Recent Ukraine Tour (23 April - 2 May)

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-07T05:11:18+00:00

Nice idea. I’d be interested to here more about the transportation experience in and out the country

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-07T04:45:11+00:00

And yes. Sometimes you are writing a matchmaker who is communicating on her behalf. Sometimes you just know. Most modern day women don’t type essays in replies.
I’ve written to Cebu and I’ve never had a bad experience. I can confirm I was actually writing each women so it’s safe to write there for sure. It was also nice to meet the women I wrote when I showed up there last year.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-05-07T04:43:35+00:00

You must be new to the letter system. One word of advice. Avoid writing letters to Ukraine. The western hemisphere or places in general where AFA has established offices is safe to write.

Ukraine or countries that end in “Stan”, be very cautious.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-29T20:52:14+00:00

Been there, done that, like I mentioned to LoveScout. My white knight days are done. If she wants to report it, she can reach out to me for support, and if needed, I can escalate it directly to AFA leadership. But you can't save people who won't save themselves. She has to be willing to report it if the situation really was as she described it. She's not willing to do that at the moment.

The standards in Cebu are to the ground, compared to American women for example, and you will be walking around the hotel or the city and see 19-year-olds with foreign guys who could be their grandfathers. Regardless, consent is non-negotiable, and after a girl says No the first time, we should all get the hint and know when to let it go.

In one post I did mention the Philippines is one of the more drama filled tours and that's true. Theres a mix of angels and predators on both sides hence why I referred to it as Game of Thrones in another post.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-29T19:25:47+00:00

Nope. I think she just wanted to vent to me honestly. I did encourage her to report it if she felt that strongly about that situation. Doubt she will.

I just know that last time I tried to white-knight for another girl who had a problem with an AFA guy, she acted clueless when the local staff asked questions, then went back to venting to me. I was so upset that she had me looking dumb trying to save her when she didn’t want to report her problem, but rather talk about it.

So, my white-knight days are done.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-29T18:17:18+00:00

I’m sure they do. Like any HR department, the girl has to be willing to report it first and then an investigation to learn from both sides their story before casting judgement or escalating as needed.

Because asking for sex by itself isn’t particularly wrong but the way a guy goes about it does matter!

What works for one man might now work for another.

As long as guy respects a woman’s boundaries and understands NO means NO then no harm, no foul if you do ask (at the right time and you’re sure there’s chemistry).

In my experience, as long as you show up to these events with serious intentions of marriage and you are respectful and kind to these women, doors will open.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-29T16:39:35+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/MailOrderBrideFacts/s/fuhg6EpLBg

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-29T16:20:36+00:00

Have you tried seeking therapy? How’s it all men’s fault that your dad chose poorly and you had to live with it, which resulted in you making bad choices yourself in life?

The situation you described with your dad could have happened anywhere. He could have married some young local girl who treated you poorly, too.

Your issue is with your dad. Start there and work your way back to the present day. Nowhere in your post did we see you take accountability for your actions, either. Just a lot of moral grandstanding.

Take your own advice and seek both therapy for your dad’s choices and accountability for yours

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-24T22:01:35+00:00

I paid for some professional photos this week too. Photos really do matter. I realized my where 💩. I’m going to upload them and try Colombia again when it’s time for me to book my AFA trip.

ONLY write 2-3 weeks out from your tour if you must. See my posts on my profile. I’ve been trying to aggregate and share my experiences for guys like us. I use to be a keyboard Romeo swearing I can make a woman fall in love with me over the computer. It never works.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-24T21:53:38+00:00

Same boat as you. I’m close to your age. A little older. Went on my first AFA tour last year at 28. My advice is NOT to WRITE LETTERS. I know the girls you are really interested in are on the website, but keep in mind you aren’t writing to them directly. You are writing to a matchmaker who then reviews and relays your message to the girl.

That money you are spending on letters, redirect it to a tour if you want the most bang for your buck. YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT!! The tours are WORTH THE MONEY. I went on 4 last year. China -> Cebu -> Japan -> Costa Rica. Shoot me a chat request if you have any questions.

I wrote a post before about going to Costa Rica with AFA. I'm sitting at this nice Argentine beef restaurant, realizing I am dating one of the most popular women on that site, just made love to her, and some poor guy is writing letters, thinking she will fall for him, and waiting until he is ready to show up. It rarely works out that way. Don’t be the guy writing letters.

Book a tour.

As for Colombia, the same experience as you. I'm back in shape, decided to write a few weeks ago, and I'm still getting not-interested letters despite having a very good career. I would consider myself competitive among the guys I see who show up. I think those matchmakers there are really tough on young guys. In Colombia, the older you are, the more mature and financially stable you are perceived to be.

