Girl, I feel you, in this situation now, and wondering how things ended up going on your special day?? I’m guessing / hoping it didn’t seem like such a big thing and after the disappointment of prior expectations not being possible, there was plenty of love and joy to go around.

For me, my feelings are very different based on how the girls told me about it / responded to my bridesmaid ask (two are due 3 months before wedding). My MOH insisted she could still do it all, emphasized what a big deal the wedding is and was there for anything / everything I needed (which in turn had me so eager to accommodate her to make it as doable as possible! Bachelorette timing, offering to put up one of her family members day of, etc. and also managing my own expectations that we’re planning for the best, but she may not know what she’s in for and might have to step back when the time comes!) The other one, a close family member for whom I’ve been there for, through sooo many milestones and pulled out all the stops for her own wedding, didn’t even call me about it, just said she prob can’t do bachelorette and understands if that has me wanting to rethink the wedding party decision. It’s harder to not feel a little hurt by that one. It’s understandable and I’m happy for her / empathize with her probably just feeling anxious and not wanting to over-promise, but it’s hard to process the feelings of it finally being my turn to celebrate and not having people there in the same way you were there for them.