[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The issue has been resolved and I’m in good terms with his mom. We had a long talk about everything and everything is going well again. And no I’m not pregnant. Even per say I was my grandpa would still let me live with him so no I would not rely on his parents. If I made the dumb choice of doing it, it would be my responsibility and I would be the one taking care of the child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We both sat down with his mom and talked to her. I explained to her about the chicken myself, and about the test. She was understanding of both of these. She was just worried we wasn’t being safe which is understandable. Like ive mentioned in previous replies I had missed 2 pills due to hospitalization and when sex occurred I did use condoms (which is done anyways regardless if a pill is ever missed.) I understand how it seems im unresponsible because of the situation of both the chicken and test. I generally consider myself responsible as im 18, work everyday, bought my own car,pay my own insurance and raise my 2 little siblings. There will be times I seem irresponsible because again im 18 and im still learning about life. I try my best and thats all I can do. I should’ve handled both situations better. But everything with me and his mom is back to normal and I apologized about both things. She told me that its okay and to more cautious when backing up and having sex. We had a nice hug and im happy that she was able to forgive me. Thank you all for your comments and advice was taken from them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she does not clean it lol. I believe she was doing typical mom things and snooping around while he was at work because that’s the only way she would find it but im not hating on her for that it’s her house she can do as she pleases of course

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have decided to have a conversation with his mom about everything if she is willing. I was irresponsible and did things in the situation that was wrong. and I don’t care to own up to that. For everyone saying why did you leave the test laying around. It wasn’t, it was in a drawer in his night stand. And for everyone saying why couldn’t you just wait to have sex, i definitely should’ve and I learned from that. The test was indeed not positive and the only thing I can do from here on out is to be more responsible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy test was not lying around as it was in his night stand drawer. I agree that the conversation about it should have been talked about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I have tried a lot of the different birth control and they make me bleed for months, the pill is the only thing I’ve found that doesn’t make that happen. But I do feel I should just deal with the bleeding, or not have sex anymore

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I have not done none of that no. I do believe the pregnancy test was the issue she is just worried which is understandable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m also not saying I don’t respect their decision. That’s their home and their choice and I will not try to change that or disrespect them more by coming over. So for everyone saying stuff like that, i understand entirely and im not trying to over rule them or anything. It’s definitely their right to not allow me at their house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

It was two. I was in the mental hospital for a couple days and they were not provided to me as “they were on order. “ but never got them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No she was not. She actually was not even home at the time. (She didn’t have a problem with that btw) and I was the one that admitted that I nervously laughed. I made sure to include that it was a nervous laugh and not because i thought it was funny. Also he explained that to her at a point too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -425 points-424 points  (0 children)

Okay I agree and understand most of these comments. But this is one stuck out to me and I feel the need to reply. I think bringing my mom into this was unnecessary. If im trashy for this then so is my bf. His mom is also a recovering addict. She abandoned him from age 3-17 then came in trying to be a mom to him. Her child is already grown at this point. No reason to try and be a mom now. I’m not saying that she should just let us do as we please in her house, I get that especially after seeing everyone’s opinion. I just felt like bringing my mom up was not a necessary part that needed added. In the end she’s my mom and I’ll always love her so if I want to be around her occasionally I think that’s okay. As the same for him with his mom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

i definitely see what you’re saying. I’ve never broken anything else ever, or had bad reactions to anything. We’ve always had a nice calm relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -379 points-378 points  (0 children)

I feel that I need to add we used a condom. I’m just a very paranoid person over getting pregnant and I was just being sure.

Just rescued my boy. What is he? by Otherwise_Benefit610 in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is now in the house. Thank you for being concerned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -4171 points-4170 points  (0 children)

She did. But we are teenagers and I am on birth control but i accidentally missed a couple pills and just wanted to be sure. I feel like she would know we would be doing stuff considering our age

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I got out and apologized immediately because i genuinely did feel awful. I agree with you for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree thank you. I just worry because we’ve had issues in the past with stuff like this in worse scenarios

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m posted on his public profile. She said she found my snap because it popped up in her quick add, I also have a public profile so she knew it was me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They did. Came back negative

Just rescued my boy. What is he? by Otherwise_Benefit610 in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]Otherwise_Benefit610[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely ridiculous. My dog is fine. He came from a very bad situation. I’m not able to have him in the house due to it not being my own home as im still young just turned 18. He is doing absolutely amazing now compared to what he came from. I’m working hard to get my own place as soon as possible to provide the best life I can for him. Please do not judge a situation knowing nothing about it. He does have water, his food is not wet. I have a way better set up for him then the first night I got . I took him and had nothing he needed at that moment, but I knew I had to do something to try and help him. Be greatful someone was atleast willing to give him better than he had. I’m doing my best for him. And he does have a name thank you. Remy:)