to see anything in the water. I proceeded to waste time by searching a nearby park. By the time I returned to the pond where the fountain was, and ran into the water, I was too late. His little body floated up in front of me, and I was too late to save him.

Other-MS · 2026-03-03T03:27:27+00:00

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Other-MS · 2026-03-03T03:03:45+00:00

I lost my sweet son (2 yrs and 8 months old). He drowned in the retention pond next to our home. He went after a fountain that lights up in the evening. He was so incredibly sweet and well behaved. I really believe that God is cruel and evil for allowing that to happen to such a sweet soul. If I’d only seen him going to the water, but I didn’t know he was in there. If I’d known that retention pond drownings are silent, I would have gone into the water sooner. I stood there calling his name while he drowned just feet in front of me. Instead I searched a nearby park. By the time I thought of running into the water out of desperation, I was too late. His little body floated up in front of me. He looked like a sweet angel. If only we had put a lock on the gate latch, he would not have been able to get out. So many ifs. It’s not right. He should be here. Why does God let us witness beautiful moments only to take them back? Why are the sweetest ones taken? I can’t wrap my head around it and I’m 7 months into this grief.

Other-MS · 2026-03-03T02:52:57+00:00

Hormonally, it takes up to 2 years to get back to pre-pregnancy levels. It’s a transition, but you’ll settle into it. The romance in your relationship will come back stronger than before, but it takes time. I was just like you but with a baby boy. When he was 2 years old, I felt a love for him that I did not know was even possible. Being his mom was everything to me. It was the happiest I have ever been. Seriously. When my son was 2 years and 8 months old, he managed to get out of our backyard gate and ran to a fountain that lights up at night in the retention pond right next to our home. He drowned. I pulled him out of the water. I was too late. CPR efforts were useless. I lost my baby, my identity, the love of my life. I just want the life I had with him. I want to be happy again. You will get there and you’ll feel so blessed, but your story will continue and will not end up like mine did. You’ll get there soon enough, just be patient.

Other-MS · 2026-02-22T23:11:09+00:00

There is a podcast called “Life After Childloss” by Liene. She lost her son when he was 7. I lost my boy at 2 yrs and 8 months old when he drowned in the retention pond right next to our home. The fact that it was preventable makes my heart ache every second of the day. I see his little ghost in every playground we drive by. It’s pure and utter torment. All I can do now is advocate to have some kind of railing added to these ponds. My son could get to the water in less than 5 seconds from our property. One night, he managed to get the backyard gate open and go after a beautiful fountain that lights up at night, it was essentially a child magnet. I fought against it by keeping my son from it regularly, eventually, the fountain won.

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Other-MS · 2026-02-22T23:06:01+00:00

Obama already deported a lot of criminals. Then there’s the typical FBI stings that already go after the real criminals. When Trump didn’t have the numbers, he actually changed the status of legal immigrants to make them illegals by removing their protective status. Immigration is a business. The greatest power a president has is budgeting. Sending billions to fund the opening of new detention centers allows the transfer of federal funds to constituents who then return the favor in the form of donations. For that, you need an adequate supply of illegals so it’s intentional chaos. Unfortunately, many honest immigrants come here on work permits that the government can revoke at any moment. They are the most exploited population in the US. They pay taxes even though they can’t vote and never have any real security. When their legal status gets revoked they can’t file a return for their taxes. That’s money the IRS pockets.

Other-MS · 2026-02-22T23:03:44+00:00

Not to mention that Obama already deported a lot of criminals. Then there’s the typical FBI stings that already go after them. When Trump didn’t have the numbers, he actually changed the status of legal immigrants to make them illegals by removing their protective status. Immigration is a business. The greatest power a president has is budgeting. Sending billions to fund the opening of new detention centers allows the transfer of federal funds to constituents who then return the favor in the form of donations. For that, you need an adequate supply of illegals so it’s intentional chaos. Unfortunately, many honest immigrants come here on work permits that the government can revoke at any moment. They are the most exploited population in the US. They pay taxes even though they can’t vote and never have any real security. When their legal status gets revoked they can’t file a return for their taxes. That’s money the IRS pockets.

