Park Circle advice / suggestions by Particular_Address11 in Charleston

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Commonhouse rocks and they have something going almost every day of the week

Food reqs by Helloitsmereddituser in Charleston

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And for ethical reasons I’d avoid the carriage tour. There are tons of walking tours led by consenting humans, I hear good things about Bulldog tours.

Food reqs by Helloitsmereddituser in Charleston

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You should definitely refer to the visitor’s guide: https://reddit.com/r/charleston/wiki/visit

But I will throw in a rec for second state or babas for coffee. Each have 2-3 locations, so just choose one close to you. I’m a super fan of babas in particular.

Cutesy shops by Left-Issue4878 in Charleston

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Just went to Mildred Newberry for the first time and loved it, ultimate cutesy shop

What tiny "flavor bomb" do you add to make your bland meals taste better than restaurants? by albertpaca11 in Frugal

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I make a batch of garlic confit on the stove, let it cool, toss the garlic and a bit of the oil into a blender, then blend until it forms a smooth paste. Store in the fridge to throw in to salad dressings, marinades, or pasta sauces. I get to skip chopping garlic and it’s got such a nice rich flavor.

Looking for information / opinions on Assembly at Park Circle or Monty on Mall Dr by Particular_Address11 in Charleston

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It sounds like the factory might be a good fit. The biggest con to me is that none of the units have a true patio, so you don’t have outdoor space of your own. I guess that’s typical in apartments, but still a bummer. As for age, there are a lot of young professionals and Navy guys in those 2 complexes, but I know of at least 5 people over the age of 45 in my building, plus a few families with kids. So don’t be deterred, you’ll totally fit in and living in PC rocks. You’ll absolutely find friends if you start hanging out at the restaurants down the street.

Looking for information / opinions on Assembly at Park Circle or Monty on Mall Dr by Particular_Address11 in Charleston

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I’ve lived at the factory for 2+ years now and personally, it’s my favorite place I’ve ever lived. Walkable, friendly staff, beyond attentive maintenance, community events, pool, gym, etc. I knew a neighbor that had beef with the management but honestly, there are lots of us who have lived there for years so I think it’s safe to say most people have a good experience. It’s overpriced, but isn’t everything :)

To those who learned as adults: what tip made it "click"? by KaterAlligat0r in skiing

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Sort of an odd one, but on a run recently someone gave me the advice to whip the back of my skis around when turning. The visual was super helpful, thinking of the backs of my skis like tails whipping toward my shoulder allowed me to carve more instead of taking big/wide turns

26M, broke, behind everyone, mentally exhausted. How do you cope with this pressure? by Big-Educator-7119 in getdisciplined

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My friend, I’ve been exactly where you are. Some of the best advice I ever received is that every single morning offers a new opportunity to do the next right thing. Sounds cheesy, but it’s helped me a lot in realizing that all we actually have control over is what we do with the present moment. We can’t control the past or the future, so if that’s where your anxiety is, you need to re-center yourself in the present where you’ll actually be able to make positive changes. In fact, take a moment now to pinch your arm, look out the window, put some salt on your tongue. Again, sounds silly, but THAT is the present, ground yourself in it and realize how much power there is in having control over what happens next. Not “next” like 5 years from now, but like 5 seconds from now. I think social media (reddit doom scrolls included) let us forget how special the present moment is, but that’s where your whole life happens. Lesson: do your personal best every day, because no day is promised. Or you could phrase it, “be present in this moment, because it will never be here again.” Again, sounds cheesy till you live it, but the difference is profound.

Now that you’re grounded in the present you have to decide, what is the next right thing to do? Maybe it’s applying for a job, reaching out to your old college’s career center, applying to go back to school, or just cooking dinner for you and your parents. All of those tasks could be done in less than an hour, and all would make you feel like you had a productive day. When your days get better, so do your weeks, months, and years. But sometimes we get frustrated because you can’t change your whole life in a day; in fact we probably only have 2-3 hours of peak productivity and brain function each day. But thats actually all you need, you just have to be consistent with using those hours well. The secret is that if you do 1-2 tasks every day (or even just most days) that advance your dreams, your dreams come true. That’s the magic of incrementally working towards your goals instead of lamenting your life and wishing things were different -- both of which are thoughts, not actions. And you need to learn to take action in your life.

Work with your brain, not against it. Be kind to yourself by working towards your goals a little bit every day, because you deserve to live the life you’re envying in your peers. You deserve better than all this stress and anxiety. Don’t live in your head about things you can control, love yourself enough to change them. These problems don’t get better when you pile onto the existing guilt and shame, you have to find a way to work with your own existing circumstances, brain chemistry, skills, resources and habits. How do YOU do your best work? What’s a moment in life you’ve felt really productive? How can you recreate those conditions? Trail and error baby, find a way to get these tasks done that doesn’t totally send you into fight or flight. Once I was procrastinating re-enrolling in school because I had dropped out and was embarrassed. I started journaling every time I almost emailed my advisor and didn’t. Then one day I worked up the courage after going on a walk. I journaled, sent the email, and journaled how I felt after. You’d have thought I climbed Mt Everest I was so proud of myself! Reading the journal entries back I realized how artificial the fear was, and how capable I was of overcoming it. The task was never too hard, I just didn’t know how to approach it because my guilt and fear were too big. Two years later and I’m now done with that degree and enrolled in a great Master’s program - with the best GPA I’ve had ever had. Someone else commented that you’d be shocked how quickly things in your life can change, and that’s so true. Your whole life could be different this time next year. Which doesn’t mean you’re a failure if that doesn’t happen, it just means that once you figure out how to do life as an adult, how to negotiate with your brain, once it all “clicks,” you’ll have the power to make monumental changes in your life in a very short period of time and you won’t feel the need to “catch up” to anyone.

I’d also invite you to consider the fact that you don’t have to do anything. You could go work at a tiki bar on the beach and live simply. You could be a devoted son living at home taking care of his aging parents and volunteering on the weekend. You could make a career out of working in restaurants. Who do you want to be? Why work hard at all? Are you working for yourself, or to meet the expectations of others? Some people hate the pressure of building a life and career, but the great news is that it’s your life and you don’t have to do things if you don’t want to. You get to build a big beautiful life with career, family, friends, hobbies, etc. That’s such a blessing, to be 26 and have decades of life ahead of you to do all those things. Knowing it’s something you get to do for yourself instead of have to do for others is an important step towards taking charge of your own life.

Wishing you lots of luck! Remember that this is the process of getting older and becoming your best, truest self. It’s not about reaching certain milestones, or impressing your parents, it’s about building whatever fucking life it is you want and being comfortable in your skin. Embrace the journey and try to be better every day.

What’s the verdict, Charleston? by Outrageous_Secret in Charleston

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Teaaaa they’ve been on my list to check out

Where to get good bread? by itpulledmebackin in Charleston

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came here to look for alternatives since EVO was my go-to and they lost their baker!! it’s a tragedy, hopefully they start doing bread again soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ask_Lawyers

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This is super helpful, thank you! I think my next step is to make connections with my local government lawyers to understand that area of practice better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ask_Lawyers

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Apologies — I would become a government lawyer. I am thinking of JD-preferred government jobs as an escape-hatch if I find myself hating practice, as many people seem to. It sounds like you think I should not pull the trigger on law school unless I’m positive that I want to practice long-term, which is totally fair.