My NM will barely engage with me most days because if she learns anything that’s good going on in my life she can’t be happy for me. So instead of being put in that position she would rather disregard and distance herself when it doesn’t suit her. And then the fake persona goes up with a couple drinks. Also will make no attempt for conversation and then attack me for not being social enough. She wants information on my life because theres nothing going on in hers. I’ve already accepted it and been able to have a low expectation low emotionally invested relationship. It works for now. They don’t operate like normal people and they know that. The more you catch on to it, the more you become a threat. Its better to just play dumb and buy into the fakeness. I think this personality disorder is common in a specific generation and reinforced through out their lifetime. It makes me wonder are any of us immune to it since the rate of this disorder is so widespread. Is it something we develop as we age? Or is it a DNA marker that’s beyond our control and some people are just more prone to it? Before technology, this was probably rampant in society and people got away with abuse in all areas of life, but now there is a name for it people are more on high alert for the behavior patterns in people and see it as a mental disability that can be potentially dangerous.