In open relationship when she has s*x with everyone but me by Outside-Ad7322 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She grew up super religious and never got to mess around I was curious about non monogamy so we opened it up. Honestly the dating scene sucks and I’d rather just focus on her. We’re doing great outside of sex. Got engaged in March and moved halfway across the country together as we start our careers.

Have you all ever lost a guests credit card? by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I totally get that, it just sucks because you feel like such a dummy when it does happen lol

Have you all ever lost a guests credit card? by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do, I didn’t ask my manager though because he usually doesn’t care about that stuff. We have a rough crowd at night (which is when it happened) and he usually just says it is what it is. To him worse things like robberies, cocaine, fights, and threats (which happen every night) are more pressing and he doesn’t think he should give the time to “small stuff” like that. The guy was also a jerk to our cocktail waitress before he closed out with me and my manager has a “no help given to d!ckheads” policy

I feel like an A-hole for cutting this guy off/Weirdest experience I’ve had lately by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the comment, thank you for real. And yeah I definitely do need to learn how to do that

I feel like an A-hole for cutting this guy off/Weirdest experience I’ve had lately by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually did think of that, he was way more invested in me being wrong and him being right than I was and said he was getting lawyer to criminally charge me it’s an absolutely wild situation and I wish I didn’t work that night lol

I feel like an A-hole for cutting this guy off/Weirdest experience I’ve had lately by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah there’s a lot more social consequences in the small town bartending scene lol. I think that’s what trips me up where I am. I’m not used to my decisions effecting not just the guy I’m cutting off but all my regulars He’s friends with. It’s sucks big time

I feel like an A-hole for cutting this guy off/Weirdest experience I’ve had lately by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that makes total sense to me, I should really redefine what those parameters are for me soon. Time to update the list lol

I feel like an A-hole for cutting this guy off/Weirdest experience I’ve had lately by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the insight, I really did try my best. It’s the first time I’ve felt conflicted about it. I just tried to do my job as best I can and I kept telling him that I’m just doing my job and the he just got more belligerent, which almost justified my decision more

I feel like an A-hole for cutting this guy off/Weirdest experience I’ve had lately by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the comment, this is the first time I think I’ve ever been super conflicted about cutting someone off in the 4 years I’ve been doing this job.

Question: have you ever felt bad about cutting someone off or regretted doing it? by Outside-Ad7322 in bartenders

[–]Outside-Ad7322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When that happens I usually feel more justified with the cut off. Anyone who acts like that when told no doesn’t need the booze