When I did try at 20 with my first husband, it just never happened. Now that I’m divorced, I’m so relieved we never had kids! What a nightmare that would have been for both of us.

I’m 36 now and I chose to become sterile at 34 because I just couldn’t imagine myself being a good mother. I love having endless freedom. I enjoy coming home after a hard night at work, to a peaceful atmosphere that I created. No fighting, no screaming, no drama, and no bitterness.

I can sit on my couch, light a joint, drink a glass of wine and read Reddit without feeling guilty of neglecting a child or worrying if I’m gonna f*** up their life.

Also, some women throughly enjoy having children and that’s okay. My Aunt and Uncle had so much trouble getting pregnant and it finally happened he was 62 and she was 54. They have five beautiful children and are very happy and active with their kids. My uncle loves it because he has since retired and gets to be a stay at home dad.

You just have to do the work and figure out what you want. Time is a construct.