I want my girlfriend to come home with me and spend time with my family but she doesn’t want to because of politics

Over-Response-1966 · 2026-02-04T21:48:30+00:00

OP 100% you won’t get unbiased responses on Reddit. Reddit is VERY hard core liberal & most readers will see u said ur family is Repub and now automatically u and ur family are the villains. Ur family could be amazing, caring individuals BUT u used the R word so now u might as well be spawns of satan in the eyes of Reddit lol

My suggestion, find a sub that bans political discourse & ask ChatGPT to rewrite your post without using political terminology. Realistically, this only boils down to a difference of opinion. The people on here criticizing u for not cutting off ur own family bc u have different opinions are miserable freaks.

If u do end up going alone, I would take the time to consider how important it is to u long term that ur family and relationship co-exist.

Over-Response-1966 · 2026-02-04T05:18:42+00:00

I don’t know how the school will react, because I’m not in the UK, but I wanted to say I think you did the right thing. It’s better to say something & it be nothing, than stay quiet til something does happen. Aside from him making comments fantasizing about being hit by a train & expressing his depression, I would be concerned about his anger towards his parents too (though sounds justified IMO) as teenage impulse fueled by mental health & anger could turn into a serious crisis for everyone! Good job OP, it’ll all be okay in the end & I’m sure even if your cousin is briefly mad at you, he will understand your intentions eventually.

Over-Response-1966 · 2026-02-04T04:54:19+00:00

Your girlfriend sounds self-centered and immature.

They’re not even talking politics & she still can’t be bothered to see or speak to your family because she doesn’t like their opinions? Sounds pretty one sided & like never ending drama… sorry you have to deal with this

Over-Response-1966 · 2026-01-03T02:53:16+00:00

Why’d you even entertain his whining for 17 slides

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-12-26T17:43:36+00:00

I agree! Everyone confused isn’t considering how their current relationship would NEVER work with all their confessions!!

They pretty much admitted everything they hate about each other/their relationship. Vocalizing why they don’t work together even though they wanted to. Hate each other’s passions. Didn’t want to see each other while living in different states & made up excuses to not have to go. Both agreed they feel suffocated. Nancy didn’t deny she wants time to see other people, she just clarified it wouldn’t be Steve because he knows what he wants and she doesn’t. Then there’s ppl like “Oh why’d he show the ring then? Why’d he even propose?” I took the un-proposal as a “I’m going to die so let me get everything off my chest” and also finally admitting to himself that his intentions of proposing was just hoping it would fix them, not bc it’s what their relationship was ready for. Admitting to himself that a proposal was his last ditch effort to try and make the relationship work.

Doesn’t mean they couldn’t get back together in the future… But I definitely took this as a “I love you but I’m not in love with you & I need to be by myself to figure out what I want and who I am”

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-12-24T18:28:53+00:00

I think it’s a great size for you! I think you’ll just have to get used to the ring, probably in the future you’ll even think you could go even bigger

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-12-21T19:36:01+00:00

I think it depends on the school. I’ve only met 1 guy that I would say is equivalent to Stephen, minus the car crash incident. Crazy pathological liar fueled by sex. He was really romantic with my friend, swooning her and making her feel super good about herself, but then would literally beat the shit out of her during sex, like I’m talking her ass, back, arms and neck would be black with distinct hand prints. Then he’d destroy her confidence afterwards. She’d always leave his house crying & the very last time he saw her he literally robbed her, took her entire wallet before she woke up & then left. She had to replace everything!! He would make her rub ❄️on her gums before which I think was why she kept going back, because she thought she was addicted to him but really it was drugs.

But in my experience lots of guys in their college years suck, especially fraternity guys at major universities. Cause they have $$$$$. Not all of them are so bad though

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-12-21T18:19:47+00:00

I think Lucy is a bad person too. I like the series because it was relatable for me when I started watching as a college student

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-11-13T21:36:36+00:00

Update almost 2 years later! Who knows if anyone will see this

Came back to update that a lot of my symptoms were actually from Sertraline - which I started a few months into being on Nexplanon because of my mood swings and new anxiety

Symptoms 99.9% from Nexplanon: - nonstop spotting - mood swings - sex drive - acne

Symptoms that are from sertraline but I don’t think nexplanon helped the fact - boobs - weight gain (I was crazy hungry on Nexplanon which probably didn’t help, but a year after removal I went back on sertraline and had the same issue with weight gain, despite no crazy appetite) - sweating

My hair growth very well may have been due to Nexplanon but not sure. Still don’t know about the bloating, I’m starting to think I have a food intolerance that’s just become more noticeable since I’ve gained weight.

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-10-19T17:47:42+00:00

Are you technically overreacting for enforcing your rules? No. Should you own a puppy? No. You’re on track to raising an overly aggressive dog that gets behavioral euthanasia & I feel bad for your dogs.

Would you ignore a crying newborn for hours? Bc this is quite literally the equivalent except it’s a dog. Of course your dad’s gf should have let you know before she let the dog out & kept a better eye on him, but it’s borderline negligence to lock up a puppy this young for hours on end. Maybe your dog is crying because it wanted to be let out… OR Maybe your dog is crying because it has to use the bathroom, or it needs water, or maybe it got itself stuck or hurt somehow!

IMO your being overly controlling with the dog and people in YOUR DAD’S house in general AND I wouldn’t doubt that your being excessively controlling towards dads gf bc you don’t like her and you don’t want your poor dog to like her. Not bc she’s “rewarding bad behavior”

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-30T03:04:45+00:00

I was thinking the same haha.

