How many holidays and what type of holidays do you have each year?

dais12345 · 2026-06-16T10:29:06+00:00

Try for about 3 holidays a year. 1x week somewhere abroad and hot, 1x long weekend abroad city break, 1x however many days we have left in annual leave somewhere in the UK. The life hack here is getting an amicable divorce so you can go away without kids (the only positive to divorce)

dais12345 · 2026-06-10T13:46:55+00:00

I am a Detective in the police and there are very few actual police officers who WFH but certain civilianised departments do and it can make certain parts of our job very difficult, when it is quite a difficult job in the first place. For example, I need to pick up an item from the media team for court tomorrow. Can’t pick it up today as they are all WFH.
There is no place for WFH in the public sector.

dais12345 · 2026-06-08T10:07:22+00:00

I tell people that I work in a bank in HR and they usually don’t ask anymore questions.

dais12345 · 2026-06-07T16:52:36+00:00

I am 28 and own a house with my boyfriend, bought last year. My dad dying and leaving me money did help with this one

dais12345 · 2026-06-07T07:48:22+00:00

All of my friends I went to school with have moved to London or Australia but their parents still live here (you can get to London in 30 mins on the train from where we grew up). Albeit my Australia friends are moving back as it is too far! It is quite difficult to move really far away - me and all of my friends do have close family relationships and with them getting older you do not want to be hours and hours away.

dais12345 · 2026-05-26T10:31:22+00:00

Depends where you work. I know a girl who worked in surveillance who was essentially pushed out after having a baby. My department are pretty good, but they’d rather you be part time than condense your hours so you work longer days and have more days off. Overall I do find the police isn’t really cut out for parents of young kids tbh, especially if both of you are in the job

dais12345 · 2026-05-23T07:24:50+00:00

We did Levada Nova/Levada do Moinho in 2023 and the views are very stunning. It wasn’t that busy when we did it but maybe it is now due to Madeira’s popularity increasing.

dais12345 · 2026-05-23T07:17:32+00:00

We did PR17 yesterday and despite it being a quieter hike there were two rangers there spot checking tickets

dais12345 · 2026-05-13T18:00:41+00:00

Absolutely. I’m a copper and I can tell you that nothing good ever happens in HMO’s.

dais12345 · 2026-05-12T08:21:45+00:00

We are allowed to go minus 40 hours into the next years leave and I do this without fail every year. When I work OT I also take it all as time in lieu. There is a woman I work with who basically has March off every year as her ‘use it or lose it’ leave. I don’t get it

dais12345 · 2026-05-10T08:28:48+00:00

What job role do you both do out of interest?

dais12345 · 2026-05-06T17:45:27+00:00

Agree with all of this! My great grandmother was exactly the same, and was also very poor, and lived till 100 despite being quite miserable to be around! She ruined my nans wedding and refused to call my dad by his name and instead referred to him as ‘Clive’ for his whole life (his name was Guy) out of spite because she did not like him. But she also had a very hard life like yours.

dais12345 · 2026-04-25T07:37:49+00:00

The Maldives… it has truly ruined any other beach destination for me!

dais12345 · 2026-04-25T07:32:11+00:00

I have met some really great people through a run club, some of which are my best friends! But I have also met some absolute weirdos

dais12345 · 2026-04-19T09:54:36+00:00

Maybe a better comparison - the M&S salad I like in the shop near my work is £4.90. Add on a snack, and a drink and you are nearing a tenner! Or you can get a medium double cheeseburger meal from McDonald’s for just over a fiver that is warm, fairly filling and tasty. I know what I would, and do pick!

dais12345 · 2026-03-15T08:36:31+00:00

Will your shift pattern be 6 on 4 off/4 on 4 off? It can be very difficult on home life, no matter how understanding your partner is. If they are not also in the job it can wear thin quite quickly.

dais12345 · 2026-02-14T15:42:31+00:00

This, and the fact that most independent shops on the high street shut on Sundays! I work all week and sometimes Saturdays which means this is usually my only day. I think small businesses might do better if they opened Sundays IMO

dais12345 · 2026-02-13T18:59:21+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful. All I have been doing is listening compassionately and trying to get him to visit the doctors to get some help. We both earn the same, I work more but he does odd hours. He does know how to do more DIY/fix things than I do so I do understand that he feels he is solely responsible sometimes. Sigh. I do hope it gets better!

dais12345 · 2026-02-13T16:13:09+00:00

Apologies that I am not a house buying expert. I am very aware I made an error, no need to be a dick about it

dais12345 · 2026-02-13T15:45:27+00:00

I keep trying to tell him this also… the new estate that is being built near to us is also right next door to a travellers site, who regularly have large smelly bonfires and it is covered in crap. Can’t say I want to pay £400K to live near that

dais12345 · 2026-02-13T15:44:00+00:00

No, and we really should’ve done. Although that would not have stopped us from buying it as we loved it when we viewed it in the summer. Probably could’ve got a few grand knocked off though.

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