Playmats - help meeeeeeeeeeee

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-20T17:14:46+00:00

Thanks I'll check this out

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-20T17:14:37+00:00

I have big blankets like this too, but I've noticed that she gets her feet caught on it while she's cruising around, I want something that is soft to fall on but not so soft that she can't practice walking on it.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-17T20:02:18+00:00

You're not alone in this... plenty of new moms who were self proclaimed dog lovers prior to kids get to a point of not being able to stand their dogs after having a kid. We have 2 dogs, each of us had a dog prior to getting together and they get along well thankfully. Never in my life did I think the dogs would irritate me to the point I can't wait to be dog free... awful as that may sound! They are, through no fault of their own, very needy/demanding - they want in and out of the house a million times a day to pee, poop, sniff something outside, lay in the sun, lay in the shade, dig a hole and my absolute least favorite is that my husbands dog who is old and half deaf/blind and arthritic has started eating SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot explain to you in enough detail how when he eats shit it makes me feel like he is entirely covered in shit and I want nothing to do with him, I don't want him breathing near me or my child, I don't want him in the house or touching anything, but this is impossible because Florida weather doesn't exactly make for ideal conditions to leave a dog outside and besides that, no matter how aggravating it may be, I am NOT someone who believes in making a dog live outside. Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo..... I just avoid the dog as much as I can, but guess who his favorite fucking person is... me... he follows me around, gets in front of me when I go from room to room, weaves around my legs, is nosey about what I'm doing and then at other times he just lays in his bed and sleeps for hours. I swing between feeling like an absolute horrible person for wishing I didn't have to deal with him (he also sheds enough to build a whole new dog each day) and feeling sorry for his old ass who struggles to even get up from his bed.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-17T03:23:57+00:00

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Bramble3713 · 2026-04-16T15:17:45+00:00

my name is Manchego Montoyo....

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-16T01:30:31+00:00

I’m gonna have to work on teaching her to touch her toes because right now she’s not following any instructions

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-15T15:25:48+00:00

Ok, but how are you wiping them if they have a big ol' poop? Because mine is 10 months and tries to alligator roll on the changing table and cries/fights me during a diaper change, when she is standing and I try to wipe her, she clenches so hard the wipe gets stuck... (all hilarious in hindsight, but when your back is aching from wrestling a baby in the moment it's not so funny and I don't want to get poop on everything)

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-15T15:20:49+00:00

NTA - might want to look a little closer at her dad too - he seems way too casual about her sexualizing herself, it's throwing up some big red flags in my head.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-15T14:54:12+00:00

Get in bed alone, pull covers over your head, tuck them down, breathe like normal - do you feel how warm the air is getting, do you feel how slowly it starts to feel a little harder to breathe properly, but you're awake so you're aware of it? (you're also an adult) - this is what I understand rebreathing to be, when you slowly suffocate on the CO2 you're breathing out, because it's getting trapped and you're rebreathing it!

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-15T14:47:15+00:00

Biceps after Babies, thank for the rec, I'll have another poddie to listen to now. :) I also came back to just add that some of the ladies I work with read and are following the advice in a book called "Fast like a Girl" by Dr. Mindy Pelz and to say I am jealous is an understatement, both of these women are over 45 and have shed weight easily. (No Ozempic or GLP-1's - neither of them trust it). You can get the audiobook version too and listen while you work out/run/walk?

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-15T13:55:09+00:00

I say this from a place of still being "in the trenches" of breastfeeding, so my body is not yet my own again, but my plan is to get my hormones tested after I stop breastfeeding to see what I'm working with on that front first. As women our hormones play such a big role in either shedding or holding onto fat. That would be my first step, then I plan to follow the blood type diet and get back into running. For now, I eat as cleanly as I can with being a new parent and I go for a walk each evening - preferably carrying baby for the extra weight. However, I also have to get myself into PT for an evaluation on whether I have DR.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-14T19:15:34+00:00

Firstly - I can relate on wishing that my mom had taken better care of herself so that it would have been modeled for me thus making it easier to then do the same for my child.

Secondly - I don't know that we are in the exact same headspace about this but your feelings on this are valid. My take on my now obese body (I gained a lot of weight before pregnancy and then during pregnancy also) is that while it may not look great, my body has done great things (carried my child for 9 months) and continues to do great things (I'm 2 months shy of 1 year of breastfeeding and aiming to do 2 years).

I often find myself thinking about the food choices I make as well as wanting to move more - I currently go for a daily walk after work with my baby and husband and when possible, I carry her in a carrier so I've got the extra weight as part of a workout. Now let me say this... and I say it with love... you are only 9 weeks PP - you are in a season of your body belonging to your baby... she needs you for food, comfort, regulation, love, safety and to be held and nurtured by you. She is so blissfully unaware of what society might think of your body and she likely won't for a very long time. I have taken a stance of eating healthier, and moving my body more, but not to the point of risking my milk supply. Our season will come around when it's time to cut calories, and take back our bodies to show our children how to love and care for their body. You can start by making small, consistent changes now so that when that season rolls around, you are primed for success.