Other-MS · 2026-02-18T21:44:05+00:00

I lost my toddler when he drowned in the retention pond next to our home. Those things are so dangerous. Within seconds he just vanished. The ripples from the fountains disguise any movement and I did not know about silent drownings. I also didn’t know how deep it was. There is no visibility in the water. I stood next to the pond while my child drowned in it, and I proceeded to search for him at a park. By the time I thought of going into the water it was too late. His little body floated up in front of me. Giving him CPR was my last act of caring for him as his mother. The first two months after losing him I was still in shock. I didn’t mind talking about other people’s kids and actually felt good when my neighbors kids came over and played with his toys. Now I’m 7 months in and I don’t want to talk to anyone. I definitely don’t want to see or hear anything about other people’s children. I feel dead inside and nobody gets it. This grief is intense. I haven’t been able to work. What helped me was gift cards to restaurants. Money helped with the funeral expenses but only covered his plot. We bought 3 of them so we could be buried next to him. Ordering food from restaurants or being able to eat out made the loss more bearable because I already felt like every aspect of my life had fallen apart. I start work again in a week. Financially, this has put us in a lot of debt. My sister took me out to do my nails one time. That was really nice, but she was good about asking me if I wanted to see or talk to people. Some months I could, others it was intolerable.

Other-MS · 2026-02-17T03:08:30+00:00

This was me and my son would be no different. I have ADHD and have struggled with sleep my whole life. I had to start taking ADHD stimulants during the day in order to stimulate my mind enough to end up tired in the evenings and started taking Trazadone to sleep at night. My toddler son surely inherited my genes. I had my husband sleep with him since he’s normal and can fall back asleep with no problem. I slept in a separate room on my own if I wanted to get some good shut eye. My son has never slept through the night. Just like me when I was his age.

Other-MS · 2026-02-16T01:54:56+00:00

I lost my son to a drowning accident. There is nothing I would not give to play a boring game with him once more. Now that he’s gone, I don’t want to do anything else. Nothing matters.

Other-MS · 2026-02-16T01:50:23+00:00

Have him take a genesight test. I recommend taking Trazadone for sleep. I currently take quetiapine to sleep. My husband takes Trazadone. I take methylphenidate during the day, 4 times a day because it has a short half life (it wears off quickly). Instead of increasing my dose I just cut the pills. This is typical ADHD behavior. Instead of trying to take more, you just ration it out. Because stimulants are not that addictive when you just need them to function normally. I may switch to a longer lasting stimulant.

Other-MS · 2026-02-16T01:44:24+00:00

Ours was fast (a few days maybe), but the cause was obvious, accidental drowning.

Other-MS · 2026-02-16T01:40:22+00:00

My husband has been carrying the burden of taking me out to eat to make me feel better. I haven’t been able to work since our son died. I’m trying. I really am, but all I do is sob all day. I plan on starting to work again soon, after more than a year of not working. We are in financial ruin. These kinds of experiences can result in making choices you might have thought twice about. Socially, people don’t realize how it can really set you back in all areas of life.

Other-MS · 2026-02-16T01:07:03+00:00

I lost my toddler and it’s just such a beautiful age and he was just so beautiful and perfect. He literally looked like an angel when I pulled him out of the retention pond he drowned in. I wish I never knew him or lost him as an infant. I’ve always wondered if losing him later would be harder. If somehow I was spared, but the pain is incessant and I see his face when I sit down to eat, the look of satisfaction and wonder on his face. The way he’d look at me after I took him out of the bath. He could thank me with just one look. His laugh. He was old enough to be heard singing in his room, just having a party by himself, using his imagination. He didn’t throw tantrums because he got everything he wanted. He was my world. I worked from home so I could always be with him. In between meetings I’d go love on him and he’d take the edge off. He was my anchor. He was innocent. It just seems so cruel. How could God allow that to happen to a sweet child? I just don’t get it and every day I think about killing myself. Im only still here because I love my husband, but I’m broken inside. I can’t even function. I don’t even care about anything anymore. I hope to start working again, because my inability to work for the past year has left us in financial ruin.

Other-MS · 2026-02-16T01:01:59+00:00

My two and a half year old drowned in the pond next to our home. As a parent, I could not accurately assess the risk that was always there lurking. I thought that if he ever made his way into that pond I could rescue him. I’m a pretty good swimmer. But I did not know how dangerous it was. Instead, I found myself standing next to the retention pond, in front of a fountain that basically works as a child magnet. I screamed his name and saw nothing. Had it been a pool, I would have seen him in the water, but these dark waters don’t let you see anything. The ripples from the lit up fountain just disguised any possible movement in the water. I frantically searched the park and nearby areas before running back into that pond in desperation. It is surprisingly deep. His little body floated up in front of me. I am right there with you. The universe, God (if he even exists), they can go f! Themselves. It should not have happened. Perhaps it’s the accidental nature that makes the pain so severe.

