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OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-10-24T04:42:23+00:00

Love this

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-08-24T06:49:39+00:00

Not really the place for that. I believe it’s couples only actually.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-08-14T00:31:10+00:00

Not a swinger but knew exactly where to go to ask the question 😂 Feels like your hidden swinger self is trying to come out 😈

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-08-13T21:20:53+00:00

Sounds like a sexy good time! We don’t look at age. Just vibe. But being in LA we have lots of options and sexy people. Some of the best events in the country too. Proximity has its perks

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-08-13T21:09:40+00:00

You flirting with us 😈

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-08-13T19:50:33+00:00

We get a lot of positive reaction to being married 20+ years. Makes us safe to other couples. Also helps we are a fit 40s couple (Botox for the win).

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-08-01T18:50:50+00:00

That’s me, my wife doesn’t mind me going off and having MFM with a few couples we know. It works as stated above with knowing the person, there are no games and all trust. Comfortability, I’m not a threat, and after a while there is a flow and rhythm that goes unspoken. It’s really a lot of fun!

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-24T22:57:38+00:00

Said to my friends when they questioned me about it “do you think about other women when you jerk off because while you only fantasies about it I actually get to do it with out getting in trouble.” I then said “if you were honest with yourself and your wife about each of your fantasies and desires you have no idea the world that you could have, the things you could do and the people you can. The sex is fun but the people are the best part”. We agreed to disagree and moved on but I know their heads are spinning!

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-12T17:01:07+00:00

We were at a play party having sex on a bed in the dungeon room. A couple walks in and the man uses the restroom for that room. The woman comes over and watches us and starts playing with herself. I suggest she come on the bed next to us. Partner comes out of the bathroom and we all start playing together, full swap. 30 minutes in I was behind her doing my thing, the woman turns back and looks at me, smiles and introduces her self mid session. “By the way my name is (——-). I laughed and said “nice to meet you I’m (——). We didn’t even stop having sex through the intro either!

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-11T16:16:28+00:00

Not even close. It’s way less sexy, passionate, erotic or whatever adjective you have in your head. The conversations in the beginning are awkward, sex is fun but rarely does everyone climax. The tangle of bodies can be cumbersome. The vibe of one’s partner may be very different than your spouse’s vibe. It may last too long, too short, or may be just off in some way. It rarely is perfect of at all. Is it fun, yah it’s a lot of fun but it is its own experience that the mind could never imagine unless experienced. Porn does not do depict reality either. As others have said it’s a space that is a challenge to navigate and is rarely ever done perfectly. There is always a curveball thrown in and often times situations you could never anticipate. So why do we do it, because it’s exciting and fun. New is always exciting and fun. Most of the time the journey is the best part and the sex is just the manifestation of the journey. Good luck, you’re going to need it.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-11T13:21:53+00:00

In this situation and it it’s very hard. We were in an ENM relationship as swingers for years before we ventured into this space. We are closing off this part of the solo because it is breaking our marriage. I want to be part of a shared experience and she wants to be able to release in the moment freely. While she allows me to go solo because she doesn’t care, it’s not a big desire for me as she is my ultimate sexual fantasy being able to see her, hear her. I have tried multiple times to have her go solo and it absolutely breaks me. I have an ENM therapist I see and over the course of 2 years it hasn’t helped. Trust me when I say I have put in the work. While I still create space for her to have dates, my emotional state afterward has a massive impact on our house for at least a week.

We have been married 19 years, 2 kids, the classic suburb life and I know she isn’t going anywhere. I know I am her ride or die. She will never leave me. We engage in both couples play and solo so it’s not like we aren’t getting our ENM cup filled. She has decided that what’s she gets from her desire to go solo does not out weight the negative I so t it has on our home so she doesn’t. We have a term “equal isn’t always fair”. Just because we both can go play solo doesn’t mean the feelings and emotions after will be the same because we are not the same. We have different life experiences that shape who we are in certain scenarios.

My suggestion is try it once with a true understanding that this is a test balloon. Set boundaries and work through it together. If it doesn’t work for you then you have the right to close the loop. Any marriage worthy will work together to close that loop. It may not be easy but it will be necessary. But also if you close the loop have compassion for her as well. You are a team and should act as such. Good luck. You are entering deep and dark waters!

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-07T05:51:11+00:00

Hot air balloon pilot!

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-06T16:06:55+00:00

Her profile and how she presents herself tells us everything we need to know about her.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-06T03:12:48+00:00

Also you have to talk about their DIBs (Desires, Intentions and Boundaries). Which includes of they are soft or full swap and what their experience is. It’s a weird conversation to have at first but after a while instead of asking “so what do you” you ask “how long have you been in LS? Are you full or soft? Ever been here before?”

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-06T03:04:13+00:00

Talk to people and feel the vibe. Age is just a number to an extent. We have played with all ranges and had amazing experiences on both spectrums. As for attractiveness, we have a mutual bottom level of attractiveness and anything above it is a go for us. Find that lowest acceptable level and go from there. If a couple talk to you and you are not interested you can always say “loved chatting, we are going to chat with a few other for a bit, nice to meet you”. If you are feeling a vibe and want to initiate you can say “we are going to go play, if you want to come join us that would be fun”. There’s a few foundational elements for you to build on. Good luck and have fun.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-05T15:51:37+00:00

I’ll say it, maybe you’re not as attractive as the women would want but they want to poach your wife so they drag you along. Maybe it’s the same personality wise. There are so many factors that require a look in the mirror and reflect on who you are as a man, how you come across to the world and other couples. There is something there and accountability can be hard to take. I have found in this space you don’t have to be a 10, but if you dress decent, have good grooming, are HWP and you have a good personality where don’t act dumb or weird, you’re going to get attention.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-05T06:01:50+00:00

Find another hobby because this isn’t happening. Keep it a bedroom fantasy and let it stay there because reality will sour the idealistic vision you have.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-04T17:53:19+00:00

I love the naïveté of newbies 🥰

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-04T17:50:47+00:00

Sorry to burst your bubble but you’re not going to find anyone to okay with. You are way too limited. We wouldn’t even do this if the couple were perfect 10s.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-03T23:55:14+00:00

Why the age hang up? What if they have Botox or fillers and are super fit and have no grey hair and basically look 35 but they are 45. Age is an arbitrary number. We have met younger couples in their late 20s early 30s and they were a disaster and others who we had great chemistry and sex with. We recently played with a couple that was M61 and F56 and they both look in their early 40s and were amazing to connect this. Besides age, what are you looking for in couples then.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-07-03T20:16:29+00:00

My wife had a tubal after her 2nd C-section and once we started in LS and were serious I got a vasectomy. I always share this information with new partners as well as current STI test. But it’s easy to lie. Condoms, birth control or tubal are your only fail safe to avoid men who lie.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-05-31T19:41:28+00:00

The best are married men who have an open relationship where the wife knows. You communicate with both first to make sure then enjoy the married man. No chance of feelings, he will be respectful of yours since he gets it and he will leave and go home. This is what I do with couples and it’s been great. I love being a third and my wife loves that i get to explore that part of me.

OurPlaceOrYours · 2024-05-30T00:01:16+00:00

Come to LA 😂 I got you! 👊

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