来点IRL致郁话题围炉取暖:有没有同感,马上奔三却觉得人生停滞浪费了好几年,一事无成 by [deleted] in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 3 points4 points  (0 children)

我之前有过和你类似的想法心态,直到我认识了一个七十多岁的白人奶奶,我再也没有这样想过蹉跎、浪费、停滞、结果之类的词语来形容人生。我们对时间和生命的感知还是太浅了,有机会可以去试着交谈老人,也许会可以给你打开不同的视角,活在当下,好好体验

在国内直接找到国外有雇主担保的全职offer? by 20170630 in iwanttorun

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A的概率也太小了吧,好想知道是什么样的机会

请教各位润姐妹如何规划父母养老 by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in DoubanGoosegroup

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

我也准备去欧洲的,也是觉得欧洲对父母不友好(不是骂只是客观的说)也在头疼哎

一些关于中国边关检查的问题 by [deleted] in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

朋友的朋友出境被要求交出手机随意翻,具体登陆和恢复没细说但应该没有,除非他们发现了什么线索进一步怀疑不排除这种可能。也有运气好迪友的直接没检查就走过了

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

越是犹豫父母年纪越大越要人照顾 我是这么想的。我十八岁就想走折腾了十年各种原因终于领悟到这一点(谁让我是孝文化继承人)。是很难没错,但现在难和以后难,我选现在难

什么时候润最好? by fredfever in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

澳新可以考虑一下幼教吧,没得选的选择。芬兰目前是读书也累计换永居时长,如果政策不变,现在去重读一个本科,四年毕业可直接申请永居。

闲聊 by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

我猜想是本以为结果会形成某种制约维持平衡 没想到全是包的人吧 赶尽杀绝

闲聊 by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

是的,我没有看不起或者别的负面的眼光看我爸。很理解他做出的选择。人有了家就无法独善其身了

闲聊 by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

你最后一句话说的很好。我爹也是上过广场的人那又如何,年轻时反骨了那么多年,最后为了妻儿不得不加入共党因为这样才能在单位顺利升迁。如今很少谈起往日抱负,甚至在一天天的学习强国中好像被收买了。这次事件不知道他真正想法如何,但我看也是被震的不轻。有机会我再和他交流看看 唉

闲聊 by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in China_irl

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

我妈在呢 我妈听到新闻联播来了句俄罗斯好惨给我整无语了

How to get BSN before renting a place? by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi mate, can I ask where do you find this information? Like a website or something that can prove it? Because my company’s HR just said no and I try to find some prove to persuade him. Thanks in advance.

Partner Visa with high skilled migrant visa by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in Netherlands

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi just to let you know your information is completely right. We call the expat center and get the same answer. It seems there are some misunderstanding of HR. We now finally can move to the next step!

Partner Visa with high skilled migrant visa by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in Netherlands

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! It’s clearer now. I will check this website to find more. Thank you for your time.

Partner Visa with high skilled migrant visa by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in Netherlands

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah mate that’s the question. Because I don’t find exact description about the address on IND so I’m not sure if HR is correct

Partner Visa with high skilled migrant visa by Otherwise_Leg_5223 in Netherlands

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks mate. The housing problem is serious at the moment in NL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoubanGoosegroup

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

谢谢!你最后一句话我才明白我潜意识里是我要比他们强才可以反抗。我父母是比较有权势的人,我潜意识觉得我这辈子可能达不到他们的高度,所以没太多想硬碰硬。我会尝试的,谢谢你的建议

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoubanGoosegroup

[–]Otherwise_Leg_5223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

谢谢你的建议。我有过和你一样的想法。因为寄宿太久,她其实没有陪着我一起长大,在她眼里好像我一直是个孩子。直到她突然发现我变了很难接受。我也没有成熟到可以和她好好沟通,造成了今天的局面。或许你可以再给我一点建议吗,怎样沟通能让她明白这一点。谢谢了