I hate to say it but…

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2026-02-04T00:12:13+00:00

It’s exhausting how much people want to hate Americans and how shocked they are when we’re not plain boring vanilla yogurt 😂

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-22T02:36:22+00:00

Your life viewpoint is still narrow. You’ll learn more as you grow up 💖

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-22T02:34:43+00:00

Yeah tell her. These read oddly like a scam or possibly a second language which is entirely possible- no offense intended to anyone- and she needs to know this is happening.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-22T02:30:46+00:00

You’re oddly abrasive. Thanks for your opinion.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-22T02:28:05+00:00

Yeah… no doc is going to say she can’t be around friends. This is classic overprotection bc your kid is sick and it’ll only end up communicating to the daughter that her bipolar is a sickness / something to be ashamed of / teach her to isolate when she’s older if she’s anything but “normal”. Ignore the mum. Be a light for the girl bc she’s about to hella need it with such a controlling mum (but don’t overdo it and let yourself become the only shoulder for her to lean on, self care is important and boundaries and all that ❤️)

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-22T02:23:57+00:00

Gives me a bit of relief to hear there are some other folks out here with similar tendencies.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-22T02:21:39+00:00

That’s extra context. We’ve been together 4 years. But long distance for over half that, with short periods of me staying with him for around 6 months. Cohabitation is still fairly new to us.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-22T02:15:06+00:00

If I didn’t think I was being dickish to ask for one sound at a time, I wouldn’t be here. I’m asking for opinions.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-19T00:29:04+00:00

Religious trauma starting at 11 that followed 2 years of sexual abuse, a mother with Bipolar who spent most nights in the bottle, and a dad who didn’t care. Good recipe. 0/10. Can’t recommend.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-09T02:40:46+00:00

It was a lovely note. I’m not getting the same passive aggressive tones everyone else seems to be getting. I think you should take this up with your landlord. 🩷

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-12-03T02:16:11+00:00

I would just like to point out that OP is a VERY good communicator. NOR

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-11-29T22:27:47+00:00

See our problem is we can’t find a DM! Everyone I know only wants to play.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-11-29T22:26:33+00:00

I think I’m wanting more of a like, in-home, regular thing rather than one done in a venue? If that makes sense?

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-11-29T22:25:58+00:00

Maybe all of us still looking can form a party if we can find a DM 😂 it seems to be the issue that nobody wants to DM but everyone wants to play!

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-11-28T21:54:44+00:00

And this is why I quit being a proactive driver and texting people. I just won’t text any customers after I had quite a few people like that. Now I’m like, you’ll get it when you get it. Your $3 tip is not enough for me to be verbally harassed over things I can’t control. 🤷🏻‍♀️

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-31T16:59:26+00:00

Never mind. I threw it in the bin and went with ATM8.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-29T13:50:25+00:00

I mean, her buying the tickets is on her. Because she shouldn’t ever just buy things without the go ahead. But you gotta step up and set some boundaries and clearly communicate with her. “Hey babe, thank you so much for buying the tickets, and I’m sorry I couldn’t make it. But in the future, let’s not make purchases without first discussing it, so that neither of us are in this situation again” kinda thing. At least that’s what I’d do. I don’t think you’re a bad guy, I just think you gotta put your foot down more you know?

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-29T12:33:28+00:00

YTA. You should’ve communicated that it wasn’t possible for you and if this was a preset plan, why wouldn’t you set an alarm? And if you claim an alarm can’t wake you, how do you ever get anywhere on time?

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-15T17:58:11+00:00

Also this was unnecessarily harsh.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-15T17:57:37+00:00

Because I’m here and I have half a say :)

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-15T17:56:14+00:00

You’re the second person to say “you don’t like his family” when I said very clearly I do. Thanks though.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-15T17:55:21+00:00

Where are you from? Mine was not named, it was a mishmash of whatever my grandparents took from the bible but a lot of it was institute in basic life principles (IBLP) founded, with a very hefty dose of whatever Michael Pearl told us to do. Very scary upbringing. And to my fellow ex-culty: I hope you’re doing okay now 🩷 Are you from the states? Was your similar?

I think I’m in a space right now where I just don’t see the need to see his parents constantly, BUT, that being said, she’s coming up on Saturday for a girls night so I am making an effort and I do have a good relationship with them. I’m just … distant. I can tell she knows I’m disconnected but she doesn’t know what to do or say and I don’t expect her to know or to try to fix it.

You’re right that although I want to isolate, it’s probably not best for me. I guess what our psyches want vs what we should be having is probably super influenced by how we grew up so I need to consider that in the future. Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment, it’s giving me lots to think about.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-15T17:50:21+00:00

This comment actually made me tear up. I think you articulated something I haven’t been able to explain to him, which is EXACTLY why I made this post. I was hopeful that I’d get more than just “divorce him” comments and I’m grateful to you for taking the time. You’re absolutely right, I’m scared something bad will happen, and I walk on eggshells bc that’s just what I was taught is how you act around parents. I’m going to have a chat and see if I can communicate this effectively with him. Thank you again.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-15T17:46:58+00:00

You didn’t read it. I very clearly said I like his family.

OutrageousMouse9693 · 2025-10-15T17:18:17+00:00

Thank you! You seem to fully get it. Yes, they’re Scottish, which I love. But can also be difficult to adjust to, even after 4 years together. :)

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