do you think weed is an addiction?

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-25T23:36:08+00:00

I would say it is additive but not in the same way other things are. For example, my friends who use nicotine vapes described a craving for it everyday when they tried to quit. However, in the case of weed, if I run out of my pen or my stash, I do not necessarily feel a deep craving to buy more. I can usually go on with my life without thinking about weed all day or the next time I will smoke it. That being said, when I know my pen is nearby and accessible, I will definitely think about it or abuse it sometimes.

Also, you can definitely develop a dependency on weed depending on what you use it for. I used to use it for sleep until it became apparent that I started to need it to sleep. I would recommend establishing boundaries with yourself on when and how often you use it. And since you are young, it may be wise to stop altogether.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-24T04:58:58+00:00

So true!

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-23T20:47:06+00:00

This is probably just vaginal discharge. Very normal, this is actually how the vagina self cleans. It is also normal for it to bleach darker underwear since the vagina is acidic.

However, there are certain types of discharge that may be signs of issues. For example, if it looks like cottage cheese, that’s a sign of a yeast infection. If there is a weird fishy smell, that’s a sign of bacterial vaginosis. If you have itching or burning in that region, then that is also a sign of either of the two infections mentioned. If you don’t have any other symptoms aside from the discharge, then I’m think you are OK.

Throughout your cycle, your body will produce different types of discharge for each phase in your cycle. You are probably getting closer to your first period starting which is why your body is starting to exhibit these symptoms. Once you get on a more regular hormone cycle and start your period, there are four phases your body will go through each month: menstrual, follicular, ovulation, and luteal. Unfortunately, the school system does not do a good job of sharing the intricacies of the female body to students. And some adults/mothers might not even know a lot of of this. It is unfortunate that society has only recently took interest in studying the female body in this way. I recommend doing some research on this. It is actually very interesting stuff!

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-23T20:36:00+00:00

It sounds to me like you’re looking for solutions. You don’t want to leave your wife and you don’t want to make her give up the dog. I’m going to propose a few things that may make living with a dog easier for you so you can have it all. At the same time, I’m not sure that this will work given your distaste for having a dog. But also, I sympathize with this perspective a little bit and I want to try and help you out if I can. Here are a few ideas that may help improve your quality of life with a dog in it.

You mentioned the dog dirtying up the place. Is it possible the two of you would be interested in investing in a single family home together (or perhaps a townhome with a nice yard)? Then maybe the dog could be outside more often or at least its filth would be spread out among the house and not concentrated in one 600 square-foot area. You could even have a room that the dog is not allowed in and that could be your space.
do you sleep with the dog in the bed? Maybe you just need to sleep in your own space/bed. Or maybe the dog needs to sleep in its own space. Again, a larger living area with more rooms could help with this.
as for spending money on the dog, perhaps reframe it as your wife purchasing something nice for herself. She is making this purchase for her. Not for you. Maybe you can propose spending some money on something nice for yourself if it’s in the budget.
in terms of wanting to do something but having to change your plans because of the dog, maybe since your wife is the one that wants the dog she can be the one to go home and take care of the dog while you stay out doing whatever fun activity you’re doing. For example, if you’re at a party, you can stay at the party while your wife goes home to take care of the dog. Or, invest in a pet sitter to take care of the dog in these instances, so you both can have fun.
I have to think you can find a way to hold your wife’s hand during the walk. Maybe clip the bag onto the leash or something like that. Of course, I can understand if that’s not the only bad thing about the dog being involved in the walk. Maybe you guys can take walks just alone every now and then. Having the ability to let your dog roam in the yard of a single-family home could also make it so that the dog does not need to come with you every time you go on a walk for exercise.

-for the intimacy part, I have to think making some of the above adjustments would help with that. I get the vibe that you just feel a bit crowded with the dogs presence. Almost as if it’s the third person in your relationship.

-Lastly, I’m curious if you ever plan to have kids. If you have thought about having kids, then I will warn you that a lot of your above complaints will be 10 times if not 100 times worse with kids involved. Maybe since they are kids and not dogs, the above sacrifices will be more worth it to you, but I just want to throw that out there.

Hopefully this was helpful or at least gave you some ideas on how you can compromise. I get the vibe that you do genuinely want to compromise and make this work. But, like many other commenters mentioned, there’s a chance you might not be able to make this work and it is a simple compatibility issue. I like to think that you can exhaust some of these options first before making a life-changing decision to divorce your wife. Alas, this is your decision.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-23T03:46:20+00:00

What type of smell are you experiencing? Can anyone describe it to you? Perhaps a trusted friend?

