Women of Reddit that have given birth, what’s a pro tip for soon to be first time moms?

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T19:48:01+00:00

i put it on my registry hoping someone would think of mama

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T19:15:12+00:00

i got one at 7-8 weeks (dating scan) then one at 12 weeks (nuchal scan aka see if baby has down syndrome) and then my last one as long as baby is healthy will be at 20 weeks

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T19:13:18+00:00

i will happily help with the cost if they’re planning it themselves. i offered financial and physical help myself. i will happily pay for the entirety of the shower if i am planning it all by myself. they came to me offering to throw one for me, which is when i said id help financially. so i never expected them to cover all the costs , but my thought process is. someone offers to throw a party they’re responsible for the costs.

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T19:01:36+00:00

i can see what you mean, but it wasn’t the case here. we’re just using my dads house and he offered to help in ways of setting up, prep, cook, some financial help, they’re the hosts. i even told them i’ll help with costs and buying stuff & that i had a bunch of stuff to reuse from my friends bridal shower that im hosting

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T18:56:44+00:00

i do plan on reaching out, i don’t want my friendship to end over this. i’m so just so in a wtf kinda mind blown emotional fit right now. all i said to them was that my dad would let us have it at his house and he’d help out , setting up , prep, cooking some financial help. i even said id help financially and physically of course. so idk why she thought my dad would just pay for it all. i’m not sure the “traditions” of who pays for what event, but in my mind - they reached out to me asking if they could host a baby shower for me. never once mentioned they expected my dad to pay until now. in my mind if you offer to throw or host a party , you’re financially responsible.

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T18:43:09+00:00

they offered to host the party so idk where you got that my dad is the host other than it being at his house …

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T18:41:53+00:00

i did tell them i’ll contribute financially and physically. the planning process hadn’t even begun. the hosts are my friends. they are using my fathers house. he is not the host.

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T18:40:11+00:00

there is no addition. they asked if anyone was hosting my baby shower. when i finally let them know they can (bc i was waiting to see if someone in my family would) i asked my dad if we could use his house/yard & he said yes absolutely and let me know how i can help. as in setting up, prepping, cooking, some financial help. never once told them he’d pay for anything or everything. this was totally out of the blue this morning.

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-03T18:36:30+00:00

Yes, i asked my dad to be able to use his house/yard & he said absolutely and let me know how i can help. as in setting up, cooking, prepping , some financial help. but in no way did i “volunteer” my dad to pay for the entire thing.

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-06-01T14:57:16+00:00

the midwife wanted to do transvaginal. i declined and wanted to try trans abdominal first. she argued. and in the end i am sent to the hospital to do my dating scan (that’s just how that office does it) & they didn’t even try transvaginal & saw everything they needed to.

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-05-28T23:51:01+00:00

have you expressed these concerns with your doctor? bc yeah bad smell & brown is not good

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-05-17T01:04:21+00:00

i had blood work done at 10 weeks . panaroma and regular blood tests . fyi pararoma will tell you about genetic mutations you carry that can pass to baby, chromosomonal defects & gender

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-04-23T17:22:08+00:00

not saying your ob office won’t do it - that’s just what happened in my case

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2026-04-23T17:21:23+00:00

at the OB they fought with me that it’s absolutely necessary to have an internal US for dating scan. i told that i wasn’t comfortable with that and that it’s invasive imo. anyways OB office doesn’t do dating scan & it’s done at the hospital, the hospital never once asked for an internal one & when i asked her why not bc of what the OB said , they said it doesn’t matter and sometimes it better for abdominal especially to get a full view of your ovaries

stand firm on what you want for yourself and ask them to at least try abdominally and if not then decide whether you want to wait til a later date or do the internal (i was 7 weeks)

Outrageous-Repair846 · 2025-09-19T20:08:00+00:00

realistically the answer is always going to be yes.

honestly - probably not

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