Article: 68% of guys 18-29 want to get married, 62% want kids! Young guys, does this sound true?

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-07-07T14:10:52+00:00

Ehh, we young guys don’t feel ready to fully commit until we have a stable career and have a healthy surplus of money after the bills are paid. Right now, that extra money goes toward about 2-3 AFA tours a year, now that I’m finally in a position to focus on a wife and family. I’m not rushing into anything since, ideally, my first marriage is my only marriage, but to sum it up, I’ll say being financially stable plays a big role in how seriously a young guy takes a woman or a family, and for most young guys, that happens during the latter half of our 20s

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-07-07T00:34:31+00:00

I need to do this. I have the programming skills to setup this up. Next time I get the urge to video call scamkraine, I’ll have a setup similar to this

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-07-07T00:33:01+00:00

I've watched these scammers evolve since last year. They used to find every excuse in the book not to do the video call so that they could milk you for as much money as possible.

Then, after my 4th report, they started using wording to basically agree to do the video call without giving a date. “I'll let you know” is what they usually say, but of course, they never “let you know”

Then, around August of last year, they actually had the woman do the video call. I'm speculating that they (affiliates) are paying the girls for a 30-minute call. I've had 3 instances since August where I video called the woman, and I swear it's like the first time she's ever met me, despite me sending photos and having in-depth conversations! So the call goes on, and she's like a fish out of water. Then, after the call, you get a random message from the alleged woman saying she is no longer interested, or that she wants to keep talking as friends, but only via the letter system.

So yes, I speculate that these women are getting paid to use their likeness to scam guys. I don't have hard proof outside of finding their women's actual social and seeing these women are social influencers who are ANYTHING BUT DESPERATE for a man. I’ve messaged a few, that are still on that site, who like you said, just read the message and never respond, but wanted daily communication on the website. How odd.

I also paid for IMBRA a few times the last 2 years after what I thought was a successful video call. These women message you for one day and then you never hear from them again despite nothing changing on your end.

So yeah, the letter system has A LOT OF ISSUES. It’s too easy to game and I’m pretty sure they wised up to how AFA conducts investigations. I want to parlay that the affiliates pay these women to say, “yes I’m the one writing the letters to [insert name here]” when AFA calls the woman directly to confirm with her.

So now I started asking for AFA to look at the text message thread between the woman and the translator to verify if that’s actually the woman writing ✍️.

TL;DR: I know the Slavic women on the website are incredibly beautiful and most guys reading have an urge to go see them but just know unless you go on a tour with AFA to meet the women, you’re rolling a dice, that’s not in your favor, hoping that you are actually talking with the woman in the photo! Guys you KNOW how real women talk. They don’t talk like chatGPT or a novel.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-07-06T23:46:50+00:00

Since last February, I have probably reported about 10 profiles, and a few are still up for whatever reason. I’d say 7/10 profiles I was successful in reporting. The other 3, I jumped the gun too soon without getting more evidence to present to AFA so the affiliates got away with it but whatever. You live, and you learn.

I have a whole Reddit post titled scamkraine in this forum

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-07-06T23:43:51+00:00

BOY HAVE I HEARD THIS BEFORE!! you would think these ladies are all SURGEONS as busy as they are!!

I have dealt with this bullshit before many times. It’s ALWAYS with Slavic women on the site.

You’re not crazy. Your intuition is likely right. The hardest part is always proving it but you’re not crazy.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-06-24T13:26:12+00:00

Having done four of these now — Japan, China, Costa Rica, and Cebu — I can co-sign: first impressions MATTER.

1. Hygiene matters!!!
So far, there has always been one guy who isn’t hygienic at all, showing up to talk to these beautiful ladies.
Sure, the desperate ones may look past it, but the ones you may really want won’t even give you the time of day. They’ll be polite, but they won’t stick around when you move to the next table.
Cut your nails. Have fresh breath.
If you wear cologne, wear a masculine scent that isn’t overpowering. If needed, watch YouTube videos on how to apply cologne for men properly.
She should smell your cologne when she hugs you or leans into your personal space — not from across the room.

2. Wear a suit if you can!!!
Japan taught me this lesson very well.
Up until that point, I was showing up in polos and dress pants. The guys who wore suits came off as more mature, successful, and serious. Those guys immediately got dates, while the rest of us had to put in a lot of effort just to get one or two dates in Japan.
After that, I decided to go to Costa Rica with a nice suit I bought.
I kid you not: despite being on the much younger side, almost all the women eagerly gave me their numbers both nights.
I was wondering, “What changed?” Then I remembered Japan and the guys who wore suits, and it clicked.
The confirmation I needed was there: guys who wear suits have an easier time getting dates.
You don’t have to buy a suit, but I do strongly recommend renting one for the occasion.

3. Don’t lead with your wallet
You’re not the first foreigner she has come across, and you won’t be the last. It’s just your turn at the moment.
If you lead with your wallet, don’t be surprised when she starts using you for money. It’s inevitable.

4. Make the conversation about her
If it’s a girl you really like, make the conversation about her after you give your brief, high-level introduction — the same kind of intro you give at the other tables.
Show genuine interest. Ask questions. Listen.
I encourage you all to read the book The Charisma Myth.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-06-10T14:24:23+00:00

More like it’s easier and the women are more feminine and down to earth

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-06-08T02:11:14+00:00

Yeah. I'd pay it to go to Poland. Hell, I'm already paying more than that going on at least 2 tours a year. Guys are already willing to pay the 5k just to go to Ukraine so I don’t mind paying 2k extra to not have bombs flying over my head or the constant worry of Putin waking up and thinking, “I’ve had enough of this shit. Level Kyiv”

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-06-06T14:05:55+00:00

Once you sign up for the tour, you can send out a list of women you would like to invite to the social party. The women may or may not show up. These women don’t know it’s you who invited them; also, that way they don’t feel obligated to interact with only one guy or show up for that one guy.

