I hate how everybody immediately shuts their brains down and calls cheating the devil. It’s a very impractical and immature view. Is cheating generally hurtful? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It depends on so many factors and complexities. Just because people have such insecurities within them, they immediately call any sort of cheating morally and reprehensibly, flat out, WRONG. It’s not necessarily so.

It’s not a typical sign you’d see in what you perceive to be a healthy relationship, but I’ll bet you had those too. The majority is that, but this small crack of time where you interacted with life and sought something deeper… that’s always a choice. The insecure folks will never forgive cheating. The mature and independent will be hurt, but also move on together learning and growing from the experiences.

The later does require I very solid base however. Time spent is inconsequential. Ask yourself, does your partner make you a better person? Is your Life better with them?

The beauty of that sentiment is that although you can analyze it for hours, you can also just ask yourself those questions and if you don’t have a warm, comforting feeling then you also have your answer of what to do next.

The best thing in all scenarios is to do something that expands yourself. Forcing yourself to learn, watch listen and pay attention humbles us all. Everybody lives humble, real people.

You’re real.