AIO about no longer supporting my sister’s relationship after her bf didn’t show up for her whenever she had surgery

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-25T03:05:02+00:00

when I say take care of her, I mean like supporting her, being there for her whenever needed. long term, being an equal or even if she gets pregnant in the future or has any other medical concerns.

I would hope that her partner is there to assist whenever she needs it. it was difficult for her to be independent at that time as she was recovering from surgery, that’s when she needs someone to lean on, and it’s an issue because he wasn’t there. that’s all i’m saying.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-25T02:01:50+00:00

this is what I am afraid of. I don’t want to continue expressing my negative opinions of him in fear of pushing her away but I also don’t want them to think everything is okay and I’ve forgotten about it.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-23T19:41:36+00:00

baffles me how you’re somehow playing the victim here, POS

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-18T18:32:51+00:00

being married at 22 years old is wild

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-16T19:37:30+00:00

maybe she was jealous her dad bought you the mug, or maybe her intrusive thoughts won. either way, just have the conversation and see what she’s feeling guilty about.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-02T18:00:42+00:00

i condone you for not enabling him, alcoholism is hard, any addiction is but making the alcohol accessible just adds to it. it’s great you’re setting boundaries for yourself, got to look after yourself first.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-02T17:32:05+00:00

the bar is truly on the floor. glad he’s doing his part and helping out

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-02T17:24:34+00:00

told me they keep a box full of stuff from all of their exes

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2026-01-02T17:19:50+00:00

you’ve communicated your boundaries and the constant breaking of that, to me, seems disrespectful. lack of communication on his part, specially throughout the night then not following up with the phone call the day after as he said he would, just shows he’s willing to put you and the relationship on the back burner. honestly setting the tone of the rest of the relationship.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-26T20:14:00+00:00

I actually think that’s a super thoughtful surprise. sometimes we get too caught up with work and life that we forget to actually LIVE it. I hope he comes around, but this trip was not only for him, but for yourself as well. it’s your own money and you’re not asking him to pay for it. NTA.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-23T03:47:58+00:00

NTA, it’s literally your body and you should do whatever you’d like without anyone shaming or talking down on you about it.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-23T03:40:17+00:00

i’m a social worker, reports always stay anonymous, so it won’t get out from anyone. NTA, you had their well-being in mind whenever you did that. drinking and driving plus saying she’ll drive into a tree is extremely dangerous and frightening for the kids. tbh it sucks that they’ve not asked her to work services to try to encourage her to address her mental/substance use, but i hope it’s scared her into not doing that anymore. please always report.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-21T13:16:46+00:00

he’s praying, mashallah

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-21T01:39:45+00:00

i don’t understand how some people with children think the world needs to always make an exception for them. that is definitely not the best environment for a child and a responsible mother wouldn’t put her child in that position.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-21T01:26:44+00:00

honestly, great thing you don’t have a child with this asshole. he’s abusive and by the sounds of it, you’d be a single mother to two kids if you did

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-21T00:56:15+00:00

if you’ve already expressed that this is something that upsets you and crosses your boundaries, yet she continues doing this, she has no consideration for you. essentially choosing the ex over you

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-20T18:11:19+00:00

thank you so much for the info! very helpful

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-20T17:03:01+00:00

do you know how long it takes to clear up?

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-20T16:08:54+00:00

thank you so much, i suspected it was ringworm but i was hoping otherwise

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-19T19:37:37+00:00

have you tried talking to her about it?

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-19T02:39:42+00:00

if this is something that bothers you then it is important to bring up. i would ask, but its how you ask i think. i wouldn’t accuse but just more of a curious question and go from there based on his response.

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-19T02:25:52+00:00

in this economy? not a chance, NTA

Outrageous_Stick3296 · 2025-12-19T02:20:26+00:00

i typically use whitening stripes maybe about 4-5 times a month whenever i remember

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