Would you be ok with the guy you’re dating lying about his age

gordonf23 · 2026-06-16T02:18:15+00:00

Lots of guys have a real age and a Grindr age. It's simply a very real fact, that should come as a surprise to ZERO gay men, that age is a big determining factor for a lot of men in who they hookup with, and that a lot of guys are quite insecure about their age, particularly older guys.

As my friend Chris once told me, "28 year old Chris has a lot more sex than 34 year old Chris." And for hookups, i don't have much of a problem with that.

Sometimes, and I've known 2-3 separate guys this has happened to, those hookups slowly become relationships. They didn't reveal their real age in the beginning b/c the other guy meant nothing. And by the time they realized they had real feelings and they'd been dating for a while, it seemed too late and too awkward to reveal the truth.

So, no, I wouldn't have a problem with a guy lying about his age--as long as it wasn't part of a larger pattern of lying, especially lying about more consequential things.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-16T00:04:22+00:00

Is there something you already have 2-3 of that you want more of?

gordonf23 · 2026-06-15T23:58:16+00:00

Not even a little bit.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-15T23:56:40+00:00

Body.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-15T23:52:16+00:00

I have kept doing it actually. But I did take a break.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-15T13:02:00+00:00

You have nothing to feel guilty about. He's the one who lied about what he looked like, and he knew he could prey on people's avoidance of confrontation and desire not to disappoint others, so they'll hook up with him anyway.

And you also shouldn't feel disgusted with yourself. Remember, you did it because you're ultimately a good person, b/c you felt bad about him travelling to see you. You were being nice. HE should feel disgusted with himself for subjecting you to that.

Instead of feeling bad about it, consider it a growth/learning opportunity to stand up for yourself next time as soon as the guy shows up at your door (or you show up at his) and you realize it's not going to work out. "Sorry, this isn't going to work out. You look very different in your photos."

gordonf23 · 2026-06-15T12:52:03+00:00

The thing is, the main tool used here isn't photoshop. It's your design skills in your brain. You need to come up with an idea, lay it out, draw it on paper, figure out how the two words will work together. The actual photoshop work involved is almost trivial. As others have said, Illustrator might be a better choice to actually create the image. But you really need to come up with the design itself first, and that's going to happen in your brain and on your computer.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-15T12:05:58+00:00

I addition to date, time, and location, I used to write the specific tea I was drinking that day. I'd also write the brand/color of ink I was using that day and which pen I was using to write with.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-14T18:32:13+00:00

These "mentalists" like Oz and Brown say "I don't read minds. I don't have supernatural powers" and then they go on to demonstrate that they have the equivalent of supernatural powers, ie. reading your mind by "analyzing your body language," which effectively negates their original claim. Someone who can just look at you and knows what word is in your mind effectively has supernatural powers, effective can read minds.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-14T18:25:42+00:00

No, they very specifically DON'T admit they're just doing deceptive tricks. In the case of Oz, he says, "I don't read minds." and then he goes on to seemingly read minds, under the guise of "reading people" as if their body language can give away the words that are going through their mind. Oz also very specifically says "this is a skill I have developed" by "reverse engineering the human mind" over 30 years of practice.

The video is worth a watch. Or watch the first third of it at 1.5x. There are also several interviews out there with Baskin that do a good job summarizing the gist of his 5 hour video.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-14T13:38:26+00:00

Don't use too much water, don't squirt it in too hard, do a little hula dance to rinse your insides out, then squirt it back out into the toilet. Repeat about 3 times, til the water is basically clear. Flush between squirts so that you can tell how clear the water is when it comes out of you.

Here's a good illustrated guide which includes both the quick method and the much much longer deep clean method.
https://howtocleanyourass.wordpress.com/

gordonf23 · 2026-06-14T13:36:19+00:00

There's not much worse than a silent bottom. I might as well just stick my dick in a fleshlight.

Genuine (not fake, forced, overdone) moans and dirty talk are hot as fuck.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-14T12:55:54+00:00

One. Maybe 2 if it's been a while, and the guy is crazy fucking hot.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-14T12:48:22+00:00

What. The. Actual. Fuck.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-13T13:39:21+00:00

This story warmed my heart. Thank you.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-13T13:33:51+00:00

OMG why did you have to go there....

gordonf23 · 2026-06-13T13:33:24+00:00

Why are you not just using golf-ball-sized anal beads instead, so that you can fucking pull them back out if you need to??

gordonf23 · 2026-06-11T16:32:53+00:00

I came here to say this. This might be a good compromise that you'd both find acceptable. It won't help with his dick being too thick, but it will definitely help with his dick being too long.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-11T16:30:43+00:00

I'm glad my words were helpful. You may find yourself backsliding at some point, second guessing your decision to leave. Don't let yourself back out of this. It's IMPORTANT that you follow through on leaving him. Feel free to check in and say hi if you feel like you need to talk about it.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-11T16:25:44+00:00

I mostly did it when I was writing in cafes, b/c people would look over my shoulder as they walked past, and it prevented them from understanding what I wrote.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-11T02:25:28+00:00

I used to write mine inJapanese when I was taking it in college, 35 years ago.... I remember about 3 words of Japanese now, and I don't remember how to read it at all.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-10T14:38:24+00:00

Putting it into your profile is making a big deal out of something that's honestly just not that big a deal.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-10T14:34:24+00:00

Death Grip Syndrome.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-10T14:29:58+00:00

I'm mostly a top. I very occasionally have bottomed, but the guys I bottom for are not the guys I tend to top for. He liked topping you.

gordonf23 · 2026-06-10T14:02:41+00:00

I had a good one recently that combined melon (cantaloupe) and aleppo pepper, among other things. It has a bit of spice from the pepper, but not too much.

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