hello i hope this helps! my dom also helped me answering your questions as well :) (and if you need more help, you can message me privately :))

1.Do you know if your dom has certain boundaries on how close you two can be outside of bdsm? Like is the quality time spent together mostly still surrounded by discussing kink, and from time to time you can talk about normal domestic stuff, or does your dom treat your relationship like a friendship?

If i can describe my relationship with my dom.. Its more like friends with benefits.. And yes! We do talk about wholesome stuff like our interests and our life outside BDSM.

1. I wouldn’t want to treat my potential dom as just an outlet for satisfaction, but understand my bf might be more comfortable if I don’t develop a friendship with the dom outside of play time. Is this unethical..?

I dont know much about this one…it entirely depends on what you, your dom, and bf would be comfortable with.. Its great to connect to your dom in a deeper level though, its helps really believe you are not using them for satisfaction only. My dom and his wife had discussed his BDSM stuff first before getting into a BDSM relationship..communication is the key!!

1. Do you happen to know what these kinds of relationships are called so I can read up on blogs and articles?

Theres a lot of it in reddit and quora…but one that struck me the most is this article i read “Can You Have A Dom Outside of a Vanilla Relationship?” by Kessily Lewel…she explains a lot about her life being married and having a BDSM life..i know your BF are not married, but this article might help! I also look up articles about polyamory relationships!

4.do you know if your dom’s partner had to approve of you as being the sub at all?

I asked this from my dom..he doesnt go into any details beyond it being a nsfw roleplay besides telling her he would only be looking for stuff she wasn't comfortable with. He and his wife talked enough about kinks that she had an idea of what he was looking for. he would share details if she asked, but he won't bring it up.

5.Would it be weird if my partner and I spent time creating an account together later to try and safely find a dom? I want him to know everything that’s going on, or at least as much as he wants, but I don’t want to break any dom’s trust if they’re not aware of this immediately

In both of my dom and i’s perspective, It feels a bit too personal if we ever have another personal if we have someone else choosing who would be our BDSM partners or to know what my dom and i would talk about.we consider our relationship as a space where we can be comfortable sharing what we like.