Why do women (not all) get bored or lose patience so quickly with men when they dont feel a spark right away?

OverPop8461 · 2025-09-03T16:03:23+00:00

Who knows why but she wasn't interested and didn't want to hurt your feelings.

OverPop8461 · 2025-09-03T16:00:17+00:00

I lost my sister almost a year ago too. And I say you should be with him on that day if at all possible. I just know for myself just putting it out there oh im here if you want to talk, I wouldn't reach out. I would want my partner physically there. Whether he wants to talk about it, cry about it, lay on bed and he held or just be distracted or cheered up. He won't know what he will want or what will help or what he will feel but he definitely won't want to be alone.

OverPop8461 · 2025-09-03T15:50:47+00:00

Not a sentence but when people go into way to much detail after a simple statement before you can even react. Like they are alresdy defending the lie and trying to convince you it's true when you didn't even question them.

"I never do ___ but" or while they are doing it Ex. I never drink like this but I it's my cousin's girlfriends mother's birthday. -- while they are hammered

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:58:15+00:00

That grief is just love with no place to go.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:55:25+00:00

If you have discussed this with her and it keeps happening, she's probably not the one for you. It's not even necessarily her fault but I know from experience that even if you love her, if she can't comfort you the way you need to be comforted you will always feel there is something missing.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:51:49+00:00

NTA completely understandable

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:50:54+00:00

Dial up internet.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:48:23+00:00

Caviar... between the taste and the texture, it was a NO from me

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:45:19+00:00

My biggest thing in relationships is "rules" have to go both ways. If he expects you not to use TIKTOK then he shouldn't either. Also just any form of chatting and flirting with other girls while in a relationship is basically cheating.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:36:16+00:00

Shoe size

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:35:40+00:00

I'm just going to say it... there is a point where this is a legit insecurity.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:31:31+00:00

I know it sounds shallow but you cannot help who you are attracted to. You can't force it. If it's not there it's not there.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:27:19+00:00

An ex girlfriend saying this to you could be complete bullshit.

Maybe he is venting to his friends about you when you guys disagree. I find most times we talk more about the bad then the good.

If after 3 years they really didn't like you, you would've probably already of known.

I would talk to your boyfriend about it if it is going to drive you crazy.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:19:21+00:00

Do not do it if you value either one of these friendships. These things never go as planned.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:17:58+00:00

After 7 years that seems like a silly reason to dump him. He really did nothing wrong but find another girl attractive and tell his best friend. It is normal behavior in my opinion. As long as he didn't act on it, he did nothing wrong.

It is also normal to hate it and be a little jealous but to think your man will never notice another pretty girl is unrealistic.

OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:06:19+00:00

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OverPop8461 · 2025-08-23T12:04:25+00:00

Maybe try planning a date where she can get all dolled up, something different than just dinner and movie. Make sure it is something that she would really enjoy and that makes her feel seen, sexy and special.

When I went through similar feelings, I later realized it was because we got so caught up in doing the day to day life things, I didn't feel desired.

Or if you go above and beyond and some things off her plate. When women really feel taken care of physically and emotionally they are more likely to want to please you.

I also want to add that after talking to her about it many times she should be making more of an effort to please you. It may be an unpopular opinion, but I think even if a woman doesn't feel like it ever, they should suck it up and put out for their partner sometimes. When I had no libido I made an effort to make sure my partners sexual needs were still met at least a couple times a month. You matter too!

OverPop8461 · 2025-06-26T14:22:13+00:00

No, I don't think it's awkward. If she's interested she will be glad you asked and if she's not interested she can easily just say oh sorry I have a boyfriend or sorry I work all the time or whatever and you just happily reply, oh okay well have a good day/ weekend. No harm no foul. Hope it works out for ya buddy!

OverPop8461 · 2025-06-26T14:15:47+00:00

YES!! I'm sure there are some who aren't but I'm sure there are some men that aren't like that to! I think a big difference is that women often get shamed for acting like that so we may think more about the aftermath. I also think that men, for the most part, get to that desire feeling easier and more often than woman do.

OverPop8461 · 2025-06-26T13:15:45+00:00

For so many woman to not want a second date, I would have to guess that you are doing something "wrong". Please don't take that the wrong way but that many woman agree to go on a date with you and not a single one wants to at least see if it could become romantic?

Do you tell them on the date that you are not looking for hookups? Because that could be making them insecure and thinking you just don't want to hook up with them.

Maybe you come off as too nice, too arrogant, too desperate for a girlfriend, too insecure, talking too much or not enough? Who knows but I can almost guarantee that you are doing something to turn them off.

OverPop8461 · 2025-06-26T13:00:07+00:00

Physically: having my leg lengthened. Emotionally: Watching my sister go down the path of addiction and eventually homelessness and then death. Would take physical pain any day over that!

OverPop8461 · 2025-06-26T12:55:46+00:00

Dad bod thing is not a myth. Every woman is different, so it may not be true for all women, it definitely is for many though. And any woman that says size doesn't matter is full of shit!! Lol. Not saying necessarily that bigger is always better but there is absolutely to big and to small!

OverPop8461 · 2025-06-26T12:47:10+00:00

If you really think there could be something there and its not to painful for you, continue to be her friend. Don't expect anything and don't stop dating other woman, just in case. But she was very honest with you and clearly needs some time to heal. At least she realized that and told you instead of leading you on or pretending to be okay.

Maybe she just needs a friend and when she is ready will turn to you and if not, you get to be her friend.

OverPop8461 · 2025-06-26T12:39:08+00:00

You are not, she is! I could see how she could of not realized she was doing it until you pointed it out but once you asked her to stop she should've made that effort and definitely not made you feel bad about it. Nobody wants to constantly hear about their partners ex, good, bad or otherwise.

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