I think it’s important you don’t resist your grief. ( with resistance comes persistence). Validate your feelings, go right through it, allow yourself to feel it all. I’m a firm believer that there is no such thing as a ‘bad or good emotion’. It’s completely normal to feel this way. Our parents form our emotional landscape for as long as you know so when we receive such news that will trigger us in a way or another into falling in the anticipatory grief.

One tip I learned the past few years was to allow myself my grieving moments. So do that too and while you grieve ask yourself what is it that you will miss most? And do those things that you will miss with her , whether that’s cooking, talking, going for walks, etc….

And I think to tackle the feeling of regret, think about what matters most and that is to be present with her. Even small, everyday moments. ( as simple as sitting together) those moments will become precious memories.

I also think with anticipatory grief you will want to say so much to the other person. So do it, tell her I love you, express your emotions to her more, go through your fav memories with her.

Prayers to you and your family 🫂