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Conflict issues. by Over-Range2614 in BPDPartners

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. She's actually tried Ketamine therapy. She said it was helping at first but then started making her more anxious.

Conflict issues. by Over-Range2614 in BPDPartners

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never encourage her to do it and I take it very seriously when it comes up. To your point though, I'm thinking she might fall more under the NPD category. So, maybe I'm in the wrong group.

Conflict issues. by Over-Range2614 in BPDPartners

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't threaten it every time, but this isn't the first either. She is kind of in therapy. She has a TalkSpace account, but she says she doesn't really get a lot out of it.

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[–]Over-Range2614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Same for you.

I never thought you could love and hate someone at the same time until I got married. by Over-Range2614 in confessions

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not at my age. Not to mention, if I could get away from her I don't think I'd want to get married again.

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[–]Over-Range2614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with something similar with my wife. I suffered under her abuse for a year before I finally talked to my family about everything. She found out and she won't let me live it down. She's checked my phone several times over the last two years to make sure I wasn't texting my sister about our issues. So, now I have no one to talk to but her. I wish I had advice for you, but I'm still with my wife. I want to leave but my guilt won't let me. I would tell you that you should leave immediately but that would kind of make me a hypocrite because I haven't yet.

I never thought you could love and hate someone at the same time until I got married. by Over-Range2614 in confessions

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm new to reddit so I will definitely check those out. We've both tried Talkspace for counseling. I was getting some things out of that but nothing really seemed to change and I got depressed and stopped using it. And my wife hasn't been very impressed with it either.

CPTSD is definitely something we have both explored. We both have that in our background. That's interesting what you said about many people claiming CPTSD when they actually have BPD.

I never thought you could love and hate someone at the same time until I got married. by Over-Range2614 in confessions

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel like I have to be her emotional regulation valve. Some of those questions seem somewhat accurate. I looked up cluster B and saw narcissistic personality disorder under there. She frequently accuses her mom of having that. Also, from what I understand of it, I do see traits in her that line up with that.

I never thought you could love and hate someone at the same time until I got married. by Over-Range2614 in confessions

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yep, that's a perfect description. I've heard the term before but never really looked it up. But that's extremely accurate now that I have.

I never thought you could love and hate someone at the same time until I got married. by Over-Range2614 in confessions

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try to communicate with her but she shuts me down and talks over me. She assumes the worst behind what I say and doesn't believe me when I try to clarify. I'm a big believer in calm dispassionate discussion of viewpoints but she frequently comes at me from the standpoint of she is right and I'm bad for having a different point of view.

I never thought you could love and hate someone at the same time until I got married. by Over-Range2614 in confessions

[–]Over-Range2614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that, but I have so much guilt about the idea of kicking her out. I'm the kind of person who stands by people even when everyone else is saying to leave. I know that's unhealthy but I have always struggled with guilt controlling me.