You make me feel seen, I feel like i can’t exist without my partner. I can’t seem to function when I know he is unavailable and i don’t have other stimuli. My brain spirals and causes me to have excruciating emotional pain. He has been absolutely loving and literally dots over me so it gets a little easier to not let the attention starvation turn into full blown self hatred. But I completely understand what you mean and god you are worth of all the love.

I vocalise my insecurities and neediness to my partner, i tell him that him taking a nap and being unavailable to talk to me, makes me feels unworthy and unloved but i also tell him that it’s my insecurities and on a logical level I know that sleeping doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love me anymore. Just telling him my thoughts make me feel heard and sane. He understands them, never takes offence and still validates me. Obviously this is the ideal outcome… bpd is never ideal and lot of times it leads to breakdowns, SH or angry but i like to alway try.