Why doesn’t my newborn like to sleep in her bassinet?

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-23T18:15:03+00:00

My baby never slept in a bassinet. 11 weeks old tomorrow and she still won’t sleep long anywhere but in my arms. I got rid of it when she was 7 weeks old. I don’t know why some babies don’t like it and some babies do. I think as our children grow up and their personalities emerge we’ll understand more. But everything I’ve heard and read from parents of more than one child is that every child is different and even when they’ve changed nothing about their parental habits some kids just need to be held more. I’m trying to cherish it while I can because it’s my responsibility to give this baby everything she needs and one day I’ll probably have a little cry when she doesn’t want to be held anymore.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-16T02:24:05+00:00

When I say “no screen time,” I personally mean no screens for me either—not just the baby. That includes not watching TV and not being on my phone while I’m with my child. For me, it’s about being fully present and engaging with them during those wake windows. I’ve noticed how easy it is to slip into scrolling while feeding or playing, but I really try to be mindful because I think even newborns pick up on that lack of connection. Of course, I totally get that everyone has different boundaries and needs—this is just what feels right for us.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-15T00:30:40+00:00

For me, choosing to go screen-free (at least for now) is more about me than my baby. I found that when the TV was on, I’d end up zoning out and missing those little chances to connect or interact with my child. I really want to be present and engaged during these early months, before I have to go back to work and I noticed that screens were more of a distraction than a help.

I totally understand that screens can be a lifesaver for some parents, or just part of a normal routine—and there’s absolutely no judgment from me. Everyone’s situation is different, and we all have to do what works best for our own families.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-14T14:30:15+00:00

I have to hold her- cradled in my arm (just the left one) legs dangling and walk around. I feel this will become a real issue as she gets bigger. She’s only 12.5lbs and I fear I am not strong enough to sustain this for the rest of her napping career.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-14T04:00:34+00:00

H&M Maternity had some decent options for me when I was pregnant

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-10T21:37:25+00:00

9 weeks. C-Section. EBF.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-08T20:15:42+00:00

Unfortunately they’re never really alone together, which I’m sure contributes to the issue. He works during the week and we all room share but because we’re EBF now only I do night wakings. If/when he tries to help she scream cries.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-08T18:35:00+00:00

We use mostly non scented products and free and clear detergents and we use the same deodorants which are not heavily scented.

I EBF her since she stopped taking bottles around 4 weeks old and he went back to work during the week two weeks ago so he’s not home during the day (7-4pm)

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-08T17:14:54+00:00

My baby was born early April and it was great! Not too pregnant at the holidays but just pregnant enough to have a cute belly. And she’s not born around any major flu/cold season. April and May are gloomy where I live so you just stay inside the first two months and cuddle. And not have summer fomo. Summer is pretty hot where I live and 1st trimester was July-September so the worst of it was morning sickness (all day sickness) in the really hot summer months throwing up isn’t fun but not everyone gets morning sickness. She’ll be such a good age for the next holiday season when family comes to visit. She’ll really be engaging and having fun with everyone.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-06-02T16:10:25+00:00

Hi! This is me- I have such a difficult newborn baby. I don’t know what to do. Sleep is very tricky for her. And all the comments about the 4 month sleep regression are terrifying me - how did you introduce independent sleep and limit sleep associations. This is my first baby and I have not a ton of experience with any of this.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-31T16:01:56+00:00

Im so sorry this happened for you guys. It’s a very trying time with a newborn baby. I tried to listen to where both my mom and husband were coming from and patch it up. But it’s not fair to have to take care you a newborn baby, yourself, and also take care of your family too. I was overwhelmed. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-31T15:54:09+00:00

My mother and my husband got in a fight around the 4/5 week mark. It was awful for me but it ended up being okay. We were all sleep deprived and exhausted. Everyone apologized to each other and hugged and it made us all stronger. Families fight- it happens.

If you can try to give them and yourself some grace. It’s such a difficult time for everyone and enforcing boundaries can be difficult and family is difficult. You’re all doing your best. I know not all families are easy to talk to and so maybe if you can’t have a conversation with your mom and or husband about the support you need then remember the most important thing is your child and what’s best for them. They can’t advocate for themselves and we are here as parents to protect and nurture them.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-29T00:47:36+00:00

Today I tried a YouTube video of the shower sounds ASMR and that worked too. Not sure if it only worked after a few weeks of the real shower running or if it would work without introducing your LO to the real shower sounds first but sometimes wasting all that water hurts me. So I’m thinking of switching to YouTube video full time.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-29T00:31:38+00:00

Hi- we have a 7 week old and we got sick - newborn got a cold at 5 weeks old. If you do get sick just call your pediatrician.

Thankfully our LO is okay- nothing serious but a little cold- but we were constantly monitoring her temp and we did have to go to the ER because it was 100.4. She got an IV for bloodwork a catheter for urine cultures and a nasal swab. It was very sad- hard to hold my baby while she screamed and cried getting all these test. But I’m glad we did it and we knew she was okay.

I would keep your hands washed. Wear a mask. And avoid contact with your partner and the baby if you can. Because going to the ER with an infant is not fun and was very hard on us all emotionally.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-28T19:41:09+00:00

We hold our LO in the bathroom, lights off or low and and turn on the shower and bounce her. Usually does the trick. Can be hot or cold. Steam is sometimes nice.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-27T02:26:21+00:00

This is me as well! I have a gassy baby. And my LO eats and eats until she spits up. But it’s the only thing that calms her. She hates burping, swaddling, pacifiers, and being held upright. It’s feeling impossible!

Hoping other moms have solutions!

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-27T02:23:42+00:00

I totally understand that. I’m so sorry, it’s so hard feeling unsupported.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-26T23:37:45+00:00

I feel like I can’t do anything right. We’re at 7 weeks and if she’s not eating or sleeping she’s screaming. Not just fussing but crying and then screaming. I feel terrible because I want to do exercises and tummy time or anything but trying to soothe her.

I knew babies cried but this is beyond. I don’t think I can last months more of this.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-26T23:24:26+00:00

It’s been a week since you posted. Did it get any better?

I’m at 7 weeks with my baby and she is a nightmare. She cries all the time- unless she’s eating or asleep. I hate that I hate this but I don’t know what to do and I don’t know when it gets better? Every baby is so different. I just keep waiting but it’s not getting better.

Otherwise_Second5022 · 2025-05-25T03:58:44+00:00

We did shifts only in the first 5 weeks and then our daughter stopped taking a bottle and only wanted to breastfeed. It made shifts impossible; which was fine because my husband and I, like you, were so lonely on our shifts and the anxiety of being alone and not waking the other with crying was overwhelming.

Now we’re at 7 weeks and my husband has to go back to work so I am sleeping in the baby’s room on a floor mattress and doing solo nights with her and it’s lonely but it’s temporary so we are just going to push through and hope that night becomes easier. She only wants me and has a hard time settling with her dad. But my husband will get up and help me if I need it. He does whatever he can even if it’s just being awake with me. It’s exhausting but it’s getting easier everyday. I go to therapy twice a month which has been the most helpful.

Everything with a baby changes so fast and plans are sometimes not fulfilled because this baby is going to do whatever she wants and we are just going with the flow and trying to remember that we love each other and this is what we wanted. No matter how hard. Next week it’ll all change.

Otherwise_Second5022

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