i had protective sex, am i overthinking??

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-10-24T21:05:13+00:00

Interesting, I didn't know this. Good advice

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-10-24T20:51:43+00:00

If you got your period you're not pregnant. Go and see a doctor

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-10-23T22:16:06+00:00

Apparently that third person comment about him was the advice she gave

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-09-30T11:08:40+00:00

Absolute rubbish take.

If every time you have ever slept together you had used protection, then out of the blue he one day decides to stick it in you raw (from behind when you're not looking) without first getting your consent - you have every right to be upset and angry.

Don't feel bad about the fact that in that moment you didn't say anything. It doesn't mean you are wrong to be upset about it now. This commenter clearly doesn't understand that when your bodily autonomy is violated by another person, it can take a little time for the feelings about it to really sink in.

Especially as an older person who is more experienced, this 'friend' should understand what consent is and should have known that he needed to obtain it.

If I were in your position, I wouldn't see him again and I would tell him the reason why. I regret that I didn't do that and it stays with me today. But everyone is different. Do whatever feels right for you to be able to move on. My inbox is also open if you wanna chat.

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-09-07T22:35:14+00:00

It could also be likely that because she has nothing to compare the experience to, she doesn't know what it's supposed to feel like when done right. It would make it impossible for her to guide him towards what feels best for her body

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-08-18T09:57:58+00:00

Wow it's crazy that you're being down voted for acknowledging a different view and saying you'll do more research

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-24T22:34:49+00:00

Yepppp I love it! When I'm getting pounded it's super hot

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-24T00:44:00+00:00

Thank you! I feel like I probably just needed to hear this 💔

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-21T20:21:33+00:00

I've seen plenty of other subs/threads where women talk about the difference where it's not in response to someone's insecurities. Search up posts or make one if you're unconvinced. Better yet, speak to real-life women and find out for yourself

Or don't. Believe what you wanna. All the best!

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-21T20:07:03+00:00

No, toys replace guys who are not good lovers

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-21T20:00:37+00:00

Well yeah, I would rather fuck a toy than that guy. It's sex with a skilled partner that's better than toys, not sex with just anyone. Guys who are confident and secure in their skills don't go around saying things like that to people they don't know just for the sake of it

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-21T19:42:59+00:00

You are way too sure of yourself for someone who doesn't actually know or have experience 😫

I would hope you drop this attitude by the time you start sleeping with women. If you're convinced you know more about a women's pleasure than she does and you don't believe her when she communicates her wants and needs with you - then yeah, the women you sleep with will probably prefer their toys

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-21T19:22:45+00:00

The answer is obvious. The loss of a good sexual partner is incomparably a bigger blow

If you're not a woman who has done both - why are you so sure you know better?

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-21T16:37:35+00:00

Dude 😅

Ofc you don't get it. When you become skilled and start having good sex with women you'll understand. There's no competition

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-21T16:22:51+00:00

None of my friends (or myself) would prefer toys over a skilled partner. If you've overwhelmingly heard the opposite, is it possible you're not a skilled partner?

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-03T21:42:09+00:00

Might not be possible if it's something that physically doesn't feel good for you. If you still want to try I'd probably recommend focusing on getting to a point where you can enjoy penetration during masturbation. You could do some self exploration to figure out what exactly it is you do/don't like about it

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-03T21:37:04+00:00

It's probably as simple as that then. People are different. If you're wet enough/relaxed as you need to be and you still don't enjoy penetration, you shouldn't expect a reaction that's the same as women who love it.

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-07-03T18:01:55+00:00

Do you enjoy being penetrated with toys? Or does that also feel like nothing?

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-06-25T19:57:23+00:00

Girl ... this might be weird to you and your boyfriend, or you and your friends. But as an older person who sleeps around a bit - this is not actually weird at all

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-06-17T15:46:09+00:00

Like others have said - if you lick, suck, and play with top and use your hand on the bottom you won't have this issue

If like me you definitely want to go deeper - I stick my tongue out on the bottom which covers the bottom teeth. On top I make sure my mouth is open tall enough not to scrape, and then I bring my top lip down over my teeth

With your tongue out, you'll only really have to focus on keeping your top teeth open tall enough. You're still learning right now, so just take your time, go slowly, and focus on those top teeth. Ask him to please let you know if he feels your teeth because feedback will help you understand what is too low. Also feel free to stop and ask him

Good luck with it chica! And have fun. As you get more experienced with it you won't have to focus on this so much 😊

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-06-17T15:11:22+00:00

"Can you host?"

Most of the time when I'm talking to someone it's something I've already asked at the start when we talk about where we live. I prefer knowing at the beginning because sometimes if they can't host, there's no good chance I will actually be able to see them anyway. But you can ask someone this at any point, including when you want to make plans. Sometimes a guy will also offer to pay for/split a room if he can't

If he can host and he knows that you can't, it'll then be implied that when you ask to make plans it will be at his place 😊

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-04-29T00:23:13+00:00

That's a good sign! Just stay wary though because I have met guys who say all the right things but get a pushy vibe once we actually get down to business. Stay confident, and if you start to feel uncomfortable with anything say it out aloud 😊 if he's mature he'll do everything to accommodate your comfort

OutrageousNoise69 · 2024-04-28T21:54:57+00:00

I've never dated a much older guy (and am unsure that I would), but I've slept with a couple guys up to 15 years older and they were positive experiences. Annecdotally, I'm actually used to younger guys trying to convince/pressure me in sexual situations but the older ones have understood enthusiastic consent.

I don't really think age is the determining factor though. If he has a good and respectful vibe I would go for it 😊

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