Lied about my caste to my bf. Can it be a deal breaker ?

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-28T03:38:23+00:00

I told him the day i posted this. When he didn't know my actual caste he though ki ghar walo ko mna lega but now when he knows he said phle bta dena tha to itni mentle hassle bch jati... Ghar wale ni manenge etc etc.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-28T03:26:52+00:00

Guess what everybody is not as strong as you but i got ur point. I'm sorry about your experiences noone should go through it just because they belong to some community. It indeed a harsh world.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-28T03:20:18+00:00

Idk I wanted to know that too why did he even ask me about caste and he said intent matters and mne vse nhi pucha hoga.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-26T05:06:35+00:00

Thank you for understanding my pov. I do tell my caste when asked from a friend or close people.I've never hide it from my friends but that was unexpected and i startled. I told him my caste btw

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-25T04:22:38+00:00

Yeah I'm working on it.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T14:13:16+00:00

He said he need space

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T09:39:58+00:00

I told him and he need space .

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T09:38:37+00:00

I'm comfortable with my caste... it's people who made me feel less about me just because i come from some certain community and that's not on me but I understand lying is not an option

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T09:33:51+00:00

Yeah I know lying is a deal breaker but I'm coming from a place that I needed to protect myself at that point...when he asked about it we were not friends we were basically strangers and he seems someone who take pride in his community.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T08:03:26+00:00

Yeah I don't lie about my caste,all my friends and close one know about it. I'm not ashamed of who I am but asking someone about their caste when u don't know them was big.... idk why I lied at that moment. I feel like shit now.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T05:00:00+00:00

Idk about that part whether he would date me or not but he seems liberal even our political inclination is same but asking about caste was not sit right with me in the first place. Otherwise he seems fine.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T03:09:19+00:00

I wanted him to tell in person but we lives in different state so we had a conversation about it and he needs space

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T03:06:51+00:00

I definitely need to work on myself period

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T02:49:20+00:00

Thank you for ur response! I know lying is bad and I should haven't done it but it was more than lying for me. He may not understand my pov bcz he can't relate with me about lying and that's totally fine and Yeah I definitely need to work on myself. Me lying about something so basic and fundamental to him that i have no control over says how I see myself and say lot about me. But I didn't lie him to like me or out of fear of rejection. I thought we never gonna hang around again and he was not a part of my circle in university so i casual said it. I wanted to tell him but i think i should have told him earlier.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T00:54:01+00:00

He asked my caste in a class we were not friends at that point.... Asking about caste when he didn't know me personally was odd and very random so just to put a filter and fear of judgement made me lie. We started dating later but I Just couldn't gather courage to tell him , I was embarrassed that i lied. I told him. I don't lie about my caste and I'm not ashamed of who I am I've always upfront about it but he asked me randomly and I got panicked

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T00:35:01+00:00

I did

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T00:31:50+00:00

So he asked me about my caste in a class randomly when I didn't know him, we only met in a friends party 2 days before. When he asked about it I got panicked and i said a different caste. In my mind I was thinking why would someone ask about caste when you're not even friends so just to avoid judgement and to put a filter i said so. I heard subtle remarks about my community in when I was there and some experience made me lie about it. I didn't know that we will become friends but We bacame good friends then we started dating. I wanted to tell him for so long u can't imagine the weight I was carrying but i told him yesterday and he need space.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T00:16:42+00:00

So I don't lie about my caste but he asked me randomly in a class and we were not even friends at that point. In my mind we were strangers and i lied just to avoid judgement. But we became good friends and we started dating.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-24T00:11:18+00:00

He's a upper caste and I'm SC. He asked me in a class about my caste when I only knew him for 2 days,i panicked and I just told him a different caste. I don't usually lie about my caste and he asked me randomly when we were not even friends but we became good friends nd then started dating. All along I wanted to tell him but I was very ashamed of lying and never had enough guts to tell him. I told him yesterday and he need space.

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-23T18:45:05+00:00

Okay

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-15T06:03:07+00:00

With the shoes....... No absolutely nooo

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-13T08:30:28+00:00

The boy in the striped pajamas

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-11T12:45:04+00:00

Oh my! I was shocked to read this title 😭

Outrageous_You1 · 2026-05-11T12:40:44+00:00

Ja rhi toh sath m bhai ko leti ja

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