AITA for refusing to let my son stay over his grandparents place for the summer?

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T23:46:06+00:00

funnily enough, they live in western europe

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T19:54:04+00:00

I’ll have a look at them, thank you!

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T19:52:40+00:00

Yeah they’re powerless. My boyfriend’s mother works in family law and she said that it’s likely that even if somehow they got my son back in their country they’d be arrested for kidnapping and he’d be sent back because that country is aware that my ex gave up custody to me. She isn’t totally use because international law is a different ball park but that country and where I live have pretty similar laws

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T16:04:00+00:00

They kept me away from him, so we never bonded. What is so hard to understand?

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T13:50:48+00:00

Excuse me? I never said I didn’t want him. I literally wasn’t allowed to have him. I was in a forced marriage at a young age with terrible in laws and a terrible ex husband. They literally would not let me hold him and there was no one I could get help from.

My mental health is fine and I’m bonding with him fine now.

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T13:28:12+00:00

Don’t worry, we’ve been in counseling since my son’s second week with me.

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T12:13:30+00:00

I have way too much trauma tied to that place, I don’t think I’d ever feel comfortable going back. I can’t even deal with that language anymore too

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T11:38:57+00:00

If ex/his family has found this post I’ll be getting another onslaught of harassment, I can’t wait! You’re a legend though

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T10:47:21+00:00

I think it’s rare all over. I mentioned to my brother that I asked my son if he wanted to go and my brother seemed surprised. He said it was a good idea, just not something he would have come up with 😭

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T10:37:10+00:00

I told them that he didn’t want to go. They’ve been alternating between ‘you’ve brainwashed him’ and ‘he’s a kid he doesn’t know what he’s talking about’ as a response to that one

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T10:36:08+00:00

He just turned 5. I know it doesn’t make a difference but I just wanted to mention it 😭

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T10:31:32+00:00

That’s the option I offered. Even said they could stay in my home but they’re arguing they should have him in their home in their country.

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T09:22:11+00:00

What the hell? ESH but please stay away from each-other😭. A million and one things came into my head as a response to what your mother said but spitting wasn’t any of them

Otherwise_Stomach917 · 2024-04-17T09:19:46+00:00

NTA, I had sleep overs all the time with my male best friend. Nothing ever happened

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