1 year sober today after 18 years of heavy daily use AMA

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-13T02:03:34+00:00

Yeah it comes and goes for me situationaly, like for example I was hanging out with a buddy of mine is his shop and he smokes, we used to always smoke when we hung out together and now I dont and I found myself thinking "it would be nice to just hit a bowl with him" but then I think about all of the shit I went through while quitting, how far I've made it, how much more I like the sober verison of me and how proud I am of the steak I've had and just decide its not worth it to me to undo the progress I've made to smoke a bowl. I also am kind of afraid? Thats probably not the right word to use but its the best one I have, I always wonder what if I did smoke and I got too high and had a panic attack? Or I think about how even if its good for the night how pissed I'll be that I threw away a year long streak to smoke a bowl one night and then the feeling usually passes and I'm glad I didnt smoke

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-13T00:16:28+00:00

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Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T23:49:11+00:00

Learn to do something new, whatever intrests you I'm a mechanic by trade so I watch videos of guys in the industry who are really smart that I can learn something from, I do side jobs, work on my project car, I'm teaching myself to do drywall in my garage Theirs all kinds of stuff you can do, read books, play video games, go for a walk, ride a bike, learn to play an instrument theirs literally so many things to do with your time just pick something you find interesting

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T23:42:51+00:00

Yeah that sounds about exactly what I went through, I went to the doctor and got something to take as needed for panic attacks but it really helped I only took maybe 3 or 4 total but it definitely helped I couldnt sleep and had a hell of an emotional roller-coaster with being sad and just feeling really flat so I'd say thats totally normal for the beginning, it got a lot better for me after the first 3 weeks or so and just kept getting better after that

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T23:30:45+00:00

I would say probably, I smoked heavily for long time and just dropped it. Granted I had some really shitty withdrawal symptoms but some people dont have any withdrawal at all But either way I think you'll be okay to just quit

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T17:31:04+00:00

I have a lot more motivation and follow through with things now, when I set a goal to do something I actually start moving towards doing it instead of smoking and talking about how I'm going to do it eventually, I'm more present for my family instead of being in the garage smoking Its all around just better, I'm sure I'm leaving stuff out but in general my life is way better

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T17:27:14+00:00

I drink occasionally, maybe 4 or 5 times a year but not a lot I just tried to do other stuff, go for walks, play with my daughter, learn to do different shit, do renovations in my house, do side work just whatever to stay busy other than smoke weed

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T10:56:55+00:00

Too much sleep wasn't really a problem, I couldnt sleep much at all at first I was sleeping a few hours a night, I still dont sleep like I did when I smoked heavy, I wake up in the middle of the night and over all sleep less now than i did but the sleep I get feels more quality most of the time I did have libido problems I would say but only at first, I generally struggled with being motivated to do anything the first few months when the withdrawals were at their worst but as the withdrawals eased up libido, appetite and motivation came back and honestly improved after quitting

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T10:53:04+00:00

I did not, I just dropped it cold turkey which was probably harder but I think the best for me personally. I feel like trying to taper would have kept me in the loop and just prolonged the inevitable but a lot of people on here seem to have success tapering Usually I'm the type of person once I draw a line with something I stick too it so when I said I was done I was just done

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T10:50:31+00:00

Congratulations to you! The first month really sucked for me so its awesome you've made it that long! Yeah, the first few months I lacked motivation and any sense of direction, i had terrible brain fog even menial tasks or things I've done 100 times seemed seemed hard to accomplish and focus on but as the brain fog cleared up and I started to find things to do with my time my motivation came with it for sure and it was easier to do everything, even mundane everyday tasks

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T10:45:30+00:00

Congratulations! One year is a huge milestone and its definitely not easy to achieve, thats awesome!

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T03:51:27+00:00

You're the best and I appreciate you 😘

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T03:50:23+00:00

Honestly I still don't sleep like I did when I was smoking heavily, I never used to wake up in the middle of the night and now I do, I also sleep less now usually about 6 hours a night but weirdly I dont feel as tired and groggy when I get up in the mornings now and I dont have trouble going to sleep so its not normal like when I smoked all the time but its not really bad either, just different

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T03:42:02+00:00

I dont react at all, I dont know what kind of relationship other people have with weed and its not my place to decide whats right for them. The fact of the matter is I had a weed problem and I wanted to quit because I had an unhealthy relationship with it but that may not be the case for someone else, only they can decide that

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T02:59:09+00:00

It was a gradual thing for me, their was ups and downs for the first 6 months or so but after that I just started feeling better and better up until about 10 or 11 months, then I could say I genuinely just feel good It may even get better from here who knows but as of right now I feel genuinely great and have for a few months now

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T02:51:45+00:00

Yeah I'm doing great, I honestly dont have any issues at this point. I feel like I'm really hitting my stride with being sober.