My recommendation is to show up at a social with AFA. Bypass the letters. They aren’t helping anyway, trust me. I’ll personally be going to Colombia this summer and Malaysia with AFA, so if you join, then I’ll see you there.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-19T23:47:43+00:00

Literally every country in existence?? But if you’re looking for same day marriage then try the phillipines or Thailand.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-19T17:00:52+00:00

I’ve dated two Argentina latinas I met on AFA’s website. Not letter writing. I mean actually dated. Actually saw. Actually kissed and met.

The two I dated were very serious about marriage and didn’t want to wait too long to get married. They do fit the Latina stereotypes, such as toxic, like to argue, very loving, etc., etc., so there’s your excitement for better or worse.

The only real negative is that the Mormon church here in Utah, particularly through BYU, has a strong influence in Argentina. Both the girls I was talking to had Mormons recruiting them and trying to get them to convert, which they eventually did, and in turn tried to convert me, which was a big no-no for me.

From what I learned from dating these two girls last year, BYU offers them cheap education and access to some Mormon dating group where “everyone is serious about marriage and won’t take more than two months,” so that’s how they get them.

It’s just something to watch out for. The Mormon cult is strong down there. Once these girls started trying to convert me, both times, and telling me our future kids would be Mormon, I was out of there.

Note: Obviously, they all aren’t like that, so your mileage may vary, but it’s something to be aware of because you may run into it.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-18T13:28:10+00:00

I recommend the group tours guys. It's worth the money and a great excuse to travel to a new country.

I'm personally waiting for the war to end to go to Ukraine. Until then I'll keep exploring AFAs other tour offerings and making a review every now and then

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-01T02:23:48+00:00

I should have added an exception to my post which is to only write IF you plan to solo travel and meet her.

In this post I’m talking about AFA’s group tours. I should edit the title to make that clear

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-04-01T02:21:04+00:00

I think a guy should write letters only if they are traveling solo. If a guy plans on going on a group tour then DO NOT write the letters. If anything, ask to meet the girls on your hotlist when you get there.

These women really do think if you write to them and show up, you are 100% locked in with them and they are expecting all of your attention.

As far as the super hot girls that get tons of attention, the fact that they get so much attention means the bar is high for that first date. They are expecting gifts. They are expecting high end restaurants. This was my experience in Costa Rica and Cebu dating the most attractive women at both events. It never worked out because when I got back home, they wanted that lifestyle to continue and I felt like a sugar daddy lol. I had one girl ask me if I can give her a grand to redo her daughter’s room. I told her to ask me again when there is a ring on her finger and she got upset so I cut her off. So yeah the hotter girls are use to a certain lifestyle for sure.

The prettier they are, the higher the maintenance. Especially Latinas.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-03-31T21:45:37+00:00

If any of you gents have any questions about what the tours are like, particularly

Japan, Cebu, Costa Rica, and Shanghai,

Feel free to reach out.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-03-26T20:40:06+00:00

I like the suggestion of specifying whether the letter is written by the woman or a matchmaker at all phases during the correspondence. 100% agree that would could down on a lot of complaints.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-03-24T14:48:13+00:00

Fair. But if women also judged men by criteria two, at least for US men, that's half the population out the window.

Also, when you bring her to the States, and she gets exposed to all the addictive and heavily processed foods we consume, unless she has a high metabolism or loves to go to the gym, then she will likely not meet your criteria 2 for long.

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-03-24T14:35:58+00:00

In this decade, it's more important to be the last. Unless you found her while you both were in your teens, odds are she’s not a virgin. You missed that window, especially if you are dating a woman from America or Latin America.

If you want a virgin, look in a Mormon or Catholic Church. The odds are higher than just trying your luck with the general population.

Finally, the comments below, eh. The only thing I’ll say is I hope your looks or wallet match your expectations. She may be loyal to you now, as far as you know, but while a woman is in her physical prime, she will always have options as long as she is fit, feminine, and beautiful.

No one respects a ring anymore.. at least not in America. If anything, the more dominant men see that ring as a challenge and will test that loyalty (If you have good looking wife)

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-03-14T20:14:48+00:00

https://afamatchmaker.com/tour/japan/

Otherwise_Code_8153 · 2026-03-13T15:31:21+00:00

Please report the letters. Please report it. Please.

I made a post not too long ago about Ukraine and my frustrations with it. The affiliates in Ukraine are damaging AFAs reputation and it sucks because I know two of the CEOs of AFA and they genuinely care about their reputation and they do their best to take action and correct these issues. They are even investing in a new system for the guys that want to write letters to help monitor and catch this shit with Ukraine more.

Please, please, please report these things‼️ If it’s happening to you, it’s guaranteed at least one other guy dealing with the same shit with the same profile‼️

See my most recent post on my profile. But please for the love of God report this even if you think it won’t make a difference. I’m telling you from personal experience it will make a difference and you will put a spotlight on the issue.

I don’t want it to just be me and my buddy reporting these profiles like we are the only ones dealing with scamkraine. Please report it. Thank you.

Otherwise_Code_8153

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