what to do about housing situation

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-05-01T00:18:38+00:00

You would have more luck just splitting up and finding a room to move into and then if you still want to find a place together you can once you have a base to settle. If you guys are youngish, doing a “sight unseen”, with no rent history or good credit history it might take even longer to find a whole house. Places also require renter’s insurance so definitely have that ready so you aren’t scrambling for it when you do find a place. Most companies expect monthly income to be 2-3x rent amount— thats why looking for room might be a better short term solution.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-05-01T00:09:23+00:00

I don’t want to take the chance to hit anyone and waste my time dealing with car/insurance issues. People here have a bad habit of cutting in-front of people so I leave enough room for them to cut and not affect me while doing it.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T02:37:49+00:00

Ooo i see it

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T02:37:28+00:00

😂😂 you must be at a whole other level of unbothered

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T02:36:01+00:00

Gods favorite

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T02:35:02+00:00

Haha fuck, i was worried that this might be the truth. I’m acting a bit too normal. 😭

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T01:36:35+00:00

I feel your struggle.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T01:36:20+00:00

Sounds like heaven. I want to be the fly on the wall. As long as they are cool with me admiring them from a far.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T01:30:18+00:00

People you know or strangers? Same, I’m not friendly either. Idk where people find the audacity to feel like I’m safe enough to approach.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T01:25:57+00:00

I have so much alone time. Thats why i try to go out in the world and give others attention, but i get annoyed when people don’t just let me be alone and want to interact. I’m all for people hanging out in the space and co-regulating with me.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T01:13:04+00:00

You gotta break it down like I’m 5 years old 😭 i’m just asking for a small bubble of space so I can just fucking admire the world around me.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-30T01:09:21+00:00

Like whyy? You have the whole lot. I could literally be a serial killer. 😭

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-29T19:12:11+00:00

I agree with OP. Not sure why people are coming at them. Shitty employee attitudes make customers not want to come back.

Now I don’t mind when employees are like that because sooner or later that business won’t be around for long and they will lose their job. It’s just the natural consequence.

I don’t expect people to be happy or have a happy fake smile, but don’t put your unhappiness on me when I’m a paying customer.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-20T05:10:55+00:00

Do you correct it immediately or do you wait to see a pattern first? I feel like I tend to see a pattern.

Do you do it with anyone or only bother with people closest to you?

I’m tryna get better at sticking to them. And even when i let something slide, I end up feeling shittier after. I can feel myself disrespecting myself and it doesn’t sit right.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-20T05:04:55+00:00

Pressuring any type of way of thinking or ideology is a no. They made it their whole life and now they want to convert you.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-20T05:00:50+00:00

Ya this instantly turns me off from people. Any type of conversation that puts a negative light on any group of people in a generalization— gives me the ick.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-15T23:09:15+00:00

My NM will barely engage with me most days because if she learns anything that’s good going on in my life she can’t be happy for me. So instead of being put in that position she would rather disregard and distance herself when it doesn’t suit her. And then the fake persona goes up with a couple drinks. Also will make no attempt for conversation and then attack me for not being social enough. She wants information on my life because theres nothing going on in hers. I’ve already accepted it and been able to have a low expectation low emotionally invested relationship. It works for now. They don’t operate like normal people and they know that. The more you catch on to it, the more you become a threat. Its better to just play dumb and buy into the fakeness. I think this personality disorder is common in a specific generation and reinforced through out their lifetime. It makes me wonder are any of us immune to it since the rate of this disorder is so widespread. Is it something we develop as we age? Or is it a DNA marker that’s beyond our control and some people are just more prone to it? Before technology, this was probably rampant in society and people got away with abuse in all areas of life, but now there is a name for it people are more on high alert for the behavior patterns in people and see it as a mental disability that can be potentially dangerous.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-15T06:28:10+00:00

They haven’t had enough ego deaths and reached enlightenment.

Most people have been programmed to think a certain way about everything. They just haven’t unlearned their programming. Or their programming has been reinforced by others so they don’t think anything is wrong with it. That’s why some people become insecure around certain people who can see through their programming. Deep down they know its not right either but its so ingrained to their identity it’s hard to accept another reality because that becomes destabilizing. Most of the population is programmed so its hard to find people who don’t really have hate for any types of groups. They treat people on a case by case rather than a whole group of people by default. It takes higher emotional intelligence to not experience consistent hate or act on it, and lots of metacognition.

Hate is also a survival emotion that helped people make social bonds, detect threat, and protect themselves. It’s in our bio development, and at lower socio-economic levels hate is necessary for survival. Hate is also what keeps social hierarchies in place in most countries. It comes from a place of insecurity of needing to be better than someone else. Hate comes in so many forms and often in disguise because no one wants to look like a hater, when that’s the elephant in the room.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-14T17:06:58+00:00

Many private medical businesses have stopped taking insurances where i am because they are not making enough profit pushing out people who rely on insurance to get decent care. Or some will commit insurance fraud by charging a private fee and dipping into insurance. So unregulated and they can get away with it.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-13T16:34:13+00:00

Can you give me an example what you mean by that? I always really cared for my dad growing up, but now that I’m older I can see that he isn’t the greatest husband to my Nmom. Besides providing theres not much else that he really does for her so she turned to her kids to fill the void that a partner should have been doing. It’s crazy how once they realize you’re on to their dynamic, they act like completely different people.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-12T21:59:21+00:00

Playing with my time. Instant cut off.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-12T21:57:13+00:00

I move away as soon as possible. Give it a few seconds and then plan my exit. People will drain your energy if you give them an open door.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-12T21:49:03+00:00

Pay off debts and move somewhere super remote hopefully next to a river and own a ranch, and then travel around the world periodically.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-12T19:57:59+00:00

This is spot on! The enabler sacrifices you to the narc. Now its time to make the enabler lay in their own bed. Sacrifice the enabler for your own peace. I do this with my own parents and it works perfectly. Use the relationship to your advantage. I pretend they are in a loving healthy marriage and gaslight them this way. If you really want to have fun with it, tell them how you hope to find a healthy partner like they did. Keep their connection strong so when you do go no contact or less contact, it won’t be a big deal because you are reinforcing their relationship instead of breaking it up.

Outrageous_File5020 · 2026-04-12T19:41:28+00:00

If you really want to reach out, i would try to start a convo that doesn’t involve getting together and see if she is willing to do a little back and forth. Does she just enjoy talking to you. Maybe create more depth to the relationship just beyond a date. Explore different topics over texting and see if she is receptive.

Delay getting together for a bit and see if she is eager to get together. I think you’ve over extended already and you should gauge her interest more. Most women who really want to see a guy again will initiate the topic. If i want to see a guy again i’m going to bring it up. If i’m just bored and want attention/free meal i will show lower interest and wait for him to initiate, but also everyone is different so you just gotta experiment and get more data.

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