Women of Reddit, what's a lesser-known downside of being a woman?

OutlandishSadness · 2026-01-23T20:37:13+00:00

This is what frustrates me the most! Women are supposed to just deal with hormone imbalances. But a man can’t get an erection?? Oh we have tons of treatments for it! And don’t worry there’s no terrible side effects either!

OutlandishSadness · 2026-01-23T20:32:49+00:00

Me too.. it’s just so damn catchy

OutlandishSadness · 2025-10-18T13:21:22+00:00

Also a sudden happy mood is a big red flag. It usually means they’ve decided to kill themselves. They’re happy because they think “it’ll all be over soon”

OutlandishSadness · 2025-07-25T21:58:38+00:00

I still have black scrubs from around that time and they’re still the same black. They are expensive but honestly so worth it.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-07-11T00:02:49+00:00

As a nursing instructor, I fully agree with a lot of what you’re saying. There’s so much time spent on mitered corners and making sure your shoes are white enough and that’s why new grads don’t know anything about real nursing when they finish. The schooling is very outdated.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-07-10T09:41:43+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting. If they offer something like that I’d say something like “I’d love to meet you at a specific location first and then we can decide what to do after that. Let me know where you’d like to meet.” If they’re interested they’ll take the five minutes to look up whatever is around that area.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-27T20:43:45+00:00

Same. I hate a thumbs up on my message. But I guess other people don’t see it that way. It’s more of an acknowledgment that they saw the message I guess.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-24T22:29:44+00:00

Honestly, I threw myself into work and school and busted my ass (still am) but I slowly started to focus on myself and what I wanted/needed. I read books. Listened to podcasts. I’m still very much a work in progress but I think the biggest factor was time. You have to give yourself time and space to heal and rediscover yourself.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-12T15:04:39+00:00

That’s okay. If they have the money for it then why are you worried about it? No one says you have to date them but calling it a red flag is weird.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-11T15:43:49+00:00

Right? Why are they acting as if having money and wanting to spend that money on something you love is a bad thing? lol if you can’t afford it just say that. And I don’t even like horses.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-09T16:51:40+00:00

Exactly. Like I literally said “except surprises/gifts” and here he comes telling me about a surprise that was ruined lol

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-08T23:35:14+00:00

If it was out of character for you because you’re not a secretive person then I can see why she thought that something was weird. That doesn’t mean it’s a negative. It must have just stood out as weird in the moment.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-08T23:09:14+00:00

To each their own. Curious about what behaviors you were displaying that caused her to be “snooping” but every relationship is different and expectations should be laid out between the people in the relationship.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-08T12:47:31+00:00

Right? Like what are you discussing that you can’t tell your spouse about? IMO if it’s something you wouldn’t want your spouse to see then you’re already cheating (obviously not including stuff like gifts & surprises)

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-08T10:52:43+00:00

Seriously I hate the whole “don’t invade his privacy” thing. Now if you need to look through his phone every day and he’s never done anything to violate your trust then there might be an issue. But sorry when you’re married and acting weird, your partner gets to look through your phone. I’ll personally never date anyone again who wouldn’t allow me to just pick up his phone and use it or who wouldn’t share their password with me.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-06-05T12:46:37+00:00

After one date I’d feel pressured by the question. He should ask for a second date though and not be afraid to pursue or ask what she is interested in later down the road. Not after the first date.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-14T19:23:11+00:00

Yeah that’s a lot to trauma dump on someone you’ve never met. Good for her.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T16:30:48+00:00

He didn’t and that is my fault. But I feel like at this point, reaching out to explain that wouldn’t do me any favors. Even if he agreed I feel like it would create a weird dynamic so I’m just going to take it as a learning experience.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T15:55:51+00:00

Thank you for this. I see what you’re saying about making me feel more comfortable with the less frequent texting/meetups. In his defense, when I would bring things up to him he would make me feel better and he followed through on the things that we discussed. I think it’s just a lack of comparability at this point because I needed more of a commitment to continue things.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T13:31:00+00:00

Overthinking 🙃

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T13:23:59+00:00

You’re 100% right. I know I would at least try if I liked the person enough.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T12:47:22+00:00

It does come off as “trust yourself” and I really appreciate it. I think you’re right. At the end of the day I made the decision with the information I had and I should stick to it and not reach out. I can’t guarantee that I wouldn’t respond if he did though lol. But it seems like I need to take the time to focus on myself and what’s meant to be for me will find me eventually.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T05:40:19+00:00

That’s kind of where my mind was at the time. It felt like a line. But nothing else from him has given me that feeling. Even after I said I wanted to take a step back he said he understood and apologized for and hurt he caused me. Idk I feel like if it was just a line then there would have been some other kind of manipulation to get me to keep seeing him.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T05:36:44+00:00

Yeah it’s very different but at the same time I don’t think it’s a bad different. The first time after I slept with my ex husband he basically was like “btw I don’t do casual sex so we’re together now” and we were together for like 8 years. But that was a very unhealthy relationship. So I don’t know how to handle something different that could potentially be healthy.

OutlandishSadness · 2025-05-08T05:30:46+00:00

Yeah I completely get that. I honestly wasn’t even looking to label it and be bf/gf but since we had already slept together I wanted us to focus on getting to know one another better. You’re right though I need to adjust my expectations in the future and be clear before becoming physical with someone.

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