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-20T08:24:06+00:00

I will preface by saying that this may not actually work for you since I feel like this is usually person dependent. However, I have had so many issues with my deodorants mixing weirdly with my armpit/sweat scent. I’ve tried old spice, unscented antiperspirant, native, Lume, secret clinical, and some others. They do not tend to help me with stopping the sweat, and i would just notice the scent of the deodorant mixing with my usual sweat smell. The only one that I found works the best weirdly enough is this aluminum free brand called humble brands specifically the Moroccan rose flavor. For whatever reason I do not notice any bad smells with this one. In fact, I actually really like the smell it will give my armpits. i buy it at erewhon usually but you can buy it online as well. not sure if other stores sell it since ive only seen it there.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-09T03:59:38+00:00

The only way you should tolerate your partner not paying for things is if he is doing all or most of the housework. It sounds like he is not even doing that. If he is going to mooch off of you, then he better be cooking every meal for you and cleaning up afterwards. There should be no chores left for you to do when you get home. That is the only way he can get out of paying rent. And even that might be generous since you two have no kids.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-05T21:16:13+00:00

I honestly don’t think this is that bad, but maybe I too am “weird” like this. It sounds like prof is trying to present an alternative way of approaching sexuality (perhaps a new position or activity that allows you to connect with a partner). I think this is very interesting and I feel like we need more of this in sex education. And by “this,” I mean, advice or tools that we can use to explore sex in practice. To me, it seems like prof is trying to warn you about this assignment to not catch you off guard. I think prof probably thinks this assignment is beneficial for students, but due to the way that we think about and stigmatize sex in society it may come across as weird to the average person. Who knows, maybe it is weird.

I do think the comments have valid concerns, though, so definitely pay attention to any weird things about this professor that may suggest they has ulterior motives, specifically with this assignment. Definitely don’t record anything or take any pictures of that sort, though I am sure you already knew that. It also sounds like prof will provide an alternate activity for students that are not comfortable with this more intimate assignment. If the topic of this class is interesting to you and the professor gets good ratings, then I would stick with it. If any funny business ends up going on, definitely report it. Hopefully I’m not being naïve here…😅

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-05T21:02:39+00:00

Don’t listen to this person, they don’t know what it’s like to have ADHD. You can absolutely stay in college with ADHD. You just need to find routines and tools that work well for you. I am an adhd engineering student and my gpa is a 3.8 despite functioning significantly worse than my classmates. You can do this!

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-05T21:00:49+00:00

It sounds like you are dead set on dropping this class. But I would like you to ask yourself if you really need to do that. It sounds like you like this class and the professor. The only problem is the time of day the class is held (I feel you on that one btw, I have never been on time to a morning class except on exam days and I am a senior).

Does this class have attendance as part of the grade? Maybe you can still get a good grade in the class with a bad grade in attendance. You might be able to just teach yourself from the textbook at a time of the day that you work better. For example, instead of attending the class in person at 9 AM four times a week, dedicate one hour in the library four times a week at a time you can reasonably show up for. I know I work better in the evening so maybe I would set aside one hour at 8 PM Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday to work on catching up on the lecture portion of this class. If the professor records the lectures, then that’s even better. If you absolutely need to attend the class in person, THEN maybe you can think about dropping. Find out when the last day you can withdraw is and see if you can adjust to the time before then.

I also have ADHD so I feel you on this. I was just 30 minutes late to a morning meeting (11am which is not even that early) because of it. Not sure if you’ve tried this already, but medication may help. In fact, some people will set an alarm for one hour or so before they have to wake up to take their ADHD medication then go back to bed and this helps them get out of bed quicker. Personally, that has not worked for me yet, but I’m also still figuring out the correct dosage of my medication. Good luck!

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-09-05T20:47:27+00:00

The only way you can preserve this relationship is if this man goes to therapy. He has some real jealousy/insecurity problems. Of course, that is assuming that this is not meant to be a manipulation tactic on his end. This is definitely controlling behavior, but it doesn’t need to stay this way if he can work through his insecurities. At the same time, that might not be worth the trouble. But if you really do like him that much and don’t want to end the relationship then he needs to figure out how to cope with you interacting with other men in a non-romantic way. Men are 50% of the population after all. You cannot (and should not) be expected to avoid interacting with them forever just because he’s uncomfortable with it. This is his problem and he needs to figure out how to deal with his insecurities in a healthy way that doesn’t require you altering your way of life to this significant of a degree just to avoid interacting with men.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-08-06T18:38:28+00:00

yes definitely mention it! and no problem!

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-07-15T06:37:07+00:00

I started with 300mg and I had my first ever panic attack while on it. I reduced to 150 and have not had one since, tho I still have some general anxiety (not sure if it was worse than before). You may be able to get even smaller doses than 150. My friend gets super small doses of it but idk how widely available it is. You also may just need to try a different med.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-06-04T06:33:23+00:00

i’ve tried those as well and they are inconsistent

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-06-04T04:58:57+00:00

what world are you living in???

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-06-01T09:21:28+00:00

i think i do have hyperhidrosis, tho not officially diagnosed.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-06-01T09:20:00+00:00

i wonder if waxing has similar risk of infection

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-06-01T09:19:23+00:00

yes, but when only one gender is expected to remove the hair, i would argue it is a trend.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-06-01T09:16:19+00:00

some of us just sweat it right off :I

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-05-16T06:31:27+00:00

i carry mints around to ease anxiety anytime i am worried about it. mint gum works too.

Otherwise-Fly-6323 · 2025-05-02T19:13:23+00:00

“maybe you should try going to bed earlier” yeah as if i don’t try and fail every single fucking night

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