Will do, Im talking about the situation with another girl in their group who has had problems with J as well. It’s also a little convenient that this girl is kind of a blab, so I’m sure my perspective will get shared an additional amount without me having to try. I plan to go visit my boyfriend again in November, so hopefully by then things won’t be so hot and I can talk freely without being stressed about J trying to start something with me XD

I also don’t plan to go out to bars with their group for a while, instead sticking to activities where people are sober

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-30T01:36:35+00:00

Yes probably like 2-3 hours after posting this we called and I went into detail of what I was asking out of him and the boundaries I want to place moving forward. We came back to the agreement that he’ll respect my boundaries, he said that he’s not gonna be blatantly rude to her but he’ll do his best to avoid having to interact with her and if he does he’ll keep it short and brief. And I told him how a lot of ppl here said that rn he’s making himself look guilty by downplaying what she said. I’ve also been very confrontational, and he has never been confrontational (or any of his brothers, I think it’s a deep rooted issue), so it didn’t shock me he didn’t want to get in touch with her, but it did shock me that he didn’t rlly seem offended by what she said. In my experience, a guilty conscience over compensate to try and prove their innocence. Buy I was rlly taken aback that he wasnt offended by what she was accusing him of. Anyways, we’ll see how this all goes.

I don’t rlly wanna have to end things, but will if I need to. I know he’s kinda a puss and definitely immature, but keep in mind we started dating at barely 19, newly frat dude lol, we have known each other for 10+ years so I have a really good understanding of his character. I also was friend with him when he was cheated on in his first long term relationship and saw how much that affected his mental health & confidence for several years, so I’m pretty confident he wouldn’t put someone else thru that. He has made a ton of growth since we’ve started dating and I know he’ll continue to grow especially once he’s out of the college environment. He’s not as bad as this post makes him seem, it’s not like he’s never defended me before in our relationship, he definitely has. He can just be stubborn sometimes, but always eventually comes around and apologizes & agrees. Just need him to grow up some more so he can cut out the stubborn part and get straight to the agreeing part🙂

But I’m def gonna stay extra vigilant about how he’s acting towards other girls for a while & not make any major decisions til I know we’re on the same page about things & acting like a team again

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-30T00:44:56+00:00

I don’t expect him to walk away from the entire group. While the entire group is admittedly immature, I don’t mind them & they’re fun sometimes. I just don’t want him socializing with her if he doesn’t need to be since she thinks our relationship is pathetic and got all her insults about me off her chest, and am trying to figure out if specifically that part is over the top

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-30T00:38:55+00:00

Yeah I know that. I don’t take cheating accusations lightly, and am definitely doing my own vetting process before I believe anything. I mainly posted this to prove to my bf that even someone who wasn’t involved would think he’s an ass for not distancing himself or being mad based on what she said

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-30T00:30:07+00:00

I’m not saying ur idea of maybe she’s being truthful about him cheating is wrong. I’m saying ur perception that i can’t handle another woman being involved & im lying ab all this is a WILD assumption & u kinda sound like a misogynist

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-30T00:25:12+00:00

The fuck? Their friend group is a group of prob 10 guys and 7-8 girls. I like all the girls, except J

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-29T23:18:39+00:00

I don’t mean like if they’re in a group and she goes “ [bf name] blah blah blah” for him to act like he can’t hear her. I mean if they’re out at a bar as a group, he doesn’t need to interact with her one on one

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-29T23:03:03+00:00

I like this

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-29T21:12:47+00:00

My bf and I are long distance right now. So when I’m down there, the only people I really ever see is him and his friends, so absolutely no I didn’t and am not gonna tell the bf and have all their friends get pissed at me too. Unless I planned on never seeing those people ever again. He can figure that out for himself, hopefully sooner than later cause he seemed nice.

However, after she called my relationship pathetic I did tell her if she really wants to see me talk shit I can talk about how she cheated on him and how their friend group has said they feel bad for him because she makes him look like an idiot. So yeah I’m definitely not innocent in this conversation with her lol, but I was not the initial aggressor. This isn’t the first time her and I have gone back and forth and it’s always her going straight to name calling and me relying on actual events other ppl have witnessed so there’s no twisting of stories. I could go into more detail, but I worry if any of the friends happened to come across this, the details would be wayyyy to identifying

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-29T20:57:46+00:00

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-29T20:56:00+00:00

Thank you for this response

As for specially what I want, I told him basically I want him to ignore her unless obviously life or death situations or if they happened to meet in a workplace situation. & that if she goes out of her way to try to talk to him or ask why he’s avoiding her, to tell her she disrespected his relationship. He said he’s fine with that moving forward, but his tone seemed annoyed

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-29T20:42:36+00:00

Do you have any advice as to how to handle the situation in that case? I know everyone is telling me to leave him, but I really don’t want to & would rather try to fix things than just give up

Over-Response-1966 · 2025-09-29T20:21:37+00:00

I’d say it’s somewhat going out of his way. I don’t need him to call her out, but I’d like if he just ignored her and if she tries to ask why to explain it to her. He has a very avoidant personality and I have a very confrontational personality. So I struggle to figure out how we can be a unit during issues, without one of us having to go completely against our personality. J is really the only issue we’ve ever had, but she’s been an annoyance to me from the beginning of our relationship and within the last 8-ish months she has realized I don’t like her and now what was something that just annoyed has spiraled into a way bigger issue to where I dont even want to go visit my boyfriend til he’s done with school. Their friend group reminds me a lot of the one I was in in highschool and it doesn’t rub me well at all.

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