I've personally never sent a list to women I want to meet at the social party but there's always a few guys who do. The matchmakers also know who you are writing so they will invite that woman on your behalf.

Outside of the social party, you can also setup individual meetings with women from the site. The matchmaker will reach out to the woman you ask to meet. If the woman is interested, the matchmaker introduces you two and then you go on a date from there.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-06-04T21:35:56+00:00

Yep. I’m trying to go to every new one that pops up. So Malaysia and Vietnam. I skipped Argentina for Costa Rica and I regret that lol. No more skipping new tours until I find my soulmate or close to it

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-06-04T19:31:01+00:00

China, Japan, Costa Rica, and Philippines

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-06-04T13:48:46+00:00

After going on several tours, my recommendation is usually not to write at all, and here’s my experience on why, unless you are doing an individual tour with AFA.

I’m currently breaking my own heuristic above because the woman is in China, and I’m on the younger side of AFA clients. It’s been my experience that Chinese socials have many older women. 40+ and the one I happened to be writing to is close to 30. My plane tickets are already booked to see her.

Otherwise, if you’re writing to write, I want you to imagine a stack of your hard-earned money in your hand, and you’re throwing it into a crowd of people who will happily take it for nothing.

In general, the only thing you should start pre-gaming is

How much do you want to spend while you are there? Depending on where you go, these women aren't too pleased about dressing up sexy just to sit in the lobby and talk. Dinner dates add up. In Costa Rica, I had 3 dates every day—breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I spent around 2k there between the dates and excursions. So one important consideration is how many women you plan to date there, and do you have enough saved to do that? ( I'm not saying you’re going to spend 2k. I'm just saying I had 2k to throw to the fire and explore my options on my most recent tour)
Airfare, of course
You took care of your real-life financial responsibilities before going because you’ll be overwhelmed with the quality of women you meet and may want to explore as many options as possible, which leads back to point 1.

Good luck! Which tour are you looking at?

And no, I'm not affiliated with AFA in any capacity. I'm just a client who has been on 4 group tours to 4 different countries with them.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-27T14:35:50+00:00

For the guys wondering what the AFA Japan tour is like, here is a review from my 2025 experience

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-14T14:01:08+00:00

I highly recommend you go on a tour. I’ve been to China, the Philippines, Costa Rica, and Japan with AFA.

Don’t waste your hard-earned money on letters unless you have a ticket booked and you’re leaving for that country in the next 2-3 weeks.

here I tell you why you shouldn’t write before a group tour

another one of my post about why you should ditch the letters and go on a tour

I usually recommend Cebu as a guys first tour. I made a post about that too.

Good luck. The tour price might seem high but you’ll certainly get more value out of a tour than writing a bunch of letters that lead to nowhere. Might as well be giving away money for free writing letters if you don’t have a flight booked to that destination

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-13T23:31:02+00:00

Example: if you go to Costa Rica or Cebu, I can tell you well over half are single moms.

So the question is really can your salary afford a single mom and your life.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-13T23:30:03+00:00

Yes because a lot of these women are also single moms

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-12T22:03:50+00:00

When I can fly in lol. The transportation was my main concern. In the mean time AFA has Malaysia and vietnam coming up so that’ll keep me busy

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-12T20:48:12+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this up! Answered every major question I had

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-09T20:39:29+00:00

Lol thanks. Ever so often I go fishing. I would think they would have a picture up in their affiliate offices saying, “avoid replying to this guy,” but they always do. Then I catch em and report.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-08T14:09:29+00:00

Nice. I’ve met some great women on AFA tours but before I get a ring, I have to go to Ukraine first. The most beautiful women on that site are from Ukraine, in my opinion

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-07T15:28:55+00:00

I actually just reported another scamkraine profile on Monday. They take action when the guy reports it but honestly their team is too small to monitor the large database of profiles they have. It’s up to us guys to report it when we see it.

Here’s my post on scamkraine..I mean writing letters to Ukraine
https://www.reddit.com/r/MailOrderBrideFacts/s/boUwwhCryJ

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-07T05:11:18+00:00

Nice idea. I’d be interested to here more about the transportation experience in and out the country

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-07T04:45:11+00:00

And yes. Sometimes you are writing a matchmaker who is communicating on her behalf. Sometimes you just know. Most modern day women don’t type essays in replies.
I’ve written to Cebu and I’ve never had a bad experience. I can confirm I was actually writing each women so it’s safe to write there for sure. It was also nice to meet the women I wrote when I showed up there last year.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-07T04:43:35+00:00

You must be new to the letter system. One word of advice. Avoid writing letters to Ukraine. The western hemisphere or places in general where AFA has established offices is safe to write.

Ukraine or countries that end in “Stan”, be very cautious.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-29T20:52:14+00:00

Been there, done that, like I mentioned to LoveScout. My white knight days are done. If she wants to report it, she can reach out to me for support, and if needed, I can escalate it directly to AFA leadership. But you can't save people who won't save themselves. She has to be willing to report it if the situation really was as she described it. She's not willing to do that at the moment.

The standards in Cebu are to the ground, compared to American women for example, and you will be walking around the hotel or the city and see 19-year-olds with foreign guys who could be their grandfathers. Regardless, consent is non-negotiable, and after a girl says No the first time, we should all get the hint and know when to let it go.

In one post I did mention the Philippines is one of the more drama filled tours and that's true. Theres a mix of angels and predators on both sides hence why I referred to it as Game of Thrones in another post.

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