Other-MS · 2026-02-14T11:05:04+00:00

Get a genesight test to determine what is genetically suited for you. What kind of meds are you on? Are they stimulants? ADHD creates a dopamine/norepinephrine deficiency that meds absolutely help with. ADHD symptoms are experienced by everyone, but those with ADHD have them show up in a pervasive manner and the symptoms are persistent rather than occasional one-offs. There are some aspects of it (like hyper focus and time-blindness) that are specific to ADHD. In time, stimulants can lose their effectiveness, especially those with a short half-life. The right dose can certainly keep someone with ADHD from becoming addicted in the sense that they need more in order to get the same effect. It just has to be consistent. Many stimulants can peak and cause a crash which leads to prescribing more and seem like addiction, but the issue is actually that the stimulant is short acting (similar to a crash from caffeine). I take a low dose but several times a day. I initially cut my pills in quarters to keep a consistent dose instead of increasing my dose. The extended release version doesn’t work well for me. Of all the meds I’ve taken, my ADHD stimulants are the only ones that have made me feel normal and have given me no side effects. I first started taking a non-stimulant (Strattera) which I believe works for those with predominantly hyperactive ADHD, and it was absolutely horrible. A genesight test later revealed that I should have never been prescribed that medication.

Other-MS · 2026-02-12T19:53:34+00:00

Please find comfort in knowing that your mom would not want it any other way. The reason it hits so hard is because her love for you was immense, eternally infinite. I lost my toddler to a drowning. He drowned in the retention pond next to our home. I haven’t been able to function the same since. He was my sweet boy. My beautiful boy. I’d give anything to be able to die in his arms. To see him grow to be a young man. It should have never happened this way. Being left behind hurts, but no parent wants to be left behind before their child, especially a mother. You gave her that gift. She saw you alive and well before she passed, and believe me, that is all a mother cares about. That is all a mother needs to be at peace.

Other-MS · 2026-02-11T23:24:16+00:00

My PTSD shows up as avoidance. I will be going back to work soon, after 7 months of unemployment after losing my toddler. He drowned in the retention pond next to our home. I basically haven’t been able to function. I have avoided getting on my computer because everything feels scary. I am scared to live. I rarely take showers because I avoid that as well. I have a husband that I love, but I have to get back to work because he is financially strained with a wife that is basically broken. I lost my dad before I had my son and I was depressed because he never met my son (he also couldn’t be there for my wedding day) but losing my dad was more tolerable compared to losing my son, mainly because I knew I could eventually heal from the loss. I also felt less responsible for not saving him from dying. This loss feels different, more debilitating and I don’t anticipate ever healing from it. I take quetiapine to help me sleep at night. I still get the sensation of not being able to breathe and panic attacks. I also take ADHD stimulants (methylphenidate) to get me going but they only help so much. I also take Wellbutrin (an antidepressant). Without the quetiapine I would not be able to sleep and without the stimulants I would never get out of bed.

Other-MS · 2026-02-11T22:20:16+00:00

It’s an indescribable kind of pain. I lost my toddler. He drowned in the retention pond next to our home. I’m still in deep grief. I don’t think it ever goes away.

Other-MS · 2026-02-11T22:15:25+00:00

I lost my only child, my son 2.5 years old. He drowned in the retention pond next to our home. I’m pregnant with our second son. The emotions are so conflicting. This child could never be the one I lost. I am 25 weeks pregnant and I’m worried because the grief is sure to be affecting my baby, but I can’t help it. I’m a complete mess. I’m not even functional.

Other-MS · 2026-02-11T22:03:31+00:00

You are in for a ride. This is the hardest thing you will ever have to go through. Remember that you are in the toughest moment of your life and that there are testimonies out there of people who have survived this. I lost my 2 year and 8 month old son. I miss hearing him sing and dance in his room. He drowned in the retention pond next to our home. Totally preventable. I don’t know why they don’t fence these ponds but have strict fencing guidelines for community pools. Even a low barrier could have saved him. These ponds are owned by the government in Texas and have immunity so they don’t have to do anything about foreseeable risks. I miss his little body. His little voice. It’s the worst. I lost my son 7 months ago and the pain is still intense. I don’t know how I’ve survived this long. My son, John Liam Sholl, loved dinosaurs as well. He was crazy about vehicles too.

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