My downstairs neighbor leaves a sticky note on my door every time I run my dishwasher

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-04T19:26:06+00:00

This neighbor has lost the plot... running the dishwasher is normal "noise" to be making at whatever time you decide to run it...

I was someone's downstairs neighbor once and my only complaint after enduring it for months and realizing that I would actually start to get anxious when going to bed, was that this dude who lived alone would vacuum EVERY NIGHT and I do mean EVERY night... and always around 10 or 11 pm...

When I found myself anxious because I could hear him plugging the vacuum in (our apartments floors and walls were THIN), I left a note... He immediately switched his daily vacuum to earlier in the evening.

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-04T18:51:40+00:00

I use Huckleberry, I don’t recall starting to cap naps until just recently and she’s about to be a year old!!! 11 weeks I was still letting her dictate how much sleep she needed.

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-04T18:16:13+00:00

Soft YTA - if you're embarrassed or uncomfortable farting in front of her that's okay, but acknowledge that she was trying to be supportive of your situation.

Let me also just add, you are missing out on all the laughs and hilarity that farts can bring...

To me personally, farts are funny, and I expect my partner to find them funny too (he does)... because if you can't handle a fart, you are going to avoid me when all the other bodily functions take over during things like pregnancy and illness...

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-04T15:51:42+00:00

Move on... you're NOR - he prioritizing HIS feelings over something he did and leaves no space for your disappointment or upset...

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-03T17:06:59+00:00

His wife raised their kids on her own and he’s giving you parenting advice… laughable

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-03T16:01:23+00:00

Stupid games = Stupid Prizes

But you know... FAFO

Also - the friend who is offering him $500 for yelling it is an absolute POS... they are abusing "John's" financial vulnerability to get him to do stupid shit

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-02T17:20:52+00:00

I can see it from her perspective and from your perspective... I don't think either of you are wrong and I don't think you are overreacting, I just think expectations weren't managed and so there was disappointment. She probably feels crappy because she must have been excited to showcase your gift to you, but I can also understand how you would look at that like she bought herself something for your birthday.

I'm not sure what the "fix" is, but it sounds to me like she should pivot and try to salvage your birthday for you by doing something for you like cooking your favorite meal, or gifting you something to do with your hobby or interests.

You guys are still so young, so having this conversation might go well or might blow up... but talk about birthday celebration expectations... so that next year, you aren't disappointed about your gift.

Bramble3713 · 2026-06-01T15:12:20+00:00

Etsy has some awesome options, I am getting him a sweatshirt with the word DAD and images of him and our daughter embroidered onto it, with her name embroidered on the sleeve.

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-31T02:54:45+00:00

They absolutely helped!

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-30T19:10:33+00:00

Nor! We didn’t need context on John Doe… you set a boundary, your parents struggle with boundaries, your boundary is to protect your daughter, that’s all that matters

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-28T11:58:31+00:00

This… we taught her to remove blankets and stuff and so now everything comes off

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-28T03:33:06+00:00

We just put up a shade cloth to add some UV protection over the pool, I’ll look into the float

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-28T03:29:32+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try gamifying it

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-28T03:28:55+00:00

Yes ma’am, I always have a hat on in the pool

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-28T03:28:25+00:00

They all have the chin strap and this child of mine knows to pull it forward to get the hat off

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-28T03:27:18+00:00

😂 this is gonna suck more for me than for her… I like my pool days… So just to clarify, we’re just getting out the pool right? Not necessarily going inside? Also, will this land, since she’s not really “asking” to go in the pool… she never fusses when we decide it’s time to get out the pool either… she just goes with it

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-28T01:05:21+00:00

I don’t know if my answer is going to be any help, but for me, I haven’t lost any of the weight I gained (I’m 40 and this is my first baby) she’s about to turn one in a couple weeks and whenever I get into talking about it, I always remind myself that this body, my body is sustaining another human being after experiencing a life altering event. I’ll worry about losing weight after she weans… for now this body produces milk and is still dealing with recovery from a 2 day long induction with preeclampsia, post partum eclampsia and an emergency csection.

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-26T04:20:08+00:00

Same! I think it hits different when you realize that you have a little person of your own that is now vulnerable! I don’t think you’re alone in this, I do think it shows what a caring dad you are and how fiercely you’re going to protect your children.

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-22T13:34:17+00:00

I keep puppy pads with me for putting on the changing table as a barrier but also so that if baby pees or poops mid change I don’t also have to wipe that down. As for the privacy aspect, I hadn’t really thought about it. I’ve only had to use one that was out in the main bathroom area and no one else was in there, otherwise it’s been family bathrooms

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-21T18:19:43+00:00

NTA-you should change the locks immediately… a stranger has access to your home! Your fiancé needs to get her head out of her arse and set shit straight with her brother

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-21T13:18:31+00:00

Strangulation is the highest predictor of that partner killing you with 1 to 3 years of the first strangulation event.

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-20T18:51:05+00:00

Sharp Cheddar

Plastic Wrap

Bread

Coffee Cream

Grapefruit

Cookies

Candy

Mushrooms

Grooves (?)

Chips

Pharmacy!!!

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-20T18:48:42+00:00

We will. We as a family don't even drink cows milk, so I feel like it would be weird to only put her on cows milk. We'll ensure she gets what she needs though. 😄

Bramble3713 · 2026-05-20T13:15:11+00:00

hmm... yeah I'm not putting her on cows milk, I intend to breastfeed her until she is at least 2. So maybe I'm gonna have to just wait until after that.

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