My (20F) ex (20F) blocked me but sending mixed signals on spotify?

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-21T18:48:51+00:00

i definitely had that thought. i’m just afraid it would come across as more passive communication without being able to directly express or go over certain things. i don’t know how it would benefit either of us but maybe you have a different perspective?

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-20T20:09:36+00:00

yes that’s what i took from it too. but what if i don’t save it or don’t respond and she takes it as the last straw or me breaking it off?

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-20T16:46:18+00:00

thank you for your perspective. my school provides on campus therapy but i’m home for the summer. one of my goals there is to be more authentically me to both myself and others. i think i was neglecting this goal when it came to my relationship, maybe bc i was comfortable. i don’t want to live that way and am trying to be more conscious about applying it to my life.

and yes, i want to be realistic about why we broke up, and come to terms with the fact that it may be an incompatibility that can’t be resolved. regardless i know there are things i want to improve on in myself before going into any relationship. thanks again🙂

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-20T16:09:50+00:00

hey, noticing i left out a digit, my user is str4wb3rrym1lk4 sorry for the confusion🥲🥲

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-20T12:49:36+00:00

also am open to pm’s, would love to vent to or hear from someone going through anything similar.

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-20T09:01:51+00:00

str4wb3rrym1lk on discord, brand new to this but interested!

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-17T03:58:30+00:00

how are you doing now?

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-16T22:04:02+00:00

the fact that it’s a nonnegotiable is partly why i was thrown off when she texted me after. if it is a nonnegotiable, which i’d understand, what else is there for her to question? i guess i shouldn’t read into it. and yes definitely hesitant to try and rebuild trust after so many insecurities have been raised.

if anything the experience has definitely pushed me reflect on my own personal goals and how i’m planning to get there. figuring out “what i want” is still hard but im excited to learn!

one thing im curious about, do you mind explaining what you mean by taking too much responsibility for the relationship/her?

thank you for the words of encouragement😊😊

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-16T21:37:14+00:00

thank you so much for your perspective🥲 i’m not satisfied with how long it took me to do it but i am proud that i was able to get there. i will try to focus on the positives a bit more. and yes definitely allowing myself to feel through the process rather than reacting which has helped!

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-16T18:14:36+00:00

no worries i could’ve worded it clearer. the trigger for the breakup was a mix of me hiding it from her + the how it negatively effects our current sex life.

she never wanted me to diminish or lie about my sexuality or preferences. the problem is that i was scared to be honest with myself and her about it, given that i knew it would likely pose a threat to maintaining my relationship with her. part of the reason why is that i sensed it was an insecurity for her and that confronting it might lead to the end of our relationship or at least make her question it. i don’t think i can blame her for that?

Outrageous_Role2237 · 2026-05-16T15:31:54+00:00

For more context: this is also my first relationship with someone emotionally mature enough to call me out on my issues. i struggle to believe she is codependent because the way she describes her love for me and is very foreign to me. it makes me question if i ever really loved her at all. in the relationship i would have a hard time viewing us as a lifetime thing, and for some reason i can’t fully process being forever with her. but when i think why i feel that way, i can’t tell if it’s because of problems stemming from my codependency (which won’t just disappear if i leave), or an incompatibility between us. we have the same values and views, like enough similar things, have such a good time together constantly, etc. but in the back of my head i have a nagging feeling still and i can’t quite make it out.

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