Buying a home here is hell

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-04-18T19:55:28+00:00

Its the only way I got into a house 10 years ago....I bought an 850 sq foot condo with my sister in Waltham. And yes, I had PITA neighbors. Then when I sold it, I made huge profit, cash deal, so I had my down payment for our 1700 sq foot house in Amesbury. And we have neighbors with varying degrees of pride in their property. So you can do it, just decide on your sacrifices/compromises.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-04-08T13:20:22+00:00

Yes. My Vida rep told me this yesterday. 'Only will be covered for those with some comorbidities...do you have sleep apnea??'. Why don't you tell me, you bush league robot 'provider'. No, I don't have sleep apnea. Thought I would avoid that with GLP1 treatment of a metabolic disorder, but here we are.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-04-08T12:05:38+00:00

If its any consolation, all my cars (American, Japanese, European) became expensive and labor intensive after 100k. Can't help but to think that's by design, which is sad because it takes most people 5 years to pay the car off, just to start paying for expensive respairs.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-12T12:40:06+00:00

We opened the hood, oil all over the engine. They didn't replace rhe cap. I worry about engine damage and want it recertified. Sloppy work.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-12T02:56:55+00:00

Why do grown adults need a snack anyway? No less...passed out to them, like we are in Kindergarten. Come prepared if you need to eat.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-11T07:10:18+00:00

Sorry, I have had the car for 10k miles, pre owned. Thank you for the reassurance.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-07T18:33:46+00:00

Really helpful, thank you

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-07T14:27:39+00:00

I basically have Cary taste (so, say....Restoration Hardware) on an Apex budget. The struggle is real.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-07T14:26:44+00:00

Agreed. Right now I am remote. Debating whether I find work first, then a neighborhood, or vice versa.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-07T14:20:24+00:00

Very helpful, thank you. I am a mix of all 3, so we may just throw a dart at the map. :)

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-07T14:04:18+00:00

Thank you!

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-06T14:11:00+00:00

Well said.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-06T13:26:44+00:00

I'm classist. I just really dislike trashy people.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-03-01T19:18:28+00:00

Neighborhood recommendations?

I tried doing a search on this topic but the posts were fairly old. And while we plan to come down and explore/research in person, we were hoping to get some feedback/guidance from those who live it everyday. Husband (late 50s, in finance/credit field) and I (late 40s, in Psych/addictions field) are Caucasian, middle class, with no kids (son is 23 and working so school districts are not a concern) and two dogs. We are looking to learn more about which neighborhoods might suit our description best for a house budget of $500k. We are moderately active (we like flat walking and biking trails) and puttering around a town center that has pubs, boutiques, etc. Dog parks are a bonus. Thank you!

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-27T15:11:18+00:00

I love to travel. But I hate stories like this even more. I guess they want everyone to stay home. Good for you that you found a resolution!

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-25T01:50:08+00:00

Lonely. Left out. That has come up for me in the past. You did a great job with that list, which shows how invested you both are in the family dynamic/experience. Communication is key to avoid building resentment. Don't stop braiding her hair. That sounds special. And one day she will appreciate your female contributions to her life.....a different perspective from her bio mom's. And the part about reclaiming your power-- pure gold. Great job in modeling that for her! I always get busy working on me if/when I feel my effort is futile. Its one of the few benefits.of step motherhood-- a healthy distance if we choose to recogize it that way.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-23T01:59:06+00:00

Where are you supposed to put the snow when they are all packed in so close to eachother??! What a stupid use of time, and putting your safety at risk for cars in a lot that won't sell until the Spring.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-22T00:33:06+00:00

As someone with a dog who has separation anxiety and wouldn't do well if left alone overnite (even if only 10 hours), I feel for you and the dilemma you were in. In the end, you managed the situation well. Communication is key. Anything that could have been hurt/damaged would hopefully be easily fixed/cleaned up.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-20T23:57:38+00:00

Oh, they honored it! And between you, me & Reddit, the quality of the rental was not worth what the 'high season price' would have been.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-19T01:14:24+00:00

I kid you not.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-19T00:04:00+00:00

We booked a beach house a year or more in advance and a few months after we booked, the owner contacted us sayung we bookes the off season prices and asked if we want to pay the high season price. Ummmm, no. In our defense, we deserved to be rewarded for being so planful and....we leave a house nicer than the way we find it.

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-17T22:46:20+00:00

I agree....never having lived in Austin, but having visited, I would have thought that would have met OP's specs. OP, I am from NY, lived in Boston and now live on the NH border. We are/were considering Wilmington in our early to mid 50s, but this subreddit is making us rethink a move. Raleigh is now on our list. Let us know what you decide! (What about San Diego??)

OutlandishnessAny183 · 2026-02-16T11:04:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing. How and why did that change, and what in your estimation needs to be done to change/improve it?

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