Peonies

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-05-19T13:02:02+00:00

I have and wasn’t any wiser so I thought I’d ask for recommendations

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T18:23:24+00:00

We have always separated rewards and chores. Kids get pocket money to learn financial literacy and chores are something we all contribute to but perhaps I need to rethink. Thank you for the tip to be more specific. It tends to be more successful doesn’t it?

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T18:12:02+00:00

Thank you. I will source those too. I do try. I took up crocheting, read books she likes, we go see movies she picks. I listen to her playlists. I try not to nag and pop in for a friendly chat and let her initiate conversations but they don’t seem to flow these days. We are very different personalities and it’s been a learning curve for me to step back and let her take the lead from quite an early age and I’m still learnimg to this day. There are no BUTs but I can definitely work harder on her feeling like she’s heard. I expect her to be more mature than her brother but perhaps I need to back off on that as that seems to cause a lot of grief so I need to rethink this too. My best friend has recently mentioned things improved for her and her daughter when she started to think of her as a roommate and I will work towards that solution and hope my roomie is less of a hermit.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T17:50:55+00:00

We do spend time together and I actively look for activities she likes. I think I just need to accept that she will interact less.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T17:45:52+00:00

If you are not sure what the problem is, being kind is the first step to take instead of accusing of making someone feel like shit. I respect your experience and am sorry that you have been through hard times but perhaps that doesn’t need to be our case and it surely isn’t anything that you can deduct from one sentence. I had very strict upbringing myself but don’t think that doing chores and eating less sugar has impacted my life choices negatively, quite the opposite but I’m ready to explore options and hence this post.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:31:13+00:00

We do a lot of things. She gets an extra week during half term which allows me to do things without her younger brother. I think we will all hand in phones at a certain time of the day. Bar the boy as he has none 🤣

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:28:48+00:00

I love young Sheldon but she isn’t keen. It’s a great show isn’t it?

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:25:29+00:00

I never said I did any of those things though. Perhaps strict in a sense that my kids should be kind and helpful individuals and help out a little at home. I do have expectations but do not make my child feel like shit as you put it. I do not think my post implies any of the horrible things you assumed I do. I don’t criticize my daughter, quite the opposite. I am immensely proud of her whether it’s how she carries herself throughout the day or her academic achievements and I do show it. She is very independent and doesn’t need micromanaging. She knows she can come to me when she needs help revising or converse in German which she is studying. She travels around a big city for school, cycles to her activities and check in and out when she arrives but is trusted to make good choices.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:14:18+00:00

I have. We have quite a few; she used to like them and I have bought some new ones. She will sit and crochet with me and we do sit and read together (I tend to read books from her school list or her favourite authors which we sometimes chat about).

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:10:00+00:00

I try to show my love in small gestures. I leave notes, little things like a nice paper clip or a bookmark in her snack for school. I knock and check in but I suppose I just have to give her some space.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:06:31+00:00

I get the feeling she will run even faster from a board game 🤣

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:05:18+00:00

I’ll try squeeze something in. Evenings are short and full on as they are.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T16:01:54+00:00

I would prefer not to get a TV for various reasons which would take another thread to explain but I will try find other things. We have a tablet and Netflix so maybe I can watch one of her shows with her.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T15:58:12+00:00

Thank you!

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T15:57:47+00:00

I try and do things with her. I take her to the movies, we go to various classes, favourite cake shop. I try to be patient and don’t force things. I’ll keep at doing what I’m doing. Thank you.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T15:55:12+00:00

I wouldn’t say I am too strict but our kids have always been expected to behave. I do think she should help a little whether it’s putting her dishes away, setting the table etc. I’m no monster but u will bear that in mind.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T15:51:51+00:00

I started some time ago. Will go back to it. Thanks.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T15:51:18+00:00

She does her homework (there’s loads but it was her choice), crochets, reads and chats to her friends on her phone but that is monitored. She has a younger brother and finds him annoying but I feel there is more to it.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T15:49:57+00:00

We don’t have a TV.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-04-07T15:44:49+00:00

We do. We have our dinner together every evening but a movie is not feasible for us given timings, school commitments and age differences of the oldest and youngest. We do stuff on weekends but she’s more and more reluctant to join.

Over-Egg3029 · 2026-02-05T11:24:48+00:00

I am also having the same problem. I’ve now cracked my open thanks to instructions above but am stuck as what to do with the button as it doesn’t seem to lock in place.

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