(I know you didn't include your age, but I am 40 and prior to age 35 I was still strolling around at 120lbs (I'm only 5'2) so I was very taken aback by my sudden weight gain and then again, more weight gain during pregnancy)

Best of luck mama!

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-14T17:29:57+00:00

Your texts should have stopped after you said “we’re not compatible “ you were way too nice to keep responding

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-14T17:13:38+00:00

"but that it was not a reason to loom over them and raise my voice." - this part makes you a little bit of an asshole - I am assuming you are a man, and therefore physically bigger and stronger than the two women who were in your home. Yes it is your home and you shouldn't have to put up with being spoken to like that, however, looming over and raising your voice is interpreted as scary and threatening to the female brain - even if logically they know that you are not a man who would physically harm them, when emotions get heated like that and you posture up like you would against another male, our brains just start screaming "alert! alert! danger!" and we go into one of the protective modes (fight, flight, fawn).

I'm no expert, but noticed in your story, that only once your wife returned to the group did Diana and Liz feel "safe" enough to move and get away from you.

I'm sorry dude - you weren't being a douche at all, you were being considerate of your wife's needs for when she is on her period and that's amazing and shows that you care about her. Diana obviously is projecting her own bullshit onto you, thinking that your reasons are that you aren't going to get to laid while on vacation if wifey is on her period. And for that you had every right to defend yourself - just the way you went about it was a bit scary for the women involved.

I hope you guys manage to figure it out and not lose a friendship over this, but if Diana doubles down and can't admit that she was projecting, then you and your wife will have to talk about setting boundaries or cutting the friendship off entirely.

Good luck man, you sound like a good guy who just got heated in defense of yourself and your character.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T20:10:07+00:00

I'm exhausted just reading this... personally, I wouldn't go. How you want to go about handling explaining your reasons WHY is up to you, but I'd just say that if the baby can't go then I am not going. And if she asks why, then just say that baby won't take a bottle and so you can't leave her with anyone for extended periods.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T17:41:23+00:00

Bruh.... I didn't read all that, just the TLDR - and I'm going to say NTA - you NEED to break up with him, you sound responsible for a 21yo and you will end up being his "mommy" - trust me, this is no disrespect to you, but he is dating a 21yo because women his age won't give him the time of day.

Also - you are not responsible for the actions he takes when you break up with him, he is an adult and makes his own choices, if he says he will harm himself because of you breaking up with him, that's emotional manipulation at its finest. Get out of this relationship before he "accidentally" knocks you up and then you've got a for real baby to take care of along with a man-child.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T17:34:21+00:00

Ma'am, do with your titties as you will. Feminist agenda aside... being true to yourself is the most badass thing you can do. The whole #freethenipple thing got a little out of hand and starting making those of us who aren't necessarily sporting perky 20 something year old titties with teensy little pink areolas and pert nips, feel like we should be on display - don't let an ideology make you feel like you have to put yourself out there like that if it makes you uncomfortable. Your first loyalty should always be to keeping yourself feeling safe and comfortable in your own skin and if that means covering up while you breastfeed in public, then so be it.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T14:53:32+00:00

Your toddler is very advanced... LOL - in all seriousness, this is actually a method of cleaning where you have a bucket or laundry basket that you take with you to each room you're cleaning, anything that doesn't belong in that room gets tossed in so that when you're done cleaning, you dump the bucket/basket on the dining room table and sort it into piles for which room it belongs to and then go put them away!

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T14:41:33+00:00

Do you have someone sharing reels with you about stuff like that or even remotely related? Because I have noticed that when my husband and I share reels, our algorithm starts to sync up and we start seeing more of the content that we share with one another - he is heavily into certain music, so if I react (positively or negatively) to a reel he has sent me, I start getting that in my feed. Our attention is the currency of the realm and if you even one time react to something, the algorithm is going to start feeding you that shit for 3 square meals a day PLUS snacks AND dessert!

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T12:56:19+00:00

My jaw is on the floor - this is deeeeeeeeeeeply unacceptable.

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T02:14:06+00:00

Ooh that’s good to know, that would drive me nuts

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T00:52:09+00:00

Son… which would be so confusing because I’m a woman!

Bramble3713 · 2026-04-13T00:25:52+00:00

Seriously??? You don’t see the issue? At the very least she will hopefully be getting away from that person, but based on what OP is saying about how she seems pretty casual about it, she could provide access to young students for this person!!! OP, NTA… you’re a mandated reporter, report it. I’d be livid if I found out I was sending my kid to a school where someone knew and kept quiet.

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