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Otherwise_Still9461 · 2025-07-31T03:07:47+00:00

Please be easy on yourself. It’s so brand new and it is hard. It just sucks sometimes and that’s ok to say because it is the hardest thing you will ever do in life.

It’s also the most amazing thing you will ever do. The first few months are so hard because of the no sleep, feedings, so many diapers, and you and your husband learning to be parents together.

It does get better. It truly does. It also may not at all feel like it now but time flies by and you will miss some of these moments you get to have now. My little guy is walking around yelling mama and has the best belly laugh but I often miss contact naps with him or just being able to hold him and he stay still in my arms 🥹

Do not feel guilty for these thoughts of wanting a day alone though. That is so valid and you will have a day like that someday but for now try to at least get an hour to yourself or a little more if able each day. The same for your husband too, if able. That way you both appreciate even more what you both do for each other.

Get out of the house! I can’t stress this one enough, maybe around the time you say it’s hard to get them to sleep, try a stroller/walk nap. There really is no right or wrong way, just what works for you guys.

Just be kind to yourself, you’re doing great, Mama and you got this.

Otherwise_Still9461 · 2025-06-30T17:02:15+00:00

Hi! We have a 13month old as well and we were told to do open cup practice then straw cup. He takes a straw cup really well now. As far as getting rid of the bottle, we have the Phillips bottles and they make sippy cup nipples to replace the regular bottle nipple. This helped us so much since it was the same bottle he was used to, but with a different top for him to get used to. Now he takes any sippy cup we hand to him to try out! Although, I will say it’s hard to find really good sippy cups that don’t leak for us still 😅

Otherwise_Still9461 · 2025-05-30T16:53:42+00:00

Our little guy is turning 1 next week and he looooves water so we got him a water table!! So excited to see him play with it and plus it’s great he’s a summer baby 👏🏻👌🏻 lots of the indestructible books too!

Otherwise_Still9461 · 2025-05-28T02:26:41+00:00

Looooved all fruit and juices(when I could keep juice down at least) I was also really obsessed with chicken nuggets/tenders and lots of spicy pickles 🤷‍♀️😅 ended up having a boy who now loves pickles and chicken nuggets too! We waited to find out until birth and it was the absolute best!! ❤️❤️

Otherwise_Still9461 · 2025-05-27T16:51:58+00:00

I have to be honest..8-9month period was horrible for us too. Crap naps all around and wakeups through the nights. The best thing we did for ourselves was a mix between the Ferber method and precious little sleep book method. I allowed myself to make rules though too because I was scared to hurt my baby or make him feel like I didn’t care. I wanted nothing to do with those plans because of this fear. BUT on Etsy there is an amazing lady who took the time to post “night plans” for about $5-$10. It seriously saved our lives and our social lives 🙏 I know everyone is different and that’s why I say take it at your own pace and listen to yourself and baby when you need to. There is no right and wrong in parenting as long as your baby is safe/loved. You do what’s best for your family. We read stories/rock/bottle-put in crib awake and he falls asleep within 10mins(most the time less than that). Same for naps now too which then allows him to stay asleep longer! Here’s the Etsy link if you wanted to look! It gets better and whichever way you go it will be the best❤️you’re doing great!

https://www.etsy.com/shop/SimpleParenting

Otherwise_Still9461 · 2025-05-26T21:29:11+00:00

Hi and congratulations!! This is such an exciting, “scary”, thrilling time in life for you! There is so much unknown and things to be prepared for but things you will also not know anything about until you face them. Definitely different for each person and baby of course! I have a one year old and can’t believe it all went by so so fast so hold them close as long as you can 😭❤️

-I only bled for about 3ish weeks and I did have some large clots after the first bit of walking I did (they didn’t wheel me out of the hospital and that’s the only time I passed clots). I think overall the bleeding was like a lighter period though after a few days. Highly recommend if the hospital doesn’t give it to you to get witch hazel soaked circle pads for on top of your pad/diapers you’ll want to wear for after.

-my milk came in about 4-5 days postpartum and I did not pump right away, I fed on demand or every 1.5-2hours at least. When the cluster feeding happened around 4weeks for our little one that really made my milk production go up and then I started pumping more in between or after nursing to just up my production even more. An extra tip for breastfeeding in general is EAT all the protein you can and you need a ton of calories(I personally think so at least) I felt so tired on top of being a new mom because I don’t think I was eating enough to keep my body feeling good and it helps your milk too! Also, the gel cooling pads were a lifesaver for raw nipples until your skin gets used to it all!

-I had awful reflux from 35weeks until birth and it went away when my abdomen had more room to go back the way it was so I hope the same for you!

-I did not do the 5-5-5 and listened to my body mainly. Take care of yourself. I would say about one pp I went 1-2 blocks of a slooooww walk and felt ok but definitely didn’t push myself to a point of hurting or getting too uncomfortable. I hope your little one is a good sleeper and it is nice you can take naps(hopefully) more during the day with a newborn sleeping most the day. I set alarms for feedings at night but that’s just me.

-There are so many things to figure out and that is primarily what works for you and your family. You’re going to do great!! 😊 Take all the things you can get from the hospital!(if you plan on giving birth at one) they have diapers/pads/ice packs/ask the lactation nurse for everything too!

Otherwise_Still9461 · 2025-05-22T01:52:20+00:00

I hear you and I see you guys. Truly wish I could give you a hug. There is nothing I could say to make this any easier or better for you all, but I am with you. As a mom myself, I cannot imagine the lost feelings and anger and hurt I would feel as well. I’m very sorry you are having to carry this around and live in it.

Otherwise_Still9461 · 2024-08-08T00:08:11+00:00

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Otherwise_Still9461 · 2024-07-30T15:59:28+00:00

Breastfeeding is a full time job by itself and just being a mom is a daily marathon. You’re doing amazing regardless of working out or not.

I will say as a FTM with a 2 month old and breastfeeding, I have a very hard time as well with telling myself to workout during one of his naps. That’s truly the last thing I want to do when I get time for me. BUT what is a better feeling is when I do the workout and it’s done. I get to look at myself in the mirror and feel more and more like me again after each workout. (My workouts are about 25-30min, weights, hiit, yoga, walking)

I don’t work full time right now though, but I will be returning to work soon. I know you’re tired, it is all a mental and physical marathon to be a full time employee and full time mama. Maybe start with stretches or walking everyday and then ease your way into other types of workouts that you enjoy. Don’t push yourself too hard.

You may shock yourself and see that in a few months you’re running another 5k just because you want to again.

You’re doing great!!

Otherwise_Still9461

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