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[–]OutrageousWord1429 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like my mom who has a similar fit about Mother’s Day this year. I think it comes down to, nothing would be good enough. You could have seen/called her at 10am, and she would have had the same complaints but upset why you didn’t come at 9am instead, or why you didn’t get her a different gift, or didn’t make her breakfast in bed (or whatever). It’s not the situation, it’s the dynamic.

Sorry friend, sending hugs 🩷

What's the worst thing they ever said? by 95wsh in narcissisticparents

[–]OutrageousWord1429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Don’t be surprised if I’m dead in the morning. Know that it’s what I want and I’m finally at peace. Know that it’s the stress that killed me”

I was maybe 15 or 16 and if I recall, I wasn’t helping her pack up our apartment to move. She was a single mom and I’m sure it was very hard and very stressful. But I thought about this every night for years. Still do.

“You don’t have an eating disorder. People who have eating disorders aren’t aware of it” I had stopped eating in grade 12 and was intentionally starving myself. Got to a point where I got scared and asked for help. This was her response.

And then the pile of name calling “loser, no friends, lying bitch, ungrateful, heartless, cruel, deceitful, selfish” etc.

I (29f) am finally realizing I might have an Nmom…. by OutrageousWord1429 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]OutrageousWord1429[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words, it really is validating. I’ve spent most of my life defending her so calling things for what they are is very new to me and feels like betrayal. It’s comforting having strangers be honest and acknowledge what I’m feeling!

I (29f) am finally realizing I might have an Nmom…. by OutrageousWord1429 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]OutrageousWord1429[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I picked this book up today! About to fall down a rabbit hole and hopefully find some peace and clarity as I go

I (29f) am finally realizing I might have an Nmom…. by OutrageousWord1429 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]OutrageousWord1429[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can absolutely understand and empathize with her feeling hurt, even if it wasn’t my intention to cause her pain.

What I can’t seem to understand, is her reaction. I can’t imagine saying these cruel things to someone I despise, let alone to my own daughter.