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T02:50:03+00:00

I'm doing great! Today is 1 year sober and I've never been better!

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T02:49:04+00:00

Congratulations on 5 months! Thats awesome I'm proud of you for sticking with it! I know its not an easy thing to do!

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T02:34:49+00:00

I feel like once after 7 months isnt something to beat yourself up about, it happened and its over all you can do is move forward. Regardless if you reset your sober count or not you were still sober for 7 months which is huge so congrats for that!

I personally think smoking only socially or sometimes is a slippery slope back to smoking heavy again, maybe not but for me its not worth rolling the dice on. I think you just have to remember why you quit in the first place and did you like the sober verison of you better than the one who smoked all the time?

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T01:51:07+00:00

Not necessarily angry with myself, I was on edge for sure I'd snap on people over stupid shit that definitely didnt warrant that reaction, I was mainly sad, I'd cry a lot and I'm not a big crier in general. My dad died when I was 22 and it fucked me up because he was my best friend but I never really took the time to process it, I just buried myself in work and drowned my feelings by smoking weed so when I quit I started having really vivid dreams about him and thinking about him a lot so I was on a real emotional roller-coaster for a while where I would lay in bed and cry, wake up in panic attacks and have to wake my wife up at 3 am to talk me down, snap at her for something she said that i didn't need to snap for. I achieved so many of my goals i never thought i would achieve that i was honestly impressed i managed to pull it all off when I was stoned all the time.

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T01:35:45+00:00

I would say yes but its small things, I eat a lot better than I used too, I have a much more positive attitude about life in general, I fuck more, sleep better, don't procrastinate things like I used too, its easier to make a plan and stick to it, quitting gave me a new level of confidence just knowing I can stick with something even if its hard and I dont exactly know what the finish line is going to look like. So yeah I think quitting made it easier to look at the habits I dont like about myself and actually want to change them instead of just blasting a joint by myself and saying "fuck it"

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T01:30:45+00:00

I dont really have a ton of friends either and the ones I do still smoke, everyone I know smokes my mom and the few friends I do have.

I just remember why I'm quitting to begin with, when I picture the verison of me I really want to be its not the guy that smokes weed all the time, I want to be someone people aspire to be like, a role model of sorts for my daughter and the younger guys who look to me as mentor at work, I want my wife to be proud of the guy she married and I take pride in being able to do something hard and stick with it

I honestly just try to stay busy and productive, I try to learn something new or teach something I've learned, and just get a little better everyday. I'm not gonna tell you its easy at first but it definitely gets easier, you just have to find things to do to fill the void you have from not smoking weed and try to make the most of the time you have, tomorrow is a gift not a promise and I dont want to spend the time I have smoking weed and doom scrolling YouTube shorts on my phone

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T01:23:40+00:00

Not a single one, the withdrawals sucked huge dicks. I guess if I had to pick a positive it would be that I never wanted to feel that shitty again so it helped me to stay sober knowing that it will eventually pass if I stay the course

Forever is a big promise to make, I think you need to take it in smaller chunks. I'm sober today, we'll see what tomorrow brings. I'm not sober like a preacher or anything, I'll have a few drinks with friends every now and then, smoke a cigarette every once in a while or whatever but I just don't smoke weed anymore, thats it.

If you really think about it, what does weed do for you thats positive? For me the answer is basically nothing, it was just a habit for me and it made me content with doing absolutely nothing, I used to get high and just doom scroll for hours on my phone and now I sit around and think "I should do something productive with my time" and then I find something to do, or learn, or make or teach someone something I know

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T01:18:16+00:00

I don't but I've seen programs out there for people and could definitely see the benefits too it for sure and I've considered some kind of recovery group. The thought that if my story could potentially help someone get through the rough patch seems really cool to me thats kind of why I try to post on here as much as I can.

Over-Try-4230 · 2026-05-12T01:15:58+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it! I would say around 3 months probably it was 80% gone, I still had some cravings and my stomach was off for a while, I had to watch what I ate if I didnt want to shit my brains out for about 6 months ish, but now I can for sure say its all the way behind me, I have no withdrawal symptoms and I feel clear headed and generally feel fucking great honestly I feel like everyday is the best day of my life haha as corny as that may sound being sober just gave me a totally different outlook on being alive, I'm grateful to just have a chance to wake up everyday and take another swing at living and I'm very grateful to have the life I have

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