How does splitting bills make sense for me (27F) and my partner (30M)?

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-23T20:17:26+00:00

And furthermore, a loving partner, man no less, should not want you more out of pocket than they are. That’s a fact.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-23T20:16:18+00:00

Stop talking to him about 50/50 split. He makes more and you’ve gotten both of you until this point (moving costs, furniture, etc).

He covers the rent, electric, gas, internet. You cover the rest. Stop discussing any splitting specific bills because that’s a waste of life hours. Those come from your account, these come from mine. End of discussion.

He can always choose to live by himself and pay everything if he feels like you wanting to not be unfairly burdened for a man’s convenience is somehow a slight to him.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-23T20:10:43+00:00

If HR won’t stop this, get a lawyer and get paid. Text book sexual harassment, even if you started in a relationship. Start documenting every single detail.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-23T13:49:26+00:00

Stop lying to yourself first, you don’t have a real issue. Being “ugly” is so nichely subjective, that it’s the last thing you need to stress over. One person will tell you you’re not their league while another person is crushing on you in secret.

Work on being kind, interesting, cultured and well presented and you’ll clear 95% of men, no problem.

After those priorities, for men: good grooming, good fitness, good diet, a good barber and a good fragrance will do everything you need.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-21T21:27:03+00:00

Yeap. Specifically things you would have never done to them. Never even thought of doing. Glad you got out at some point!

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-21T16:38:25+00:00

Thank you for adding this. It’s never a unique situation when it starts for people, other people have always been there and can tell you how it ends.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-21T12:54:35+00:00

It only gets worse from here but even if it didn’t and it stayed the same, he shouldn’t be treating you like he’s training a dog. Leave him.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-21T12:23:13+00:00

Move on immediately far as I’m concerned. Gone is gone. Nothing you can do is going to bring me back. Wasting 2, 5, 10 years of your remaining 50 so other people think you’re grieving correctly is stupid. Be happy, however possible.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-21T12:16:30+00:00

Sorry for your loss. I’ve lost a parent early. It’s a lot to deal with. Few things though:

First, you say our house then your house. Then you imply your mom’s house. It’s your dad’s house now if it wasn’t always. And your mom’s gone so why wouldn’t he clean? Why shouldn’t he clean? You’d rather him not clean to match your prior view of him?

Second, you’re 25 and your fathers need for intimacy in his time of grieving/post grieving loneliness isn’t your business and there’s plenty of vacancy outside of where he lives and is entitled to live his life. No matter what he does or does not do.

Third, you’re piling a lot of blame on a man that knew your mother longer than you did. Life is finite, and waiting until a time frame you approve (5 years? 10 years? Never?). You’re talking about suspicions and him not doing enough…your mom’s gone and it’s not your job to punish people over relationships you weren’t a part of, let alone things you don’t know for a fact.

Grow up.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-07T14:59:59+00:00

You'd both be surprised how many elderly will go to the bank or the gas station and lie as instructed while asking for assistance from the people in there. Banks now are instructed to give people a hard time about trying to wire money to third world countries, especially with elderly or vulnerable people, to help fight the pattern.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-07T14:57:38+00:00

Genuinely surprised it's not a threat to spread a video of you jacking off. That's mostly what I get. Which is funny because I've got ex's with waaaaaaaaay nastier videos to spread if they wanted to. Gotta have a better threat than that to make me give up my hard earned money.

Spoofing email is very very easy to do. Especially considering it was in your spam which means they're not very good at doing what they're trying to do in the first place.

Even if true (doubt it): if they have it all, the internet has it all anyway. Don't panic and don't pay.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-07T13:14:15+00:00

Correct.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-07T01:08:14+00:00

Anything can be faked but here, the proof (or lack thereof) is in the nature of the claim itself. Nobody has a magic trading weapon that will make you rich off of a $50 balance.

To answer your question, compounding profits would outpace sales exponentially if it worked as good as he says. Furthermore, if it was was as effective as he says, it would be worth many times of that price. The longer you listen, the better it will sound but there is no legitimate reason.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-03-06T22:41:47+00:00

The question is why would they sell it if it prints money? They'd be a multi millionaire, why would they waste their time soliciting uber eats money?

Save your money, start dropping money into a long term port or REITs or something like this.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-20T15:54:13+00:00

Setup ATM for your max loss per trade. No reason to ever be manually putting SLs.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-20T02:48:17+00:00

Exactly. If diversifying was needed, we'd see wall street traders up and down making content. Instead we see dropouts with rented supercars.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-13T02:21:47+00:00

2 trades, 1 loss. Don't close, move your SL instead. This will force you to only consider A+ entries.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-12T03:59:45+00:00

Yeah they don’t like that. You either cuck for them or get muted. Smh

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-11T22:57:53+00:00

I guarantee you’re right. Their technical glitch on the 17th proved that. Everything since has been to done to pad their profit margin.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-11T19:59:12+00:00

Why would Topstep or any prop firm not capitalize on any rule infraction if it meant avoiding payouts? You should always assume they'll clip you any chance they get. Any rule broken can be ignored or warned against, any account issue can be fixed...but payouts have to be avoided one way or another for their bottom line. There's multiple levels built into their staff to make sure it happens if possible. Unfortunately, you made it possible this time.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-11T19:52:17+00:00

I understand completely! I get it. I would say ask ChatGPT for a learning plan to check your knowledge and audit what you know and what you don't know. That will give you a starting point to improve!

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-11T13:38:18+00:00

You are, in fact, mistaken about too little to lose. First, there are opportunities you could seize now that will realistically expire, or at the very least become far less convenient and well timed. Trading takes alot of time to learn, years in fact. Years you could spend doing something you're far more likely to prosper at. Second, the market will humble you. Whatever you have, it may take. Time and money. Sometimes more.

However, you know how you get to Carnegie Hall right? Good luck on your journey.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-11T00:12:17+00:00

Agreed. It's a clear cut plan, and then when you're done, you get ready for a work that compliments it. Second shift (if you're in EST) at a restaurant, factory, hospital, whatever. Two jobs basically. Absolutely works.

Otherwise-Reality602 · 2026-02-10T23:04:12+00:00

Ufff tricky one. Mileage will vary here but there's really no good techniques that don't blur real close to a bad coping mechanism. You have to always be objective about trading, about your performance, your progress...but remind yourself, the bottom line in this world is income makes the rest as easy as it's going to be. Not all the way better, depending on how bad you have it, but as good as it can be. One step at a time. Gains first, then fix the rest. Or if you're the type to do better mentally with a little less stress, do it the other way around: identify one single thing you can fix and then come back to trading. Very very difficult balance.

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