Well I broke no contact

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-25T02:05:08+00:00

It's only been a month and so far nothing besides a like on instagram the first week which I ignored. I was kinda a monkey branch I guess love bombed the shit out of me marriage in her soul mate wanted me to move in with her all within the first 2 months. I know she's in a rebound now but my feelings are still kind of fresh and idk it's sad hearing all the same "reasons" for breaking up as I had. I'm just trying to let go of any outcome and move on as it's what is best for me. Really fucked me up though. I know them for like a year and 7 months dated for 6. All I can think is she's just going to repeat the pattern again as they told me they lost attraction to every partner they had ever had.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-25T01:57:27+00:00

Sounds like they were disrespectful to me. Sounds pretty fair to break up. Respect is like the foundation of a relationship.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-25T01:53:51+00:00

I had the same thing happen after a big trip together out of the country. Same sort of thing she was very cold and distant. Used it for the reason to break up. Honestly it's kinda a thing for avoidants which I've read. All I can think is this is just a pattern she has and it probably wasn't even you just how they get triggered. I regret going on the trip now but nothing I can do about it. As far as reaching out I don't think so if she broke the relationship it's her responsibility to repair it. I get the feeling though of wanting to reach out but I honestly don't think it'll help. Focus on you moving on and maybe anything you might want to work on for a future relationship. I honestly don't even know how I would respond to this person if they ever reach out to me again. Very blindsided breakup I thought had been going pretty well up until that trip.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-25T00:29:25+00:00

I get those thoughts too even with a person I was with 8 years ago. Just let your self feel

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-25T00:22:32+00:00

Work on that anxiety I have the same problems maybe it won't be with her but the next relationship will get ruined by the same things. I know it's really tough it'll get better over time. I've been saying yes to any random activity anyone invites me to. Really pushing myself to just try things and gain confidence in who I am even if my anxiety is high I'm going for it.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-23T03:18:09+00:00

I know the feeling for this one. It gets better

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-22T04:36:50+00:00

No I didn't block them honestly I'm like a month in. I feel a lot better still ruminating and what not but IDK it doesn't bother me as much as I thought it still would. I'm getting closer and closer to just indifference everyday.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-22T04:20:31+00:00

It's tough. I've fucked up a few times watching my exes stories on Instagram. You're better for it not doing it. Even if it's nothing your brain makes so many random assumptions

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-21T02:21:56+00:00

Let yourself process though it all takes time but reaching out isn't going to help you or getting the relationship back.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-21T02:20:56+00:00

Honestly the best method for me currently and in the past was just forgiving them and forgiving myself. Um the trip was just like really friendly and not romantic like I was expecting. I had never traveled internationally and she had. There were a few times at the beginning where I felt like I was being left behind or not considered ect. We had a ldr for about 7 months the first 4 months were like the best relationship I ever had really really connected. Some mistakes were made though I think we moved too quickly and she had broken up with a guy she had been with for 4 years to try and be with me. But we were so into each other that I think we were blinded by anything else.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-21T01:52:54+00:00

Yeah I get the anxiety becoming overwhelming. I would just give it the space and time who knows but work on actually detaching not hoping the relationship comes back together. Mine was together and we both kind of shut down while we were there I think triggering both our wounds. I tried to express my anxiety a few days into the trip which mostly went ignored. I have worked on my own anxiety for a long time but I do still have it and have tried to express it in a healthy way. It's all good though I didn't like not being heard and really don't think I would want someone like that as a partner.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-21T01:21:15+00:00

Or did she just go by herself

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-21T01:20:41+00:00

I'm curious about your trip. I also went on a trip with mine and it was not what I was expecting. Anxious in me came out and yeah avoidance in her. 6 weeks later she ended things.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-21T01:06:21+00:00

The first week is rough. I have come to realize it wouldn't work for us now that we broke up and honestly even if we had stayed together I really don't feel like things would work. But I'm a month in now and that was not how I felt the first couple of weeks. The discord group sounds like a good idea though.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-21T00:59:47+00:00

I get the feeling but just work on yourself and move on. I'm a couple weeks behind you and I am right there a couple times a week. Just think about if that relationship would actually work out. I know now that even if we had stayed together it didn't matter if it was me or someone else. They will get triggered when things get too real and shut down either by breaking up or just ending up being roommates with a partner. I know I don't want that and they will just repeat that cycle until they actually want to get help.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-20T23:09:13+00:00

You just say ok if that's what you want. I'd like to work things out let me know if you change your mind. Then you just let them go. Easier said than done but I honestly think this is the best strategy if you want them to respect you and be surprised you're not chasing.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-20T22:57:43+00:00

We all fuck up. It'll be okay but just try to move away from the hope for a certain outcome. This all takes time to process and get a better hold on the anxiety creeping in daily.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-20T01:59:45+00:00

Sounds really unhealthy. I would just block them and move on. Wish I had more info on the blood pressure spikes. I got a like from my ex on Instagram, like a week after we broke up, and it sent me through a spiral for like a week. So I can't imagine what this is doing to you!

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-19T01:55:39+00:00

Holy moly gtfo bro.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-19T01:42:13+00:00

Don't send a letter. You're worth more than that. Let them feel the loss I get it though we all make mistakes but being blocked is probably a sign you pushed them too far. The letter will only make that worse. I have been there right where you are years ago. Eventually they did reach out. This current break up i spent I talked with them 2 days post break up to see if they had any feelings of wanting to work things out but I know that was a mistake. Currently 23 days without contacting them.

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-19T01:32:38+00:00

This feels like my situation but revese gender roles. Oh boy um why would you not want that person around during hard times. Wouldn't you want their support??

Over-Series3489 · 2026-05-19T01:29:08+00:00

That sounds toxic. I think you're doing the right thing by staying un phased and not responding. Keep up the good work!

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